Guys, any advice for this and have you dealt with this yourself?

[Anonymous]

I’m an anxious texter and I struggle with overthinking and texting too often and unsending so when a guy says you stress out and exhaust / over exhaust yourself etc is he losing interest? Like he will also ghost and come back he says when he’s not working.. he’s in his room, cooking or running errands ( he’s also introverted. he and I have always seem to really like each other also he was suppose to get back to me in Dec or January about getting a set work schedule never got back to me. he says he works 60hrs a week and he does installations but I don't know where I fit in we were going to hangout more and do more even an Airbnb a dinner and movie. he’s lost people due to ghosting and has admitted he’s ruined his life so many times he’s been to at least 3 rehabs due to being an alcholic etc and he’s only 28, I’m 29. he’s better now occasionally drinks beers. but the promising and on and off hurts. we aren't in a relationship it’s been a long time for him. I need advice I want to make this work I still like him I don't know. how can I stop being anxious and yet have it work out … and have any guys out there dealt with a similar situation like him?

[DecentMan]

It doesn’t sound to me like a very good relationship - drinking and rehab is a warning sign honestly.
With the over thinking well - it’s important to realise many people have this - and clarity of thought is important in the end because you need to make solid decisions untimely. But don’t be hard on your self - a lot of people over think - meditation and calming activities can help with this - breathing techniques and also exercise - so start some of these and see how you go - and try to watch your mind rather than be it ! Feel free to message me for advice.

[Hiker_011]

I think you should be cautious. I used to drink a lot at one time, but I never went to rehab. I just got to a point where I was sick of alcohol, and all the bad things that happen when intoxicated. I don't drink at all now because alcohol is a slippery slope. One drink leads to another, and on and on. It's also a depressant, and it's linked to all kinds of cancer. The fact that your boyfriend has been to rehab 3 times and he still drinks is surprising to me. Just be careful not to get married to an active alcoholic is all I'm saying. That's a really difficult kind of relationship.

[Asker]

Not 3 times it was 3 different rehabs Adult Teen Challenge, another church one and AA his dad put him in the first one because he found passed out on his roommates couch, and he didn’t stay for the whole program he did it for about 5 months not year long then I think switched he says most rehabs are like 3 months, but I don't know cause I don’t smoke or drink. And we both like each other but we aren’t in a relationship even though there’s mutual interest. It’s hard dealing with off and off and he know it’s his fault for making it harder, he’s admitted to that.

[spartan55]

As long as texting is central to communicating with him you will fail.

[jahaims]

You're an anxious attacher and he is avoidant. Doesn't make a healthy relationship. Avoidants can't be healthy

[Anonymous]

No. I'm an overthinker aswell. Its why I prefer calling over texting.

[Danny_dan92]

Stop overthinking