He cuddled with another girl on his bed, am I overreacting?

[ACW100]

Hi, I'm currently with an amazing person but we had a huge fight 3 days ago and I haven't talked to him since. I'm in Italy for an educational program, after a month I'll go back home to LA where my boyfriend is. Now here's the issue: He has a friend who is female which I'm tottally okay with but they are really flirty around each other but I still trust him. So couple days ago I open Snapchat and click on her (his female friend) story and see them both lying on his bed cuddling. He doesn't have a shirt on and she is wearing HIS clothes and they are in his bed and his head is on her shoulder with his eyes closed and she is smiling to the camera for the pic and she actually posted that. I don't wanna judge but I think she posted it only to make me jealous. Anyway I was furious so I called him the other day and we had a huge fight about it. He said that he was really sorry but didn't see this as any kind of cheating (which I never accused him of cheating I was just mad) and he told me that he didn't even think he had done anything wrong but he still apologized saying that he is sorry for breaking my heart but I was so angry I was yelling at him and hang up on his face and rejected all his calls and texts since that fight.
Note that he does love me, we have a very passionate relationship, the thing is he doesn't even like cuddling, I don't get it how he can do something that he hates and doesn't do it with me even though I love it and does it with another girl, I think this is emotionally cheating although I never told him that I think it's cheating. Am I overreacting? I truly love him and most of the time he is a very respectful, kind and lovely person. I don't know what to do, I can't even imagine breaking up with him but I'm just sooo mad and hurt it's crazy, also note that he has severe ADHD. Though I don't know if that would make any difference in this situation.
Sorry for writing so long but please help! Thank you

[BrittBratt2416]

He's not that amazing if he's cuddling up to another girl shirtless in bed with her wearing his shirt. Do you really think cuddling just happened? And even if it was just cuddling, he's doing it with another female who isn't you and that's crossing the line. This guy is taking advantage of you and the fact that you're out of the country at the moment to hook up with other women. This guy was stupid enough to put it on snap chat were you can see it, unless he wanted you to see to it so he can show you you've been replaced. How can you still trust him after that? You're making up so many excuses for this guy that your're willing to stay in relationship that with dude who don't even respect you. Who gives a shit if he has ADHD, ADHD don't make you crawl into the bed with another girl.. just.. wow. Girl you are 17 okay, you have plenty of time in the world to find a guy who actually wants to be in relationship with just you. Like seriously, stop sweating and wasting your time over this guy, you're in Italy right now-ITALY. There are but loads of cute italy dudes floating around and if not, just focus your program and going on adventures with friends while your still there. Forget this guy, cause if he cared and didn't want to break your heart or make up you up, then he wouldn't have didn't in he first place. So continue to ignore him, tell him good luck with your side piece, and throw up a peace sign and say deuces.

[BrittBratt2416]

PS. I wish I had the money to travel, Paris and Italy would be my number places to go.

[Comesaveme]

Im sorry but this is a dangerous situation and you might be heading for severe heart break if you do no take action quickly. If she was wearing his clothes she must have taken hers off sometime during the time she was on bed with him. Another thing, true they say it is just friend but that's how you and your boyfriend started out as well? Confront the girl as well, ask her where is the respect? Ask her to switch places with you and imagine how she feels? I would start crying even if my boyfriend touched a girl. I really think you shouldn't let this go. True, your boyfriend said sorry but actions speak so much more louder than words. Also, you said he doesn't like cuddling but did it with her? What the fuck? That is so suspicious and hurtful and I feel sorry for you.

[joeshi]

Babygirl, you do not deserve this. Whether it’s cheating or “not cheating” you do not deserve this. You have to know your self worth. Take a step back and think “do i deserve to be in a relationship where my guy is laying with other girls? Putting himself in a situation where he can easily cheat? Or even end having to be in the predicament where you have to be questionable whether he is or not?” NO! You shouldn’t babygirl, you should be confident in him and knowing that he won’t be “laying down” with other girls...

[joeshi]

That right there is mad disrespect and giving him a second chance or shit like that will give him the mindset thinking that he can do it again and get off the hook easily. He doesn’t deserve you. How can you be king and queen if he’s chilling with the peasants you know? You are QUEEN that’s YOUR WORTHY and for him to do that isn’t right. Tell me, would he be doing that right infront of you in the same room? No. He’s apologizing because he damn right knows that shit is wrong honey. In all , you have to have that self love knowing that you don’t deserve that type of issue. And you have every right to be upset, him that close and everything is just plain wrong

[Thetrueaussie]

Well, a player got caught playing the game. No, you should be upset about that. If I saw that (which all my relationships ended with cheating, sadly) I would bet he cheated. I always love to have hope and such. But how you described it sounds like he was not expecting you to catch him. And then he brought the point up of cheating which you dod not which kind of makes it seem lile he is more guilty. I would love to chat more about this!

[ACW100]

First of all I'm sorry for your relationships which ended like that, secondly it may sound stupid and naive of me but I am really sure he didn't have sex with her. I can't possibly know that by just hearing it from him but still I somehow do

[Thetrueaussie]

No I totally understand. You never want to believe it and that is good. Shows trust. Just I am very neutral on my feelings and I expect everyone to do anything they please regardless of parameters. Just my faith in people nowadays is very low because of how people treat people hahaha. Just follow your heart. Because you will know when to let go. Good luck. If you need to talk about it anymore or somebody to chat about it add me on snap Thetrueaussie. I would love to go into depth and maybe help you with this. Haha

[BigAl1982]

This dude sounds guilty af. It's natural to give the benefit of doubt but come on! You have photographed proof he's pounding guts behind your back. Just my $0.02

[Anonymous]

Sorry but they weren't just cuddling. They hooked up. Even if they were "just" cuddling, that's still unacceptable.
You don't cuddle with another girl, especially not half naked while she's in your clothes, if you love your girlfriend. At the very least, this was a very disrespectful thing to do.
It doesn't matter you amazing you think he is or that you love him. I know you don't want to hear or believe anything we're all saying but don't be blinded by your love for him. The fact is that you deserve better. Drop him.

[southerngirl88]

I would be mad if a guy I was seeing cuddled with another girl, and the fact that he was shirtless and she was wearing his clothes is particularly concerning. Why would he need to take his clothes off if they were just cuddling. Also the fact that she posted a picture like that with another girls boyfriend is just crazy

[MzAsh]

You need to lay down the law. People like to have their own definition of cheating so don’t mess with that word. Tell him that you find their interaction inappropriate regardless and that if he wants to continue that then you will not be in the picture. He’s testing his boundaries with you and enjoying her attention so you need to lay it on the line for him which lines he shouldn’t cross.

[Missterio]

and Im just wondering if he took his shirt off on purpose for her to have all the trouble to go take hers off in the bathroom, without him seeing her, putting on his shirt and finally getting out of the bathroom to go cuddle and take a picture without any boobs being seen.

major gymnastics.

[Girly1710]

This is something I personally could not look past. I’d be done with him. And if I was in Italy as this all went down I’d be very interested in finding someone else to cuddle. Though I feel like Italian men are shown to be big players a lot of the time but if it’s a one time thing anyhow then whatever

[PinkMichae]

He f'cked up big time. He cheated and now you got to figure out if you're gonna let him play you like that. I know it hurts but there's a man out there that won't disrespect you like that. I'd break it off if I were you.

[dandaman62]

wearing his clothes is the nail in the coffin on this one, sorry.

[rgb008]

You are not over reacting.
he's topless and she's wearing his clothes.
They fucked.
Tear them both to shreds, girl. U got dis.

[loveisthename]

I skipped the part you say he does love you. The whole he was half naked and had her cuddling in his bed, what's that ? He knew exactly what he was doing and had no regret and no fear of pissing you off. Forget about this apology, it's superficial.

[babaganoosh]

You are either being emotionally manipulated or out right fooled. When in Rome, do as the Romans, enjoy Italy and all it has to offer, go cuddle with an Italian boy after a long night of getting the stupid fucked out of you.

[thomascale18]

Are you sure he wasn't cheating because it sure sounds like it. You weren't overreacting and I think you should break up with him. There should be certain boundaries when you're in a relationship.

[Miristheiss]

It sounds inappropriate (him getting cuddly with another woman). If he crossed a boundary for you than state it and don't back down. If he won't respect boundaries than you may have to leave him.

[Anonymous]

Cuddling in bed, wasting his shirt wow girl and you’re still thinking of staying with him after you both were in a committed relationship. Sorry but i would have kicked his ass to the curb in less then one minute not even thinking about it.

[BlueDream]

Sounds like something my man and I do after we have sex. He ends up shirtless cause I'm wearing it. You deserve better!

[lord_chilled]

Cuddling, eh?

Well, i got some bad news for you...

[Anonymous]

ADHD doesn't affect how they're in a relationship. But I'd be pissed off too. I mean why's his top off for a start? And if they're just friends why do something you won't with your girlfriend?

[ACW100]

Actually ADHD does affect relationships so much but that's just another topic haha we have faced problems with his Evers ADHD too but I don't think this whole "cuddling situation is because of his ADHD

[Opinion Owner]

Must be different people affect differently then as my boyfriend also has it but is fine?
But anyway, still doesn't really excuse it as isn't really something to be not seen as wrong

[crazy8000]

I can put it like this.
An ADHD individual that really loves and respect you, you couldn't find a more loyal person.
All the words (exuses and so on) can't be trusted, only what someone do, a lot of ADHD indevidual that are threatened say a lot of shit to get it back on track.

[Greaver]

If your in a relationship then you should only cuddle with the one you date and if I had a girl like you I would be sad to be without you but that’s just me

[Missterio]

Ook... This would be grounds for breaking up, for me.

[Anonymous]

Do the same to him see how he reacts? Seriously though it is out ignore order and would be surprised if something hasn't happened, sounds he loves you and messed up. What is your gut feeling

[AlwaysBelieving]

I don't think you're overreacting.

Time to have a talk on what you both think of as emotional cheating.

[tribalwulf]

You have every right to be upset. What were they doing that she had his clothes on?