Guys only? Do you actually care that much about boob/butt size, or is personality/overall vibe way more important?

[super_syd]

[MrOracle]

Younger guys - high school and to a lesser degree college-age, when they're less mature - tend to care about this a bit more, and it tends to be less important as guys get older.

I'm going to pull some numbers out of my butt based on my experience, and I'll say that maybe 20-25% of high school guys really care about these things, and that by, say, 22-23 (college graduate age), the number has fallen to 10-15%. These are guys who will ONLY date girls who fit their "standards" (or at least come close) for these body part sizes.

There's probably another 40% of guys who have preferences - meaning, if they can get get a certain boob or butt size, they'll try to, but they aren't going to make that a requirement.

And then there's the remaining 40-50% or so who, even if they have a bit of a preference, barely even consider that when choosing a girl, because other things are just far more important, and some of these guys simply have no size preference at all.

That's the big picture.

Now, let's talk about what's probably more relevant.

The guys that most girls find to be the MOST desirable guys - the guys who are tall, handsome, popular, have status, etc. - are the MOST likely to be shallow and have specific standards, and they're also the least likely to commit, and the most likely to cheat, because those guys will be selfish and self-centered. Why? Because they have almost endless options with women - most women want them, and if the girl they're with is upset or annoys them, they can dump her and replace her within a couple of hours. It doesn't matter how mean or cruel he was, or if he cheated on his last 20 girlfriends - most girls will ignore all that because they're so attracted to him, and of course, he ends up treating her just as badly - and the cycle continues.

I grew up being close friends with a guy who was in a band - at 11, he was the lead singer/bass player and youngest brother in a band that played every weekend to a packed pizza place, and at 12, they were playing at fairs and opening for B-tier bands, and at 13, they won a video contest on MTV, back when MTV was the center of the universe.

By the time he was 22, he'd slept with between 1500-2000 women. Literally in high school, girls would brag to other girls about having slept with him - he didn't brag himself because he didn't have to. He was surrounded by women almost everywhere he went - he used to come over to my house and play video games just because there were no girls bothering him.

My point was: all of those women knew he'd slept with hundreds or thousands of other women. They knew he never dated any of them, and wasn't going to date her either. They knew he was only using her for sex - and yet they readily signed up for it. That's what most women do, and then they wonder why the guy doesn't date them or respect them (and why so many other guys don't respect them either).

If you go after the tall, hot, popular guys, expect to be used and discarded, and expect the next couple of tiers of guys not to respect you either. You're never going to find a relationship that way.

Relationships happen with the more average guys. That may not be what you want to hear, but it's the truth. You can live your life however you want, but your outcomes will reflect your choices, and there's no escaping that fact.

[Chazmatazz269]

Personality is always more important, but physical attraction is the primary driver for all potential mates, male and female. This is a simple fact of evolutionary biology. The best way to ensure a continuing bloodline is to make beautiful offspring. People, mostly women, often lie to themselves and others about this fundamental truth of design because suggesting that they value personality over physical attraction gives them a false sense of moral superiority. Then boys get frustrated when female behavior doesn’t match their words. The girls hold out for the most beautiful boys to the same extent that the boys chase the most beautiful girls. That’s just how it is. That’s how it’s always been. It’s most likely how it will always be.
Once physical attraction is mutually established, males will select for loyalty and child rearing abilities. Meanwhile women select for the ability to accumulate resources. These are the factors most likely to change with our behavior as we continue to evolve. As more women earn more, they less need men who can accumulate resources. This gives some men some freedom to be more active in child rearing. But at their core, making beautiful babies is the first most important factor in selecting for mates. We can dispatch with the social morays that deliberately obscure that simple fact of life.

[Screenwriter]

I'm answering because I have butt, leg preferences about men, but if a great man came in a package that didn't fit my preferences, I think I'd choose the man over those physical preferences... You can remove this if you think it's worthless.

[ᴍᴀʀʀɪᴇᴅɪsʟᴀᴍɪᴡᴏʀsʜɪᴘ]

Areal man won't see you as a sex object; he'll love you and protect you.

[lightbulb27]

It matters throughout life after pubert. it isn't the only thing and size and proportion isn't the only thing. But some women whom were not of the shape that fits in my brain... had a hard time going towards and so failed, when they were really high quality person, I liked and maybe should have had attraction, but didn't. As well, there's' some very shapely that are repulsive personality.

It's some kind of formula, I'm sure a mathmetician could figure it out.

B / Bu + Pers * Values = 0

lol... that ain't even close...

[Adam_INTJ]

It's kindof like asking if the spark or wood is more important to a fire. If you're missing either, you’re stuck in the cold. However, they're important in different ways.

Physical beauty is like the advertising of the product.

Personality and values are like the price, product description, and reviews of the product.

The advertising catches my attention and gets me excited about the product. The price, description, and reviews tell me whether it's something that I should actually have in my life.

I think we've all had the experience of seeing a great ad for something that looks like a great thing to buy, just to find dealbreakers in the reviews and description.

I personally won't pursue a girl solely or mostly because of her personality, but I will definitely friendzone a really cute girl over an irksome personality.

I'll pursue a girl over her physical beauty, but only to find out if her other factors like personality and values are good.

Beauty is temporary, but ugly doesn't go away either, so I don't want to start off there.

Keep a healthy body weight and some decent muscle mass and you'll be ahead of most women in the western world, regardless of your sexual assets.

[HawkPerception]

This was extremely well put

[Adam_INTJ]

@HawkPerception Thank you!

[Lliam]

A women has to have a figure for me to be initially interested.
Her boobs need to be big enough for me to tell that she has some when she is clothed. My ideal is a bust measurement that is at least 5" greater than her under-bust.
Her hips don't have to be wide. They could measure 35" as long as they measure at least 10" more than her waist. Full, round butt cheeks are preferable. But I'm not into super wide hips or thunder thighs.

i obviously don't take measurements. I can just tell by a woman's figure if I find it attractive.

Once I get to know her, her personality and overall vibe are very important.

[Summeroflove]

Men who only focus on these things tend to get women who are only into their appearances. Because…. Most women aren’t skinny while naturally having big breasts and asses. And how are these women paying for these things? Because a lot of times they’re working menial jobs if working at all. Unless you consider getting money from men or doing OF is working.

A woman’s character says a lot more then physical appearance. But if you only wanna meet women at bars and clubs and degenerate parties. Good luck mate

[Twodogs0525]

When in high school, not to brag but I will, I was above average looking and popular. I also had a huge crush on a girl that was chunky but she was amazing! We dated for a period of time and trust me, I wasn't the only guy that liked her. It's easier to "get to know" someone in a school setting, so you can see beyond the physical appearance, because you're more confined. That's why a lot of less than attractive guys would have attractive girlfriends lol.. It's the same at the work place if there's a diverse group. Otherwise, in a club setting or other public settings, physical appearance is what a person is initially attracted by, so if you aren't physically attractive, it's gonna be harder for someone to spend time getting to know you. I guess I didn't answer your question. For me boob size never mattered. I do like a fit woman but have dated less than fit women based on their personalities and just how they carried themselves.

[HawkPerception]

It's not so much the size as much as the shape. I like perky proportions. Her boobs and ass can be small, but if they're perky and she has a nice figure, that's what I consider attractive. Obesity is not attractive in the slightest.

But when it comes down to it, it doesn't matter how hot you are if you have a shitty personality. And a lot of the time, even when you're not the best looking, your personality can make you a lot more attractive.

Personality is definitely more important, but they're both important aspects. And for me, a girl who refuses to workout and care for her appearance is a girl I don't want to be with. I want a girl who wants to look good not just for herself, but me too.

[Anonymous]

A million strippers can't be wrong.😆

Think about it. For all the big fake boobs that strippers have. How many guys do you see dating or marrying strippers? That should tell you all you need to know about a woman's boobs and butt to a man. Strippers are a fantasy. But you don't marry a fantasy. Young guys are more likely to be attracted to a nice rack or a traffic stopping booty. But if a guy doesn't grow out of that he's destined to have a hard unhappy life. In short most guys grow out of this. At the end of the day you just want somebody who's like minded. Somebody you can relate and talk to. Somebody you can face life with together.

[dantheman1118]

This is kind of a loaded question. I'll do the best that I can.

Do we care about boobs and ass? Yes, of course. Is it the most important thing, probably not. I can't speak for all men out there but when you ask (I'm gonna paraphrase) "or is it more of the personality vibe?" I know my self and any other guy I know do not base getting involved with strictly on personality either. The deal is you gotta have a fair mix of both. But that doesn't mean you have to have huge tits. Guys like myself prefer small tits. My point is the tricky part is having the right combination for the right guy.

[Angelo75]

Well consider it a good way to filter the good guys from the "less reliant" ones.

You see, when people try to get into relationship based mostly on looks, eventually that looks fade away. Especially when you consider how someones body is when they're in their teen years, compared to when they are later in life.
So if u're looking for long lasting relationship, try to filter out the less reliable potential partners.

The long-term reliable guys will pay a LOT of attention on ur personality/overall vibe.

[FunkyMonkee]

A nice looking ass is cool but size is not important, as long as it's not too big!!
I would PREFER a set of C cups or bigger (DDD is a bit too much) but, no matter their size, they can always be grown, if she wants to.
I used to have a mad crush on a girl named, Sheryl Hubbard when we first met at Cedar Point in `78 and I have NO CLUE how big her tits were!! What sold me was her personality!! She had a GREAT sense of humour and was a lot of fun to be around!
Unfortunately, she was already dating another guy that worked there who looked like he modelled for the Beagle Puss glasses!!
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[ohsheeT]

If you can speak with your eyes if you have a good heart if you smart wise and you care about things your in control of your self and your happy that's all that's needed I would want to date you for all the above but I'm not going to date you just because of your boobs or butt

[NathanDavis]

I don't really care about sizes, no...

I've had four girlfriends before, and they were all of different sizes and body types too

so yeah, I am definitely into the personality and vibes much more, that's the definitive factor

and she better be funny/have a sense of humor, lol

[Anonymous]

Yes looks overall matter first. More then likely if you don’t have the looks you’re not going to get the attention. So your personality never gets to show itself. Only then after he finds you attractive will he purse you. That’s when personality comes in. I don’t comprehend how a lot of women can’t understand this. Look at social media. You have a lot of young women with asses up the ying yang and bit tits with thousands of followers. Followers who are more than likely men. But they k ow nothing about the girl’s personality other then what she post o my which is kore then likely a front for views. So yes overall looks usually come first. The ones it may not matter to so much are usually dudes who can’t get women like that, so they take what they can get. Her looks will get her through many doors. Her personality will get her kicked out if she’s got a bad personality. At that point she’s just for fun in a lot of men’s eyes.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

It really depends on what is the age of guy you are asking and also his personality.

Boobs and butt sure do attract but the personality and vibe is how he would treat you will give you clear indication what's his intrested in this is not a straight forward yea or no question.

[David318578]

I actually like a smaller boob tighter ass. But big and curvy is a lot of fun as well.

The one thing that has always looked odd to me is a girl that is very petite, decided to just work out her ass and legs. It looks so odd having a huge ass on such a small frame, she would look so much better just having a normal sized ass based on her body type

Are you self conscious about your body?

[Zack-Bann]

Guys see boobs the same way girls see penises


Any average size is perfectly fine.
Too microscopic is a bit strange.
And too big sounds like fun at first but eventually you realize it’s overrated


Butts are almost the same way but the standard is a bit higher for “form”
If she’s flat as a board from behind it can be seen as negative especially since any girl no matter her size can get a rounded backside with just a few squats a day

[Berethor]

Big natural breasts are nice, but I care more about if she a good girl AKA a virgin.

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/I_Have_Boobs_-_You_Must_Obey!

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Nature_Adores_a_Virgin

[Fireguy17]

personality above all.
I never had a boob fetish, so size does not matter.
Here is a dirty little secret, your body will change over time, add a couple 2 3 kids and look out.
However, who you are is pretty much who you are.
Some people are good at hiding who they really are, but the true person will come out eventually.

[Alex-Snow]

The vibe wins any day. I may not be like a lot of guys. I prefer smaller boobs and a toned athletic butt but it is the person inside the body that matters to me. What have ur boyfriends said? What about ur view with guys is it all about penis size?

[Grond21]

Personality and character is drastically more important. That said, I also have a physical type. So they are important to me, but if there was a girl who was my physical ideal but didn't have a good personality or a character, it would already be a no-go.

Regardless, I am happily married to a beautiful woman.

[BruceWayne32123]

A nice butt goes a long way with me 😂 I work really hard on my body so I like a girl to be in shape as as well. But definitely need to personality to go with it.

[zagor]

Actually large boobs/butts are a turn-off for me. I want someone who is able to get out and do outdoors stuff (as well as indoors stuff) and I'm not referring to sex (at least not exclusively). So for me personality is infinitely more significant than big boobs/ass.

I guess my thing is really nice skin complexion.

[AviatorTom]

Size doesn't really matter to me, unless obesity is involved, or it's totally out of proportion with the rest of her body.

[LiamS95]

Unless a guy is really shallow the most important things about a girt are her personality, sense of humor, trustworthiness, honesty and I suppose there has to be some physical attraction although physical attraction can grow with time.

[SimonK56]

For me, I really don't care about a woman's physical attributes, it is really what's in her heart that counts, if she has a good heart, looks beautiful, and is smart to boot, that's an awesome winning combination for me, even more if she has an independent streak in her personality, but is perfectly willing to ask me for help if she feels she needs it.

[SimonK56]

Consider this: Women come in all sorts of shapes and sizes, there's no one singular perfect shape for a woman.

[DonaldDarko]

Her personality first and foremost. Everything else is just decoration. If her personality is no good you might as well not even talk to her.

[DryGermanGuy]

Of course the personality is more important, but still, give my hands something to do! 🤭👐

[OneViewpoint]

It's never one thing. It's the total package. No matter what any guy says.

Even if you just narrow it down to physical appearance, it's overall proportions and how everything blends into the whole.

[sawno]

As long as I find her attractive personality is the most important.
But I do have preferences for the more slim body types which includes boobs that aren't to big.

[Finchie40]

To a Certain extent , yes , for us to be into a girl, we have to be attracted to her

[Staximus]

I care more about if I can be at peace with her and she's not a psycho, we actually have fun and laugh together, and she doesn't have a face like a bulldog

[strateguy632]

Yes the men around me are like that. Most prefer the 'ample cabboose' if she has, then discovers personality and dump. If not ample, he wouldn't ever find if she is nice.

[BonzoInBitburg]

My wife and my two girlfriends before her all had tiny/no boobs that are arguably smaller than mine. Boobs will get a guys attention but won't make him stay.

[jamesgoldman]

Personally personality and intelligence were the winners back when I still dated

Oddly meant I was dating way outside my physical league

[RxR0954]

Can we practice not putting up pictures of children in posts like this?

[loveslongnails]

No one physical characteristic about a woman is enough to carry a relationship for a lifetime. Who you are and what you do matters most. Looks are great, sexy is better, but if you don't vibe with someone, you have nothing.

[YourExLover69]

If I love personality of a girl it means she's is my type and marriage material 😍

So good behavior, good personality, loyalty and our chemistry matters most. Size of butt and boobs aren't that much important when loving a girl.

[Anonymous]

Personality is way more important. But I'd also point out that different guys like different sizes. So it's not like people who deviate from the convention in that regard have to compensate in other areas.

[Anonymous]

The latter is infinitely more important. I want someone I can be happy with forever. Both of us will retain our looks for only so long. Obviously, physical attraction is needed, but everything afterwards is much more important.

[shortster]

I care more about butt size, as that is actually controllable most of the time. I prefer it be small. Whereas boob size is largely luck of the draw. That said, personality is way more important than looks.

[insatiable_curiosity]

While nice aesthetics may get someone's foot in the door, one's personality is often more important.

[stratford]

I have a preference for the shape and look of a girl, but I truly care about her personality and our emotional and sexual compatibility.

How do you feel about guys?

[Brady]

4 me it's personality n looks. I don't no about othr guys.

[Nikki1989]

Most men will always say they don't care, but in reality they really do.

[Hagar88]

Not as much as you might think. We notice boobs big or small

[Billlewis]

Everything is a factor, but she kind of needs to have a big butt.

[dean55au]

I prefer small breasts and a cute ass but I also don't mind bigger at all.

[Danny_dan92]

Physically? Pretty face and nice ass.




Personality I think having a good sense of humor is golden

[Drumlin2001]

Dosent bother me. Personality is much more important

[WonderingManII]

I care but it is on the same level as personality.

[snermcger]

Nah. The physical stuff fades so fast. What keeps a guy around are the girl's personality and actions.

[Snowman84]

Boobs and butts aren’t deal breakers in and of themselves. Small breasts are great on certain body types

[Twalli]

If she's not attractive, personality won't be enough. Looks get a girl the first date, personality gets her a relationship.

[Theejerbear]

honestly I don’t care not even a little bit like I’m attracted small boobs and big boobs. I’ve been turned on by ladies with huge breast and girls that don’t have barely anything.

[Vegasrunner]

Boob and butt size. Real men dont care about a women's personality.

[Wiredone]

Personality is more important than boobs and butt size

[Anonymous]

I don't care about boob or butt size, if I like her face, hair, and eyes, the first thing I check out are her legs.

[Dat-Alpha-Lion]

Boobs and butt are a bonus. The wardrobe can make them look nicer.

[888theGreat]

She looks 15, is this really Donald Trump posting this question?

[Raydergman26]

Areal man won't see you as a sex object, he'll love you and protect you and marry you and keep you safe.