Is a guy ever too busy to text?

Question

I’ve been seeing this guy and we text everyday. Of course we are grown and have jobs so I don’t expect him to text me all day everyday. But yesterday I replied to his text at 3pm and he didn’t answer it until the next day at 10am. He apologized and said he was super busy and asked about my day. But should I be reading this as lack of interest? It’s pretty easy to send a text especially when work is done for the day.

HollyK21 · Accepted Answer

If texting is your main form of communicating then that’s gonna get old, and fast. Topics will be exhausted, conversations become repetitive and boring. That’s why if you aren’t already then you two should start stepping away from so much texting and try hanging out more in person. I mean that’s typically the goal when you’re seeing someone, right? To go from seeing each other here and there to it being everyday because eventually you’ll be in a solid relationship, living together and so forth. Progression.

On top of that, like Spartan said, men don’t usually like texting so much. I think back to when me and my fiancé started dating, we really only checked in to say good morning/night (because we weren’t living together yet), then maybe once or twice throughout the day to tap in while at work. Aside from that it was either a phone call or hanging out.

itsannalee · Accepted Answer

Some people aren’t that into text especially older people who busy work. Some just not really into you, that’s why reply for your messages isn’t their priority.

You can tell it when you with them, if he barely touches his phone he maybe really not into text person. But he he active on his phone while with you, it’s just because he isn’t interested to.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

Texting is notoriously awful communications, you can read this site to confirm that. Next you be asking "what does this text mean?". Stop doing that, establish some reasonable lines of expectations and protocols, namely talking and meeting. texts can maybe fill in the voids.

The other option is to go further back to your ancestors and use smoke signals, but they are equally difficult to translate.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

When I am working I am working and I don't allow my concentration to be distracted from my objective. I can be in an almost meditative state. At times it is almost a fight to stay focused on solving technical problems.

I see that it took over night to respond. For me, I don't stop at 5 pm.

If your guy is like me, then it is not a big deal.

HawkPerception · Answer

Within the whole day? No. It's a BS excuse. They choose not to text because they don't want to. They have time to message back which takes less than 20 seconds during any meal, taking a shit, relaxing when they're back home, or whenever. Everyone has at least an hour or two of spare time per day.

DishLady · Answer

(First of all, I LOVE your hair. Zowie. Ok, back to the question, but I had to mention. Kuddos.)

No, sometimes a guy is legit busy. It just FEELS like an eternity bc you like him.

If he consistently takes 12+ hours to reply to a quick "Hey, how's your day going" then he's being a drama monger and just stop texting him.

Today's Friday. DO NOT text him. See what happens.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Mental strain it exists, there is no purpose to texting someone back if you aren't in the mindset to do it.
It has nothing to do with no interest. Unless they ghost you forever or only give short replies and repeatedly leave you hanging without much of an excuse.

beenherebefore · Answer

It can definitely happened. I've been so busy before that only bothered to answer text messages on my days off. If I were you I wouldn't be waiting and constantly checking your phone all the time expecting his message, that will make you overthink and assume stuff that is not necessarily happening.

Rangers · Answer

All signs are pointing to him dating other girls. I'd move on, people who date around like that don't respect the people they date, and they'll almost certainly cheat, too. Cause he clearly doesn't even respect you enough to be honest with you.

Walk away, let him be alone and miserable when he regrets it after you find someone else and he's still trying to get a second date with some skanky rich girl

bowenw · Answer

I think a guy that is into you will reply quickly unless he has a valid reason, like he's an astronaut on the way to the moon where there is no cell service or internet.

YourExLover69 · Answer

In my opinion people aren't serious in online world. They ghost and stop texting eventually. That has happened to me all time. As I was looking for love n friendships in online world.

As far as I'm concerned I'd never stop or ghost a girl I find interesting... They usually stop replying 😒😒 otherwise I'm a chatty regular guy though I'm also busy and do work but I try to reply as soon as possible no matter what happens.

spartan55 · Answer

You should read it as texting sucks and guys typically hate it.

linka_pat307 · Answer

Ig relationship and time change doesn't mean people don't value us... we just have to adjust to the small changes that come with it. Am sure his job is taking his time, talk about it and find solutions or suitable time to talk

RingOfFire · Answer

Hey, just because he's making an arrest of a violent criminal in the middle of a mob riot with buildings on fire all around him doesn't mean he can't take a few seconds to send a text if he really cares!

AviatorTom · Answer

Unlike most women, men are not slaves to our phones. I often don't even see a text until hours after it was sent.

236color · Answer

No, do not read this as lack of interest. If he wasn't interested he wouldn't have replied and certainly wouldn't have apologized.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Is a guy ever too busy to text? Can't speak for all guys but when I'm at work I don't engage in texting or calling. Unless it's an emergency my job takes priority.

jshm2 · Answer

Yes. Always. If anything, if a guy is texting too quick it should be a red flag He is either too eager, or a jobless bum.

supercutebutt · Answer

It sounds like you are in the gloryhole stage of your relationship, to be honest with you.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Sometimes people forget.. but I kind of think it is showing lack of interest..

Vegasrunner · Answer

Typically rule of thumb for HV men when texting a girl. Text no more than twice a day and never return a text after 9pm wait till the next day.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. Sometimes people are too busy to text. But it does probably mean you’re not a top priority for him.

douride2 · Answer

Like many people I am to busy or just forget about hearing the text or simply miss it.

Anonymous · Answer

I am too busy to text all the time, so some guys must be too busy sometimes.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Not if he wants to lay his #boyjoy on a chick !!!

AskNaomie · Answer

As an ADHD type of girl I can't be mad at ADHD type of guys. I dont know if thats the case but I sometimes just get lost im sorry.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Is he normally up that late?

genericname85 · Answer

yes absolutely. people tend to have a life.

Anonymous · Answer

Are you a mute? Can't talk?

In_Trance · Answer

Why didn't you call him?

888theGreat · Answer

I don't text period. Email me or call.

robocop666 · Answer

he sounds busy

Chocolatetwopoint3 · Answer

yeah people r busy

Anonymous · Answer

Yes.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah

Jeff51 · Answer

I text daily

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