How do you get over a betrayal?

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RageBabe · Accepted Answer

Allow yourself to experience those feelings and use them as a means of healing. It will now help you understand more clearly. This does not include reintroducing the betrayed individual into your life, but it does entail facing them, asking them why they did what they did, listening to their response, and getting an apology. Forgiveness is not the same as forgetting, but you can forgive. Resentment doesn't have to be a burden on you. I know because I've been in that situation myself, and I don't take betrayal lightly. However, for your own mental and emotional well-being, you must take your time, experience the emotions, and heal. The most essential thing here is your health.

ChooChooHaha · Accepted Answer

Cut them off. Try to learn from it. Learn how to inspire loyalty, and take nothing less. But also know when to give yours.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

You're going to have to put it behind you. But...

I would advice to learn from it. Every failure is a lesson. Being betrayed is a form of failure. You have a lot to learn before you simply put it behind you.

Once lessons are learned... get through the grieving process as fast as you can, get to the acceptance phase.

Once lessons are learned and you've accepted it... that's when it's time to simply move on with better defense up against such betrayals.

But to focus on getting over the betrayal part... identify all you could've done to avoid it. Fuck those that betrayed you, this problem is bigger than them. If no lesson is learned it could happen again.

Ironic_Method · Accepted Answer

I don't. Vengeance for life.

ohsheeT · Answer

The only way you can and that's is to accept it,  Acknowledge it learn from it. and move on

strobegrl · Answer

I just wrote a long answer and smh it got lost🤦‍♀️. In short, cry it out don’t suppress your feelings.. you'll feel better after it. Also realise how other people’s behaviour is often a reflection of their own thoughts, traumas, and internal struggles and has less to do with you personally or how good you are or how pretty you are than you think.

Also guys your age often aren't as mature as you wish them to be. They might hurt you not even intending it but because they lack maturity to consider the consequences of their actions. .. thats why they lie when you catch them cheating 😂 because they maybe don’t want to disappoint you with it and because they often chase girls for the physical aspect without thinking about commitment or love. Its a fact that men can have a physical relationship without any emotions.. while women tend not to. Its just a generalisation but look it up women do fall in love through the hormones released while being intimate. Men don’t. Some girls think if they do it with him he’ll somehow fall in love but it often doesn’t happen. On contrary the more you hold off certain things the more effort he has to do the more attached he might become.

I've been disappointed by a person in my life currently and I still like him and don’t quite understand he did what he did. But the more I think about how its a reflection of his own traumas and previous patterns the more detached I feel from the situation. I might give him another chance or I might now I don’t know yet but its good to refocus on yourself fron time to time and nourish yourself.. practice self love whatever that might mean for you.. and focus on getting that love from yourself first.

DrPepper12 · Answer

I would think like any other mourning process:

The five stages of grief are a model that describes the psychological reaction to loss, and are often taught as denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

Denial

A defense mechanism that helps protect people from the shock of a loss.

Anger

A natural response that can be directed at oneself, family, doctors, God, or even the source of grief.

Bargaining

A desire to return life to what it was, or to go back in time.

Depression

A feeling of sadness that can be accompanied by thoughts that life isn't worth living.

Acceptance

The final stage of the model.

I hope you grant yourself the grace you need and I'm sorry this happened to you.

Anonymous · Answer

Only one way. Was it intentional. The REALITY in life is EVERYONE you care about you in life is going to hurt you at some point. You just have determine which people are worth bleeding for. But if it is intentional. If it is deliberate then they don't really care about you. Or more accurately they care more about themselves. Then you don't even try to get over it. You wipe the slate clean. You end it with them and you start over.

Because you can't have a healthy relationship if you love with reservations.

Unit1 · Answer

Rule number 1 - Do not open opportunities for betrayal

Failing that, makes sure, that the betrayal's potential damage is as limited as it can be.

Failing that, vengeance.

Failing that, heck, i don't know. Been there but I moved onward instead.

Nikki1989 · Answer

When you have negative thoughts about the betrayal, challenge them and replace them with positive affirmations. Having confidence and positive thinking will get you through any situation life may throw at you. Works for me.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the person and your relationship with them, and whether you see value in them for the future.
It hurts and there's a lack of trust.
Letting go is not the same as forgiveness but it saves your energy.
But we don't forget.
Then decide how much of them you want in your life and in what form.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

It can be hard to accept but just realize most people in your life will eventually betray you. So once you think about it in those terms its easier to accept and move on.

Shamalien · Answer

Forgive in your heart, but do not forget, and do not allow yourself to be made a fool of twice. Holding onto anger is unhealthy, but trusting a betrayer again is worse

LostandFound__x · Answer

You just have to accept what happened and move forward…

kaucky1 · Answer

I seen it before 1,000 times 100 ways on 10 screens and gotten pushed into worst one faggy screen I keep telling them I'll suck a girl's dick longer I stay the more girls I get, trust nobody💢🫧🌀💫🕳️

FreyaRed · Answer

Revenge if it's possible. Cold served revenge is the privilege of gods

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Give yourself some time and space, and make sure you upgrade from the idiot who betrayed you.

Dongie · Answer

Not with revenge but forgiveness. Heh, it's tough but you emerge the better for it.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Forgive but deny the same access as previously and move on.

ThomasMendoza1106 · Answer

Just know it was their fault  for not respecting ur feelings  Doing that behind ur back  Has nothing to do with you But it does show the kind of person they are

jahaims · Answer

By excepting that most people are bad and moving on

JesuisHappy · Answer

I don't think there is a perfect way to get over a betrayal. Do not react to it, just move forward and fucos on yourself and be productive.

Rashmixoxo · Answer

Walk away. Time helps.

thegreenyogi · Answer

Take a deep breathe and work on yourself.

katiesmuff · Answer

It takes a lot of work!

myloveforuisinfinte · Answer

Never experienced that

HusamRocks · Answer

By learning from ur experiences and becoming wiser

lex09xo_ · Answer

Focus on yourself and heal

genericname85 · Answer

by kicking the betrayer out of your life.

CubaPirate · Answer

Revenge obviously

Agape93 · Answer

I don't.

MasterKS · Answer

get a new partners sooner!

Liz1990 · Answer

Go no contact in fact their dead to me.

Anonymous · Answer

It's definitely not easy :(

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Burn them in effigy.

Makeushiver · Answer

Slowly

Anonymous · Answer

By cheating.

Staximus · Answer

Walk away

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