I have known "H" for about two years from common friends-it was kind of a set up. My friends said he likes me but is really shy with girls (though he was 25 then) and I would have to initiate the whole thing. I passed the offer, didn't feel right. Shortly after, I got together with my boyfriend, a relationship that lasted for over a year, some of it long distance and I have been single for over six months. Since I have re-joined the singles club I have been flirting with different people, including "M", who is in the same group of friends and a close one of "H". "M" and I almost went on a date two months ago but both of us had to cancel on different occassions till communication died. "H" has been dealing with his own relationship which ended two months ago. He really was in love with that girl. Coming to last week, I reunited with the group and was again flirting with "M". However, "H" re-entered my radar: he stared at me a ton (before I even spoke to him), laughed at all of my jokes, imitated my moves and speech. At the end of the night he even hinted I help him get to his place, passing it as a joke. "M", my supposed romantic interest was colder, even pet me on my back instead of a cuddle. At one point, "M" made an offensive remark which put me off completely. I admit, a potential with "H" was another reason I took a step back from "M" (who, by the way, texted me if we could meet up but I declined). I have to admit here that I wasn't exactly innocent as after I 'noticed "H" noticing me', I was talking to both of them and at some point I even suggested that I leave "M" and go hug "H", instead. Now I want to see "H" but I am wondering: Does he think of me as a potential sexual adventure/rebound, considering his recent breakup and my, let's call it "Fun" personality? If you felt attracted to a girl who likes to play, could you still eventually date her if you have things in common? I may play hard but I also love hard. Please, your thoughts. *Thanks for reading*
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In the beginning I meant fix up, not set up.
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Hey everyone! Sooo, after careful consideration, with the help of your input, I believe the best policy for now is to take it slow. I will just focus on the one I am interested in next time I meet them, probably in a couple of months. Hopefully, the rest of the story will become irrelevant for those involved. I don't know if I will manage to save face but I will certainly be more confident. Thank you for all your help!!
Best,
Mina
Best,
Mina
