How do you get rid of shyness?

How do you guys manage not to be shy, especially when you're doing new things or even just normal stuff that makes you super nervous, haha?

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How do you get rid of shyness? How do you guys manage not to be shy, especially when you're doing new things or even just normal stuff that makes you super nervous, haha?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Honestly? You just have to get rejected so much that being rejected doesn't even hurt anymore. I mean, sure, your pride will hurt. But you realize they're not even rejecting you, they're rejecting their PERCEPTION of who they THINK you are. At that point you just kind of shrug, giggle, and walk away. Because you realize, "hey, their loss". And you can't be upset because why would you want to date someone that never even understood what a wonderful person you are.

Once you realize rejection isn't anything but one person's opinion you realize there's no reason to be. Honestly them saying yes is scarier.😆 But hopefully you didn't just go after a pretty face and you'll actually have something to talk about.👍

slatyb · Accepted Answer

One day it hit me -- if other people aren't talking to me, and I'm not talking to them, then we're both shy. Then I started introducing myself: "Hi, I'm... What's your name?" People LOVE this. I get the best service in coffee shops, bars, and restaurants because I greet people by name. Try it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

There is every kind of book, class, video, support group, counselor, teacher, organization, you name it to help people learn how to be confident. Most of them are free. Anyone who does not do one or more of these things has only themselves to blame.

Here's one of the most famous:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/0Bzh4NOqf9b_jeGJnNGlPRVJtNnc/edit

You don't need to sign in to download it (pdf)

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Most people who seem "natural" at social stuff are often just using specific strategies to navigate their nerves. Once you master that skill, the rest is easy.

Anonymous · Answer

I haven't been able too. Normally, shyness doesn't effect me. When I like a girl enough, I apparently shut down. I was able to muster some confidence with one girl, but her reaction has made completely unable to ever approach another women again.

Mike_Hum · Answer

You get not shy by forcing yourself to not be shy. And finally start to realize that most people are so consumed with their own lives, thoughts, worries, hopes, dreams and emotions that they really don’t bother themselves with what you’re doing.

Desi_Butcher · Answer

It's about getting out of your comfort zone and not caring about what others will think. Until you're conscious about what other's are gonna say you'll be shy..

exitseven · Answer

Sometimes you just got to put on your big boy pants and take that fear that is in the emptiness of your stomach and go for it. It's a leap of faith.

bowenw · Answer

I force myself to do things I'm nervous about as a way to build some confidence. Eventually those things are less scary.

snermcger · Answer

Alcohol and public nudity.

MasterKS · Answer

He needs to grow up.

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