Should he had told me he slept with his friend before?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has a close female friend he has know 25 years that he talks to daily and sees a lot. She pops up at his house randomly and before we became official would stay overnight at his house on the guest room. He did not tell me in the beginning they had slept together about 6 years ago when they both went though a divorce. I do not think he has an romantic feelings towards her but I believe she still likes him due to how she has acted and not seeming to like me at all. Is disclosing their past sexual encounter something he should have told me from the beginning? He didn’t until I asked myself and then he told me yes it had happened. He told me he sees her like his crazy sister now and that it was a long time ago. He also asked why I asked and I told him it was comments she had made about seeing his junk when he was injured and how her ex thought they were when she was getting a divorce. She has been coming around a lot less the longer im in the picture but I’m uneasy about the situation.

[Anonymous]

I think this is grounds to not only be annoyed, but ask him to either drop her as a friend or really reign in how much he interacts. It’s cool if he genuinely isn’t attracted to her anymore, but her actions are troubling and if she still has feelings for him she will only cause drama in the future. Especially when she dislikes you for no reason, visiting and spending the night at his house, texting every day, it’s just super inappropriate. It was fine when he was single but he’s not anymore and boundaries need to be set at the very least.

[Asker]

The visit have gone down a bit and she no longer stays over. When she was around every day or other day in the beginning she now comes over maybe 2 to 3 times a week.

[Asker]

I am hoping with time she disappears for the most part

[Opinion Owner]

That sounds better, less concerning if their interactions are lessening🙏