seeing a man for 4 months, caught feelings very quickly. he was very open and honest with how he felt about me. After he caught feelings he did tell me he was scared to get hurt again - his ex left him out of the blue last year and he was still dealing with kids struggling. And said he put himself out there too soon but he wasn’t expecting to find someone like me so quickly.
Since then his life has gotten stressful- work- a new course and his ex told him she left because she was cheating. So of course his head went into overdrive. He has told me that he has strong feelings for me, doesn’t want me to walk away but would understand if I did because he can't offer anything right now as he has so much going on.. but does want this to work out
lately he has been pulling back, I am the one to contact first and he will tell me he’s not doing well sometimes but sometimes won’t even respond to my messages. Last week I stayed with him and we didn’t have a good night, I was stressed too and wanted affection and comfort and he was stressed and didn’t even want to touch me, which left me feeling rejected and I asked if he even wanted me there. He said if he didn’t want me I wouldn’t be there, he’d just make an excuse. So, yesterday I tell him I can come in Thursday and he says he might not be home, he’ll let me know. I messaged a few hours later and said “this isn’t a time you need an excuse is it?” atm I’m feeling really insecure about how he feels. He never responded
i texted this morning and we talked like normal. then this afternoon I just texted and mentioned coming again and said I’d like to see you, no pressure, just let me know what you want to do”. and he hasn’t replied. I feel anxious and sad, I wish he’d just respond. being ignored sucks. I know he backs right away when he’s upset or stressed and I have said I need communication. But whenever he has stuff on it’s like he can’t see how I might feel, is it a matter of men and women dealing with stress differently?
Since then his life has gotten stressful- work- a new course and his ex told him she left because she was cheating. So of course his head went into overdrive. He has told me that he has strong feelings for me, doesn’t want me to walk away but would understand if I did because he can't offer anything right now as he has so much going on.. but does want this to work out
lately he has been pulling back, I am the one to contact first and he will tell me he’s not doing well sometimes but sometimes won’t even respond to my messages. Last week I stayed with him and we didn’t have a good night, I was stressed too and wanted affection and comfort and he was stressed and didn’t even want to touch me, which left me feeling rejected and I asked if he even wanted me there. He said if he didn’t want me I wouldn’t be there, he’d just make an excuse. So, yesterday I tell him I can come in Thursday and he says he might not be home, he’ll let me know. I messaged a few hours later and said “this isn’t a time you need an excuse is it?” atm I’m feeling really insecure about how he feels. He never responded
i texted this morning and we talked like normal. then this afternoon I just texted and mentioned coming again and said I’d like to see you, no pressure, just let me know what you want to do”. and he hasn’t replied. I feel anxious and sad, I wish he’d just respond. being ignored sucks. I know he backs right away when he’s upset or stressed and I have said I need communication. But whenever he has stuff on it’s like he can’t see how I might feel, is it a matter of men and women dealing with stress differently?
