Why isn't he affectionate?

[Anonymous]

My best friend has been in a relationship for 4 years now and the one thing she complains about is that her guy is not as affectionate. Like for example after sex she wants to cuddle and have him show affection she says he doesn't. So question for the guys why is that?

[Anonymous]

Because in general most men aren’t wired that way. Women please understand a lot of what you do or how you’d react or respond is not the same for us men. No it doesn’t mean her relationship is dead either. It’s dead when he stops taking care of her financially. Assuming he’s financially taking care of her. Overtime things become routine. A lot lot of times men don’t want to cuddle cause it’s hot as hell. I mean let’s face it most women don’t do the actual physical work of sex, it’s usually the man unless she’s giving him a. Blowjob. Men being emotional which is what you’re asking for is like men asking you to be stoic, probably not going to happen especially if you’ve been that way all your life. In the beginning sure men do all that stuff because men know that’s what women want. But men usually can’t sustain that throughout the duration of a relationship. People usually return to who they were. Sure a female could talk to her man. Saying I want you to be more romantic, more spontaneous to which he may do for a few weeks or even a month, but eventually most people go back to their state of being.

[spartan55]

Women will never understand the second sentence of your opinion. So frustrating.

[butterly248]

Their relationship is dead. I stayed with my ex for far to long. Tell her to let him go

[Asker]

True we just went to eat and she was telling me more but yeah it's something for her to think about if she wants to be with him long term

[slatyb]

Why is she still with him? What's the good part?