Why does my guy friend always asks me if he can live with me?

[Anonymous]

We’re both autistic and we’re good friends. He always asks if he can live with me every time he had a problem. It’s little problems. If it’s huge then that’s different. Last time was three weeks ago and he asked if he can live with me because his sisters yelled at him for leaving trash in the kitchen.

He asked me just now if me can live with me? I didn’t answer and I’m not going too. Plus I have homework and I’m recovering from a cold.

[Anonymous]

Little girl, he likes you more than just as a good friend. Thats what I think. Can you ask him? Maybe in a way he has not to answer direct. Maybe a mail or a letter or a message? If he tells you the truth you may not know but he has the option to tell you why he wants to.

[Asker]

I’m not answering! Everybody keeps telling me that he likes me and I should give him a chance.

[Opinion Owner]

Your life or their life? You can listen to what others say but make your own decisions for your life you live. :-)

[HollyK21]

Are you actually telling him no? Because maybe you just need to set that boundary and be firm about it. Tell him you don’t have room for a roommate and don’t need/want one.

[Asker]

Yes! I told him NO

[HollyK21]

Are you the same girl from the other post? How do you not see what an odd relationship this is to have with a guy that you don’t want to be with? You didn’t respond to what I said and I’m guessing it’s because you don’t have a good answer.

[spartan55]

@HollyK21
Can you link to that post?

[HollyK21]

I’m on my phone and not sure if I can link, but it’s the post where I commented under yours and she got upset, saying I called her out

[spartan55]

Ok I remember that one

[jahaims]

Learn to communicate. Avoidance is immature. He is autistic and is seeking comfort with someone that holds him less accountable than his family does

[bowenw]

He may believe if he lives with you he can do anything he wants like leaving his trash wherever he wants.

[Asker]

Oh hell no! I know he won’t disrespect us

[bowenw]

That is good.

[Anonymous]

What does being autistic have to do with anything?

[Asker]

Nothing. I’m just describing what we are