How to rise above the feelings of betrayal and rejection?

[Anonymous]

I confided in my cousin about a man who I was deeply affectionate about and he ended up devaluing me and being disrespectful to me instead of just being honest and saying he didn’t want to date me anymore because he was the one who liked me first. It hurt me a lot because I thought he would have been considerate of my feelings.. he knew I struggled with mental health and didn’t really want to date. But I was under this notion that he could possibly be still want me despite

Depressed about it for a year I decided to talk to my cousin about it… she ended up talking to him behind my back and they started to conspire against me and talk about my mental health. It really set me off because my cousin was gaslighting me. it really hurt to the point I had to take off work and get help because of how it all went down

I don’t know how to really overcome it

[Finchie40]

I’m sorry to hear your cousin did that to you , if I was you, my cousin wouldn’t be a part of my life anymore and I would make it clear to them that they are a POS person and to never come around me or talk to me ever again. As for overcoming your feelings of rejection, it’s going to come down to time, eventually you won’t really think about it much anymore and you will move on , so the best way to move on is to no longer talk or see those assholes ever again , and if you do run into them just act like they don’t exist and completely ignore them and act like they don’t mean shit to you whatsoever , people that betray you , do not get rewarded period, keep it that way

[Asker]

That’s the hurtful part… they don’t care if I’m in their life or not… he doesn’t want me in his life. He didn’t want to be with me

[Finchie40]

Then just accept it for what it is and move on and find yourself someone that does want to be by your side , there are
Plenty of fish in the sea that are looking for happiness with someone

[Asker]

I just don’t know how to shake my feelings for him or feel good about myself

[Asker]

I’ve also never been in a relationship

[Staximus]

One guy not being the right guy for you is not the end of the world. There's literally a million more guys out there. Yes what they did was hurtful, but it's not that that big of a deal. The best thing to do is just leave shitty people behind in the past, stop dragging yourself through the mud over it, and move on with your life already

[Nikki1989]

Rising above doesn't mean you have to be "happy" about what happened. It just means you refuse to let their mistake define your future.

[CherryLove007]

1-800-Get-Help and I am glad you did that.

Don't worry about the bastards. Time will be your friend on this one.

[ammar12343]

There’s no magic remedy. Shit cuts deep and lasts longer than we want. The best approach is to improve and work on yourself as cliche as it sounds. Get another degree part time, work on your body and fitness. Meet new people. Also, I’d cut your cousin out of your life for now.