Open communication is key when in a relationship. The fact that you're wondering if you should tell him or not, means that it is bothering you even if just a little. Not only that but what happens if down the road you don't tell him, it keeps bothering you all that time because the friend is around and out of the blue the friend mentions it.
Even if just as a, "Hey you remember when we..." or perhaps brings it up as a joke around you and your boyfriend. Chances are if things will get rather awkward between you and your boyfriend. Perhaps they won't get awkward and everything will continue without any issue. But if you don't tell him yourself now and eventually it comes out, your boyfriend "might" wonder if you're silence about the topic means that you've been fouling around all this time behind his back.
Where as telling your boyfriend now and letting him know that it was the one time thing and that you are completely loyal to your boyfriend.(don't say it didn't mean anything, that might come across as trying to hard)
Letting him know this even if it's something that he previously said he didn't care to hear. Because chances are he may just say, ok, cool that's fine. Or he might ask you about it, wondering if it's still going on. He might thank you for letting him know, especially considering it was with his friend.
Overall letting him know on your terms is far better than wondering if the friend is going to say something even if just in some random conversation. Because again it's open communication. You'll be far better off in the long run.
No, I wouldn't tell him. Just keep that information restricted. Although honesty is the best policy, honesty can also hurt people. I was once in a situation similar to that. Nothing social related,... but more work related. I once had this fling with this one girl a few times while I was in college. The chemistry between her & I was no where near dead-on, but we did "have fun" a few times before we had a mutual break-up. About a year or so later, after I left the college life & began working in construction, I was working with this one guy who was at the time a foreman. He told me a little bit about himself such as he has a wife & kid. He did looked a little familiar to me, & I was trying to think,"Why does this guy look familiar?",... then it finally clicked in for me. This foreman who I worked closely with,... he's the same guy who I had "fun" with his wife way before those 2 bet & became a couple! Once it clicked in,... I immediately thought,"Okay,... I'm shutting my mouth & not saying a damn word to this guy!" Lucky for me I never saw his wife on the job site when him & I were present.
It is early days. No need to tell him yet. Wait until you know each other a lot better. If he still says he does not want to know, then do not tell him.
At some point, though, he may want to find out. Be truthful, and do not go into a LTR with secrets, unless he still insists on not being told.
If he doesn't want to know then don't tell him, but later down the line if he does then be honest with him, he shouldn't really have a problem with something that happened before your relationship anyway
I wouldn't bring it up unless he asked about your past.
But also think about how likely it is he will find out from this other guy, and decide if you want to do some damage control beforehand.
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Ask him if he would still not want to know if it were someone he knows. If he says he still doesn't want to know, then keep it to yourself. His friend may well tell him, but you 1) didn't hide anything and 2) respected his wishes on the topic.
There's no reason to tell him. The only thing it will do is possibly hurt him and/or their friendship for NO reason whats so ever. None at all. It was in the past, before you even met him, it's not an issue and there's no reason for him to know. Unless your afraid he's going to find out from this friend? But I think that's unlikely. You know already he doesn't want to know about your past, he's REALLY not going to want to know this!! If this is only to relieve yourself of whatever feelings you're having over it, I suggest dealing with them yourself and letting it go and getting over it however you can because all this is going to do is possibly damage your relationship, for no reason.
And... should he find out about it another way, then you can just be honest with him and say, "I didn't feel like it was important. You didn't want to know my past and it was before I had even met you.".
How exactly will that benefit him? He already told you he doesn't wanna know, so why the fuck would you tell him anyway? To make yourself feel better?
Yes. You didn't do anything wrong, it was before you even met him, but full disclosure is best. He will probably be upset, so brace yourself for that, but nowhere near as upset as he would be if he found out later on. If he really cares for you, he'll understand, at some point. His anger is gonna ride him for a little bit, but he'll come around. Honesty. Always be an open book or it's going to hurt you in the future.
The right thing to do would be to tell him and be honest.
And you should tell him that you have done hook ups/ONS too because some people don't agree with that morally and would reconsider if they should be dating someone that does that.
He will find out eventually, but will it be from you, or from his friend so he will feel like you are hiding stuff from him and not trust you?
It;s up to you.
If you he told you he doesn't want to know then don't tell him. If he finds out later and gets mad that you never told him all you'd have to say is that he told you not to tell him so you respected his wishes and didn't tell him. I also don't think telling him will be the best choice if he doesn't want to know because if he knew he might start to think that you still want to be with his friend. He probably knows this about himself so is setting himself up to prevent that from happening.
Lol wow that would start a fight with me for sure. My first girlfriend told me she was a virgin and I believed her for 3 months. I thought I'd be the first to defowl her and then later on, she admitted that she had dark days at parties in the past where she had sex with many other men in a massive orgy. Some of my friends as well. It was an immediate turn off and I broke up with her. Your sexual status does matter to many men (Especially if you're a girl) and if you wait and tell him, it only makes things much worse...
If he doesn’t want to know then don’t tell him.
Although it’s difficult to whether he’d feel like he’s dating used goods... either way if he does kick up a fuss after his friend tells him, you can say he didn’t want to know.
No, because its not his business. He presumably also don't tell who were his girlfriends either. Keep it this way.
At some point you either offer that info, or he will find out otherwise and feel you are hiding that from him. But wait till you are stronger and the relationship is definitely going somewhere,
Yes, because if you do go further with this guy, he'll find out through his friend, and he'll feel dirty.
... first does you boyfriend close friend with that guy?
sometimes some secret is better to be kept secret forever.
but for me it's more painful to heard it from others than my girlfriend about something like that.
Of course you should
Or else you'll always be with the guilt.
Also if he has problem with that, then it will crush him when he finds out
I wouldn't like to hear that, specially so early in a relationship
Hell no it's past don't even think about that... go with the flow Princess
No, because it could crush him, and not only that, it could lead to the end of his friendship. I lost two friends in college because two girls they liked ended up liking me, and my friends could never get over the fact that I got with their crushes.
No. Tell him if he asks or if the topic comes up, otherwise it's not necessary.
Yes u need to tell him... y'all dont need to hide anything from each other
Speak the truth to ur love ,,,
If he truly loves u he will forgive u,, and ur relationship will also become strong
Yes, better to find out from you than from his friend.
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