If a guy doesn't want me and thinks I'm unstable why would he ask me this?

[Anonymous]

I guess he wasn't feeling the date and decided to turn into a jack a** ... he said many hurtful things like "when was the last time you were intimate " "I'm scared to sleep with you because you'll be crazier " and " does your dad know you post those pics "

The top 3 things

It hurt my feelings because I wanted to be with him

[Screenwriter]

Hon, you wanted to be with him after he clearly said hurtful and inappropriate things to you on your first date? He was waving giant red flags at you.

Remember, it doesn't matter what you might want, as in sex with a person, if it's clear they are being abusive, get up and leave. He wanted the date to be over. Listen when people act this way. There's nothing but more in store for you later.

Don't know how carefully you screened this guy or he said one thing online and acted differently in person. But he didn't hide his disdain for you or the date. You'll waste less time and feel less put down. Good luck.

[Asker]

Yeah we were good before the date.. he made me feel safe.. I was the one who pushed him away in the beginning and he took on my challenge. I think I messed it up by being awkward or he just wasn’t into me and emotionally it’s been hard to let go. It’s been 2 years and I still feel hurt by it.

[Staximus]

This happened 2 years ago? It's time to move on with your life already

[Asker]

@Staximus yeah I am

[Screenwriter]

See a good therapist about why this behavior from a relative stranger has taken over your life! It may be some hangover from something else deeper. Worth your time and effort to find out!

[bobalife]

He’s a red flag. You dodge a bullet. He seems like someone who could become verbally or emotionally abusive if it went deeper tbh. Be with someone who actually respect and accepts you.

[OneViewpoint]

Let go of those feelings. Chad the Jackass just did you a favor. Imagine getting involved with a jerk like that. Are you up for 6 - 12 months of gut wrenching turmoil followed by a breakup? Count yourself lucky that guy was dumb enough to self identify on the first date. Go find a guy with a little more maturity and some social skills. You just dodged a man-baby.

[Asker]

He’s 10 years older than me.. he did not act like that… Maybe he felt that I didn’t want him I don't know

[OneViewpoint]

LOL, chronological age does not automatically confer maturity. Some men never grow into mature personalities. Some women too.

[OneViewpoint]

Also, you call him a jackass and list the "hurtful" things he said. And now you're apologizing for him. never mind anything I said, you two deserve each other. Enjoy your misery.

[Asker]

It was 2 years ago so it’s over but it still hurt… and he likes trans women

[live2dance25]

He’s being rude and a jerk. I wouldn’t suggest being with someone that’s inconsiderate of your feelings, even if you like him a lot.

[Lucianmagnus]

he was a lame for that part he said... tbh this was a blessing for yu cause he will be the one to use things against u that yuve told him intimately

[Asker]

He did use it against me because in the beginning I told him I wasn’t ready for anything serious and that my emotional and mental health came first and he said “how can I make you feel safe” and all this other stuff… he didn’t love bomb me it felt slow and genuine… so it really hurt in the end. Then I feel like him and my trans cousin talked behind my back after I confided in her about him… just anything to show hate and indifference towards me.. I genuinely wanted to be with him then. It really depressed me and destroyed my mental health. I wish I never knew him

[queenofcardio]

He wanted to hurt you.. It's possible that he still wants you. Even then , he sounds terrible

[Asker]

That was 2 years ago I doubt it. Plus he wants transgender women sexually ig

[Master_Debator]

So...

You just mad because he's right?

[Asker]

Right about?

[Master_Debator]

I mean... do you get crazier once slept with? Does your Dad know you post those pictures?

I can see why those questions would make you mad... but he's right isn't he?

... and him being right really makes you big mad huh? I mean, maybe you do get crazier and maybe your Dad doesn't know.

[Asker]

Because why does he care what my dad thinks about my pictures when I’m a grown woman?

He knew I struggled a bit with attachment because I told him that and I told him that’s why I wanted to wait

It was still rude and insensitive especially the pics part

[Master_Debator]

I mean... the question of "Would your Dad be proud of you doing this?" speaks further than just your Dad. Would any man be proud of you doing that? I mean proud... not lusting after you as a sex object. So this would basically be a statement of "I'm not proud of you doing this" and it's probably something your kids would get picked on about at school. Like literally it's something other men can use to poke fun at him. Feels powerful until you really think about it huh?

So with that said, these questions seem to be statement questions to me... it says something in question form because the answers are painful to begin with. He's basically ripping into you though questions.

Bottom line... I think he's just expressing that he wants you to stop being an online THOT and I don't know if he's directly asked you to stop posting the pictures, but obviously he's now feeling pride in that.

Am I making any sense or just another guy that shouldn't give a shit what your Dad would think? lolz

[Asker]

He never said “proud” he just asked if my father knew. My thing is why mention it if he had no intention of being with me? It shouldn’t concern him.

[Asker]

And to add to it he knew before he started talking to me…

He needs to go be with the naked transgender women he interacts with on twitter

[Master_Debator]

It should concern any man that wants to be standing next to you. We're the company we keep and all of that. Even other women will judge him based on what he keeps around. His ultimate intention of being with you may have been a final result of thinking about that.

To put it another way... I'd probably bang Carty B... but I'd probably bounce out simply because of how she's out there and the shit she's said. Extreeme example, I know... but you get it right? Bangable but not relationship material.

[Asker]

Cardi b? Lol

But again… he knew my pics etc before exchanging numbers… he knew I had mental health before because I told him… so he did all that to reject and disrespect me for what?

And I wanted to be with him. I would have stopped but he disappointed me so bad and it deeply hurt me

[Asker]

Plus him and my trans cousin are secretly talking so he definitely cared nothing about my feelings

[Master_Debator]

Yeah it's pretty clear he was just out to get tthe panties to drop... and moving onto your trans cousin like that. I think me dropping Carti B for Megan the Stalion and then some others is the smarter move.

He's playing a cold game that has no concern for your feelings... it's probably best to put him behind you and let him move on to the trans. lolz

Yuck... trans really? To each their own I guess. Would not be my choice.

[Asker]

Well I had told my cousin about him some months after he ghosted me and I think she went behind my back to get his attention… it made me really depressed like just feeling like I didn’t want to be here it hurt that bad..

[DextroShade]

This guy spotted the massive red flags you were waving around. The fact that you are still hung up on him even after this proves he was right about you.

[Asker]

Same for him. He can go find his tranny

[LiamS95]

It sounds to me like you escaped what might of been a bad choice as he sounds like a real jerk and was a big red flag waving idiot, saying mean, spiteful and inappropriate things to a woman that obviously had feelings for him.

[blackeagle007]

Girls say hurtful things too

[In_Trance]

doesn't matter. Stop interacting with him

[Hulk30]

seem's like deliberate Mind Game's

[Anonymous]

Wow that is really fucked up