Men, why act intimate with one woman and distant with another at work?

[Anonymous]

Why would you walk with a girl at work who you’re intimate with but the other girl you only smile at her and walk past her? which one is he hiding and why do some deceive girls into thinking they’re the only one. Why not choose? Why tell each girl the same thing (we don’t have anything going on)

[HollyK21]

My goodness lol let’s unpack a bit:



“Why would you walk with a girl at work who you’re intimate with”


Should he otherwise ignore someone he’s actually, physically, even emotionally intimate with? VS:


“but the other girl you only smile at her and walk past her?”


Emphasis on only smiling at her — he doesn’t know her. He doesn’t need to stop and chat, he’s likely just being polite, as he would walking past any other COWORKER.


“which one is he hiding”


Overanalyzation at its finest. What is there to hide? He’s not in a relationship or serious with either of these women, should he openly claim either in the workplace? Does anyone else really give a damn, or are they all there for the intended purpose — to work?


“and why do some deceive girls into thinking they’re the only one.”


LOL woah! The only one for what? To have his attention or flirtation? The only one he’s intending to date? None of this has been established thus far, given the context. It seems like one of these women is in their feelings.


“Why not choose?”


Choose what, crazypants? There’s nothing officially going on with either, but in any case he doesn’t need to showcase it at WORK. He may not want anything officially with either.

[Asker]

He’s intimate with both, hence asking he walked with one, he walked pass the other

[HollyK21]

You said:

“Why would you walk with a girl at work who you’re intimate with but the other girl you only smile at her and walk past her?”

This looks to imply that he’s only intimate with one. So if that isn’t the case then cool, I don’t mind being corrected. However, if he’s intimate with both then they are both suckers at the end of the day, both gullible AF and I say that with nothing but blunt politeness. One of them respectively needs to have some common sense and wake up vs having some sort of internalized competition over a man who won’t publicly claim EITHER. This man is just getting laid by 2 women who are settling for such lowly positions. If they don’t have the self respect to believe they deserve more then why should he?

[Asker]

And what if one go back to sleep with him purely for fun?

[HollyK21]

What about it?

[spartan55]

Wth are you talking about?