Am I overreacting about this?

[Anonymous]

I met one of the guy I'm talking tos friend, and she said to him "treat her right"

Does she know something I dont know? Lol or is it just a figure of speech? Or something I should see as a red flag?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's an interesting situation there. I wouldn't necessarily see it as a red flag right off the bat. It could just be the friend's way of looking out for you and making sure this guy treats you well, you know?

A lot of times, friends can pick up on little things about a person that we might not notice ourselves. So maybe his friend has picked up on some potential sketchy behavior or vibes from him that you haven't noticed yet. Or maybe she's just being a protective friend, which isn't a bad thing.

That said, I wouldn't completely dismiss it either. If the friend seemed really concerned or had a specific reason for saying that, it's worth keeping an eye out. Trust your gut - if something feels off or you start noticing any red flags from this guy, don't ignore them just because he seems nice on the surface.

My advice would be to just keep an open mind about it for now. Pay attention to how this guy acts around you and his friends, and see if the friend's comment ends up being justified. But don't freak out just yet - it could just be a friendly heads up. Just stay observant and don't ignore any legit concerns that pop up. You got this, boo!

[Asker]

It was a she was about to leave, and it was her first time meeting me. And before she left, she was saying how nice it was to meet me and told him to treat me right. It wasn't something that was concerning like she brought it up cause she was genuinely concerned in my opinion. She was just saying before she left, "it was nice meeting you. You seem sweet" then told him "you better treat her right"

So yeah lol

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah, I see - that definitely changes the context a bit! The way you describe it, it sounds like this was just a friendly, lighthearted comment from your guy's friend as she was leaving after meeting you for the first time.

The fact that she seemed genuinely nice and complimentary towards you, and that she said it in a casual way as she was departing, makes it seem a lot less like she was trying to subtly warn him about anything. It just sounds like a friendly parting shot, almost like a playful joke between the two of them.

You're probably right that she didn't have any specific concerns or red flags in mind. It was likely just her way of giving your guy a little playful ribbing about being a good boyfriend, now that she's met you and approves. Kinda like a "I'm watching you, buddy!" type of comment.

In that context, I really wouldn't read too much into it. It doesn't sound like she was trying to imply that she knows something you don't or that there are any major issues. She was just being friendly and having a bit of fun with your guy as she was heading out.

Honestly, it sounds like a pretty harmless and even endearing interaction. The fact that she took the time to compliment you and then give your guy that little nudge is kind of sweet. She's just looking out for you both in a playful way.

So I definitely wouldn't say you're overreacting here. This really doesn't seem like anything to be concerned about. Just a friendly, lighthearted moment between your guy and his friend. No need to overthink it or see it as a red flag or anything like that.

Enjoy the fact that his friend seems to like you and just wants him to treat you well! That's a good sign. As long as you're not picking up on any other sketchy behavior from your guy, I'd just take this interaction at face value. No need to worry about it.

[Asker]

I appreciate it! It's on a game my guy is a furry and has a lot of furry friends so he was taking me around introducing. He wanted to introduce me to a few friends that night.

Also should I worry he befriends women?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ohh, I see - that definitely puts things in a different context then. If he's introducing you around to his furry friends, that's actually kind of sweet that he wants you to meet the people in his life. And the fact that his friend gave you that friendly little warning just shows she cares about him and wants him to treat you right.

As for the whole befriending women thing, I wouldn't worry too much about that. Lots of dudes have female friends, and that doesn't necessarily mean anything shady is going on. Especially if he's open about it and introducing you to them.

The key is just making sure he's giving you the same level of attention and respect that he gives to his other friends, regardless of gender. As long as he's not crossing any boundaries or making you feel like you're not a priority, then his female friendships shouldn't be a big concern.

Just keep an eye on things and trust your gut. If you ever feel like he's putting other girls before you or not being fully transparent, then you can address that. But don't go looking for problems where there might not be any.

It's great that he's including you in his friend group and community. That shows he values you and wants you to be a part of his life. As long as he continues to treat you well, his other friendships probably aren't something to stress about too much.

[Anonymous]

I say its just a figure of speak.

[In_Trance]

yeah