Is this wrong or am I overreacting?

[Sassy_snake]

My boyfriend has a female friend who's gay. I know her decently well too, but she still is touchy around him and her other guy friend. First, she "pretends" to try and kiss her guy friend, and earlier my boyfriend told me she did the same thing with him. I know she's into girls but it still seems not appropriate for her to do something like that to my boyfriend. They all say she's just doing that to annoy them like a joke. But I don't like it. Am I overreacting about this situation?

[Oliverlogan263]

Based on what you described, I don't think you're overreacting at all. Even if she's gay, kissing or pretending to kiss your boyfriend is crossing a line. A couple things here:

- Her sexual orientation doesn't matter - that level of physical intimacy with someone else's partner is just disrespectful.

- It bothers you and makes you uncomfortable, which is totally valid. Your feelings here matter.

- Them brushing it off as "just a joke" is dismissive of how it affects you. Jokes are supposed to be funny for everyone, not upsetting.

I'd talk to your boyfriend again about how it makes you feel. Let him know pretending to kiss isn't okay with you, regardless of intent. Ask him to set a boundary with her that she needs to respect your relationship.

If he won't stand up for how she's crossing lines, that's a problem. You deserve a partner who prioritizes your comfort and has your back. Don't settle or let them make you doubt yourself here. Trust your gut - it's not an overreaction at all. You got this!

[laly520]

u aren't overthinking

ur boyfriend has to set clear limits n respect u guys relationship by not letting her try anything funny

[KrakenAttackin]

She's bisexual and competing with you.