Situationship from hell?

[Anonymous]

This is a long story I don’t have the emotional capacity to type… he gives me a lot of mixed signals. We say I love you, we cuddle and share a bed… he says he just wants to be friends and doesn’t wanna have sex with me. It’s all confusing, but I agree to friends. I’m just struggling with my sexual feelings. We do very intimate, couple like things and it’s hard to just see him as a friend. I wanna jump his bones. What do I do?

[RespectfulGuy]

I read your replies to other Opinions.

And I think he's playing hard to get. 😅

Deep in, he wants sex. But he's holding back perhaps he has a medical issue or a past that still hurts.

And if you like him or loves him, then I suggest be patient and stop asking for intimacy.

Instead, play his game. Restrict the extent of intimacy. Example, only kisses on the cheeks and holding hands. No touching of body parts that arouses you.

Very soon he'll caved 😂

And if he's truly saving sex for a noble reason, then perhaps he's a keeper. You observe and decide.

To conclude, usually guys want more when cones to intimacy. If he's not gay, then seek out an opportunity to find out why. This will give you a satisfied mind. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

To manage your sexual frustration, you must enforce physical distance to break the intimacy loop; stop sharing a bed and cuddling immediately, as these activities trigger the oxytocin that makes you want more.

Since he has clearly stated his lack of sexual interest, continuing these "couple-like" rituals only keeps you in a state of unrequited longing You need to prioritize your own peace by setting firm physical boundaries like moving to the couch or limiting touch to allow your brain to recalibrate and stop viewing him as a romantic prospect

Good luck

[SueShe]

You do the only right thing to do in that case. If he is not interested in fornication but you are, then there is incompatibility and in this case, you simply separate and each one goes his/her own way. As simple as that.

He is a gentleman that does not just want to copulate but prefers to have someone as a friend and you are the kind of person that prioritizes physical intimacy. It is not going to work out.

There are way not enough men like him that are interested in just being platonic friends and don't jump every woman they see. You should actually be happy about having such a friend.

[Asker]

I’m very thankful for that, but he messes with me mentally. He gives very mixed signals and does NOT act like a platonic friend. It’s hard to not want to be intimate when you’re essentially building a life with someone…

[SueShe]

I understand your point of view. I have the feeling this guy is testing you and wants you actually to make the first move. I don't like the idea that he messes with your feelings because to me, that would be the way a player would do because if something does not work out, he could always say that you are the one that wanted something from him and not the other way round.

[Plugs]

Wdym build a life?

[serious]

Well, I think the kind of relation you have with your male friend is something like romantic friendship. In romantic friendship there is no sex or sexual activities as it is non-sexual in nature. From what you have said this seems like romantic friendship is what you have with him. Romantic friendship also does not come under the category of committed relationships so it is just friendship but with romantic aspects.

Nevertheless, you have only 2 choices. If moving forward is important for you and you really want proper committment for him then have a discussion with him and let him know about your feelings and your thoughts. If he accepts that then it is good.

However, if he does not want to proceed more than being just this romantic friend of yours then either you should be fine with this as long as this can last or you have to break this relation and cease contact with him.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he is gay?

[Anonymous]

How does he look?

[MasterKS]

fuck with him.

[Asker]

And how do I do that? 🙇🏻‍♀️

[In_Trance]

Bang him