Why do men cheat?

[Anonymous]

And then when they get caught they cry and beg and all of a sudden they realize how much they love you and you’re the one for them and they’re sorry and that they want to change.

[Anonymous]

30-50% of men in relationships DO cheat. Another 30% want to cheat but don't, and around 20-30% of men have no interest in cheating. You ask why as if you don't get that those 30-50% of men in the first category don't measure love in terms of monogamy or sexual devotion. That's why most men cheat for physical satisfaction. Some will cheat because they feel mentally or emotionally neglected, but mostly, we get bored with the sex, often because you too are bored with us sexually.

I knew a savvy women who tried a little reverse psychology which she claimed worked. After she and her new boyfriend were dating for a while, she would tell him:

"look, don't take this wrong, but I know you're eventually going to want to cheat on me because you're a guy, and all guys do. But before you do, come tell me why. I want to know what I am doing wrong. Am I not taking care of you physically, mentally, emotionally - what? I'll probably say go ahead, fuck someone else, it's ok. But if you don't tell me and then do it, I WILL find out. I guarantee I'll find out, and when I do, I'll ruin you. Break up with me first, that's ok, but break this rule and you're done."

She claims no one has ever cheated on her. A couple of guys broke up, but no one cheated. Interesting approach.

[DryGermanGuy]

What a silly drama. I would break up for the insinuation and threats alone.

[Opinion Owner]

@DryGermanGuy I hear that. Me too.

[Finchie40]

I don’t want to sugarcoat cheating in any which way because cheating is wrong period , but I just saw a documentary on YouTube as to why men cheat on women they love and married to , it’s mainly because their sex life at home has faded away , Girls’ don’t look at sex like guys’ do, sex is important to most of us men, it’s how we were made , so if his sex life isn’t the same with his partner like it was before , he will be tempted to cheat on her but still love her and want to be with her hoping she will snap out of whatever funk she is in and start spreading her legs again to him

[Asker]

I understand that too. But my case was different I guess. I consider myself a freak and I was always initiating it. But he still went out and cheated. Everyone’s situation is different but I feel like he was so insecure and jealous that he wanted to cheat before he got cheated on so he can have one up. Mind you, I’ve never cheated or gave him a reason to think. He was just so insecure and controlling going through my phone always accusing. He was psycho. I left now.

[Finchie40]

Well in your situation your partner is clearly a selfish POS person that only cares about himself considering you didn’t refuse intimacy and affection with him , so the wise thing for you to do is dump his sorry ass because you did no wrong to deserve what he did whatsoever, when I am with a girl that is like you , I have no reason to cheat whatsoever, so your partner is a moron that you should kick the curb where he belongs

[Asker]

Thank you 🙏🏼 I agree. People like that are selfish.

[Finchie40]

Yea I can’t stand selfish people, my ex turned selfish on me and that’s why she is now my ex , Selfish people do not belong in relationships because all they care about is themselves and nobody else , they can have a relationship all by themselves , so get rid of his ass and find yourself a guy that would love being intimate with you on a regular basis. Shit I am raising my hand lol

[heruncommonsense]

ALL males cheat, no matter how much sex they get. males cannot love women. you cannot love someone you aren't loyal to.

[Finchie40]

I guess I am not make then because if I am with a girl that keeps me satisfied in the bedroom and values you me and appreciated me no matter what obstacles come our way , I will not cheat on her because I feel I have an amazing partner that loves me like I love her. I take relationships seriously , once I commit to a girl and give her my heart , she doesn’t have to worry one bit about me cheating on her if she is staying loyal and loving and honest with me. Girls’ have told me I am
A rare find because I value relationships. Unfortunately I had some exes cheat on me , so girls’ cheat as well but not all girls’ do. But unfortunately most people
Say everyone cheats because there is so much talk about it on social media etc. But once I commit to a girl that brings happiness into my life and not constant misery she doesn’t have to worry about me cheating on her whatsoever because I feel like I hit the lottery with having a girl like her. Also I only like having sex with a girl that I feel safe with that is only having sex with me and no one else , my ass is STD free and I want to continue keeping it that way. People that cheat don’t realize how much they are putting themselves at risk of catching STD’s , not only will they be effected they can effect their partner as well that they are cheating on. Cheating is so wrong from every angle. If you are unhappy or not fulfilled in a relationship then the wise thing to do is end the relationship not run to someone else thinking they are going to save you and be better than your current partner. All cheating does is give you a bad reputation that makes other people Stay away from you because no one will trust you. I don’t want to be a hypocrite because I did cheat one time in my life when I was younger and I realized how wrong I was by doing so , so it was a learning experience to never do it again. Why be in a relationship with someone that you can’t stay loyal to? Just stay single is you like to screw around

[Finchie40]

Male not make lol

[Finchie40]

I also have slept with a handful of taken girls, some married that lied to me and told me they were single , Basically thanks for a good time but not a long time. So girls’ can be just as bad as guys’ or worse as well. Girls’ just are better at getting away with it where most cheating men are dumb about it. I have witnessed and experienced so many cheating girls’ in my lifetime so that’s why I no longer rush into a relationship with a girl because most of them have men on the back burner and the second she doesn’t get her way , she spreads her legs to one of them , But a girl that loves me and values me and appreciates me , I would not cheat on whatsoever, I would be the dumbest guy on the planet if I cheated on a girl like that , especially if she doesn’t hesitate to be in my arms

[heruncommonsense]

bullshit. you will have sex with other women and males and fucking lie about it. males want to have their cake and eat it too.

[heruncommonsense]

males do not want to be loved. males always cheat, unless you keep them captive (which we really should) why should anyone value a cheater?

[Finchie40]

No , I don’t cheat but yes there are a lot of
Men that do

[heruncommonsense]

you are literally saying this because you want me to fuck you

[Finchie40]

LOL no that wasn’t what I was implying but it did sound sexy lol But honestly that’s how I am , I was married and loyal to my ex for 20 some years until she decided to not be with me anymore , so putting myself back on the dating market as been an interesting experience so far. But I am trying to play my cards right this time around.

[heruncommonsense]

whore. you've had your fun and now you want a pure woman to waste her virginity on a used male.

[Finchie40]

I don’t care about her virginity, most girls’ aren’t virgins anymore , I haven’t had a virgin since I was younger lol

[SueShe]

Men probably cheat for the very same reasons that women cheat and that would be because they cannot control their libido and let themselves be slaves of the sexual hormones.

They place fornication on the top of their priority list in life and nothing else in life matters to them. A relationship without cheating is not an option and they don't care if they hurt other people's feelings with their behavior as long as they satisfy their perversions.

Cheating has become a way of life with younger adults nowadays which find it cool and the aim is to collect as many bodies as possible regardless of the damage they do to others.

[Abbycado]

There is always a more bootiful bootay. ☹️

[SueShe]

@Abbycado Your endless wisdom never ceases to amaze me and I confess that I did not give a thought about that option 🤔

I got to keep that in mind for next time 😊

[StarWarGirl]

Cheating is a choice. No matter who does it, men or women.

We try to find the reasoning behind it only either to justify ir or to overlook this ugly truth because facing it needs courage and is so much uncomfortable.

[ohsheeT]

What's really strange is they think about everything you just said before they do it? And then they still do it because they think they're smarter , and they think that they're not going to get caught.. And then they cry, because now everybody in the world's gonna know about it. The girl's parentsHis parents and he's embarrassed, so he cries. Please please

And I would hope the girl would say\nDon't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out

Because every time he cheats, he knows that he's cheating. The moment it starts happening, and he still decides to do it, it's all manipulation. It's all because because he got caught.

And goes for a woman

[ohsheeT]

And the same thing goes for a woman

[4ngelic]

there's so many possible reasons:

-they're not getting much sex from their partner

- there's problems in the relationship and they want comfort from another woman

- they aren't in love anymore or weren't all that attached ever to begin with

- they don't find their partner cute anymore

- temptation and they fell for it

- their partner is pregnant

[Anonymous]

Simple, they are animals.
They want to have sex, they want multiple partners, but no responsibility, sometimes it's the other way around cause if the relationship is lacking affection or respect or softness they will look for that in someone else.
Actually women also do that so it's just who is loyal, a study in Europe says many of the children aren't of there father. There biological father is someone else. Which is funny 🤣 cause people target men more.
Cheating is a choice, for men it's a profit statement.
For women it's feeling special.

[Anonymous]

Men tend to cheat for a number of reasons. Some men just want something new, a variety, new excitement. Others cheat cause they’re not getting what they need from their girl at home. Some just like the excitement of it. Some want to see if they can still pull some ass as they’ve gotten older. Like damn I still got it. Some maybe just like the excitement of getting away w it. As for how they act. I’m not saying it’s ok for them to cheat but a lot of men can sleep w other women w out getting emotionally involved. His feelings are still loyal to her as far as where his heart is. The side chicks, it’s a physical thing. For women, when they cheat she’s usually emotionally invested in the dude. Which means she’s already checked out emotionally so she’s moved on. At that point it’s almost always over as far as the relationship. W the man, he usually still wants to be w his girl.

[exitseven]

some guys like the excitement of getting away with something. I knew a guy who had this really nice wife. She was really pretty and very nice. I was in the hospital with this guy. One day he told me that his girlfriend was coming to visit him. I figured that if his wife was so awesome I had to see what his girlfriend was like. Well, she was nothing special and she was sort of a b**ch.

[new-person]

Why do women cheat? They tell you they love you, and ask you to change and do things, but after you do and your relationship is going well with no issues, they start cheating. They deny it over and over, but after you catch them they say it's all the guys fault.

No taking responsibility for their own actions, only asking for freedom with no responsibility = childish.

[Nikki1989]

So you can't understand a simple question?

[new-person]

I can but if you are going to put it that all guys cheat, and not respect the guys that do not cheat like myself. I am not going to respect your question and ask you why do women cheat.

Maybe if you asked it respecting the fact that not all guys cheat and act the same. Like: why do some men cheat, or why do some men end up cheating.

I stayed faithful to my wife even when everyone was telling me, "just leave her", "why don't you just find someone else, walk away" I stayed true to my commitment I made to her no matter how hard it got for me even to the point I lost everything because of her, I still stayed with her.

So if your not going to respect guys like me in your question, I'm not going to respect your question.

[Asker]

I was asking why do men cheat because I’m a woman so would like to know the thoughts from other men on why men do cheat and then cry and say they love you once they get caught. I ended up leaving 2 weeks ago. I guess I just can’t come to fully understanding why people cheat and cry about it once they get caught and then all of a sudden they want to change and you’re the best thing they ever had now. It just doesn’t make sense to me man or woman. Cheating is wrong period. Just leave if you’re unhappy, don’t cheat. Everyone situation is different I guess. And as a woman, I tell every man that got cheated on for no good reason, that women cheat because they don’t give a shit about the guy they’re with. If I cheated (which I don’t and have never), it would be because I really don’t give a shit. Just me personally.

[new-person]

Not all people that are the same gender are the same. Yes some things are that come with being a guy, but people cheat for a number of reasons, men and women both. Some do because they have commitment issue's other lack self control, some do because of lack of respect for others feelings and thinking of themselves as supreme being, thinking what ever they want they should be able to get.

Keep in mind that age dose not mean they are mature adults, just because someone is over 20 dose not mean they act like it, they could still act like they are 16 for the rest of their lives.

So really one could not answer this question in a general turm like your asking. As there are lots of reasons, but cheating in the end is all do to lack of respect on a number of ways and lack of drive and power to stay in line with a commitment.

[Shy-boy53]

I’m afraid it appears a lot of the time we are the weaker species when it comes to temptation and it appears we are often led by something other than our brain

[Asker]

I like this answer

[Shy-boy53]

I’m glad you do , it’s just what popped into my head. Personally I think cheats are very cowardly

[Asker]

Same. I personally think they’re selfish.

[Shy-boy53]

Oh totally, if they aren’t happy with someone or things aren’t working, they should be man enough to confront it

[Anonymous]

Men often cheat due to unmet emotional/physical needs, insecurity, or a desire for validation, rather than a lack of love for their partner. The intense, tearful, and apologetic reaction upon getting caught is usually driven by fear of losing their secure, established life, deep guilt, shame, and the sudden, harsh reality of the consequences

[Anonymous]

Ego mostly. And horniness. But mostly ego.

Some of them are sincerely sorry and won’t do it again. Most aren’t. And some really are sorry, but not till they’re middle aged and have left a trail of broken hearts behind them (like my dad, in case you’re wondering how an 18-24 year old woman knows so much about this).

[Mrtcn01]

For men, sex is momentary pleasure... he's curious about the vagina, he goes in, he comes out, it's over... there's no love involved. thats why he is begging you.. we can f**uck wihtout love.. but we can not be long term relationship without love.

[guywithafetish]

Men cheat for all different reasons. Look up the statistics and you will find women cheat today just as much or even more than men.

[guywithafetish]

Just to add to this, Another Big reason (Men) cheat Is Because there is just way to much Temptation, i live in Georgia and the girls in the summer here are almost naked, even in stores. See through skin tight leggings no bras it is torture and i am single lol, most of these girls are married or have boyfriends.

[DishLady]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/axySrE0Kg6k

An age-old question, kiddo.

[Anonymous]

Eddie Murphy already explained this one. 😆

https://www.youtube.com/embed/y78JtCk9B6E

[888theGreat]

It could be not enough or how sex is done with her. It could be she doesn't support or listen to him.

[OneViewpoint]

Same reasons women cheat and then break down when they get caught.

[Pterodon]

They don’t love or respect the one they’re supposed to be with

[Mac-One]

I have been intimate and sex with one girl in my entire life. Have I been missing something?

[leva532]

It's there habbit and yeah they want to have more holes to get access.

[LC75LC71]

Should have put some in there. For instance, Why are some women homewreckers?

[Imjustagirl1520]

because all they want is sex, they cheat if u dont give it to them

[Nikki1989]

Because they are men.

[Apulu_backagain]

For the same reason women cheat.

[Cyfris]

Men cheat because they can.

[Asker]

Can you elaborate?

[Cyfris]

two types of mating in the animal world.. pair bonding (love birds) and Sexual Dimorphism (think Peacocks) So men with a flashy tail who can get the girls will most likely get the girls and the guys who can get a girl will likely get a girl. Biologically we are driven to reproduce and tend to do so as effectively as we can.

[jahaims]

All cheaters cheat to cope with self hate

[heruncommonsense]

Malice. All males do it.

[Shrimpenjoyer]

Same reason as women

[In_Trance]

For the same reason women do

[Jeff51]

Why do women cheat? Same answer

[Asker]

To me it’s because they’re a POS. I’ve never cheated because if I’m that unhappy then I would leave. It’s that simple. That’s why I don’t believe my partner. I always asked him if everything was okay and if there was anything wrong and if he wanted to talk. And it was always “no everything’s okay” and always I love you’s and smiles and acting like everything was good. That’s why I believe he cheated because he’s a POS that wanted to fu** other people.

[Massageman]

Why do women cheat?

[Snowman84]

Because we’re dogs

[Anonymous]

I don't know