How do you deal with a drunk guy hitting on you?

[Anonymous]

If a drunk guy was hitting on you what would you do? What if he cornered you and wanted to talk to you how would you deal with that situation?

[Anonymous]

It really depends on the situation and what my gut is saying at the time. I'm assuming this is after you've politely told the guy you're not interested...
Usually, if I'm in a bar and this happens and I feel like the guy is generally harmless but I'm not interested and he's starting to be annoying, I'll listen to him for a minute, then tell him I'm going to get a drink and walk away. If he bugs me again, I just walk away, ignore him altogether. This has usually worked- nothing is a worse shot to the ego than a complete non-reaction, as if they don't even exist. I usually use this technique with guys who try to pull me on the dance floor or whatever and won't listen to a "no thanks".

Now, if it's a less public situation or my gut is saying "get away from him NOW!" - I tend to take different approach. If I feel cornered by a guy who gives me the creeps in a bar, I'll be a lot more direct about it. I tell him to leave me alone loudly and firmly (so other people hear) and if he doesn't, I'll leave the bar and on the way out ask a bouncer to with me wait until I get a cab. If it's more private- like the time this happened in a dorm room during a dorm party, I get out of the situation as soon as possible and tell someone what's going on, so they can have my back...

I've never had a guy turn aggressive and I suppose I've looked like a bitch or an idiot a few times, but no regrets...

[Mgoods]

This drunk guy tried to kidnap me from a bus stop, in broad daylight, a few months ago. Luckily a bus came and the people getting on helped separate me from him and hurried me onto the bus...

I was a little freaked out. He started off making normal conversation (normal drunk conversation), he was gorgeous and dressed really nicely.
I'm the idiot for thinking that makes a decent person. He kept trying to kiss me and he had a cold sore on his lip, that was the worst fcking part. I wanted to slap the shit out of him, at that point.

[Asker]

Wow!! I hope you are okay? That kinda thing would shake anyone up...

[Mgoods]

Yeah dude, I'm cool. I laughed about it, after I got on the bus and I was safe, haha. I'm just glad it was in the day time!

[pr3ttybr0wn]

if he cornered me I'd do the Heisman on that ho and get out of the picture cdn.bleacherreport.net/.../...se_display_image.png

or more likely yell at him and tell him to leave me alone. if I make a scene others will see what he's doing and come to my defense

[meatballs21]

What did you do? Unless you're still standing in the corner posting this from your phone.

Saying 'No thanks, I'm not interested' and remove yourself from the situation is the best way. If he 'turn aggressive' then be prepared to run/defend yourself/call 911.

[thatswhathesaid]

Point the direction opposite of him and yell "Look! Free beer!!" When he turns around run away...

[Red7336]

honeslty after all the violence women are recieving just for saying no (it got to the point of getting killed in horrible ways)

id say pretend you're down, like give him a fake number or something and tell him to meet you wherever or that you'll call him, or be like "alright sure let me just go the ladies room and ill be right with you"

and leave quitely or if you have some sort of protection resort to it/him/her

i never rgot to bars or clubs or any of that... just no lol

[Asker]

It was in a restaurant and he followed me to the toilet, I was freaked when I saw him outside my cubicle. I was very polite when I turned him down, he asked for a hug so I have him a quick one, then he asked for a kiss, to which I responded, "sorry I can't do that". He took it well before walking away. I was scared it was just me and him in the toilets and I thought I can't aggressively walk away cos it could turn ugly.

[MissMarvelous]

Was he ugly too?

[Red7336]

omg are you serious ! :O

im glad you're ok :( and sadly its not about HOW you turn them down, its about the fact that you turned them down :\

please be careful

[Asker]

Thanks hun ☺️ I am fine, but it did creep me out. I knew that if he tried anything I would scream the whole restaurant down before defending myself with all my strength.

[MissMarvelous]

I'm terrified of this. This one sober guy followed me after i turned him down. I was in my apartment complex, and u know that vibe you get when you KNOW somebody isn't right in the head. I had that. Luckily he left me alone (he looked like he was in his 30's). And for this exact reason i dont make eye contact with creepy men at stores. If i do im afraid they'll follow me.

[srslyly]

I would call him a f****t and knock him on his drunk ass. But you're a girl, so you would probably skip the "faggot" part.

[Meedo]

is the problem that he is drunk or is it the problem that he is hitting on you?

[Asker]

Drunk, cos I don't know how stable he is..

[Asker]

Sorry I didn't mean stable lol I meant I don't know what type drunk he is.

[Meedo]

you mean you are afraid he will turn violent or crazy? you can excuse yourself to go to the ladies room. If you have friends with you... call your friends from there and make sure they are around you. you can always ask any other guy who looks decent to get him away from you. The thing is you must have acourage to take some sort of action. I know men seem big and huge but they back down more often than not when they see you are not taking their advances.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice!! I gave him a hug when he asked for it, I thought if I listened to him he would go away but when he asked for a kiss I thought "no way I was gonna do that" so I said, "sorry I can't do that I have a boyfriend", he asked me again but I repeated "no", to which he left me alone. He looked scary too lol

[Meedo]

you did the right thing.

[Anonymous]

Call the cops. Guys are pathetic and thirsty and will do anything for female attention nowadays.

[witchprincess]

"You're drunk." and then I walk away.

[Asker]

Aren't u afraid that he might turn aggressive especially if he has cornered u?

[witchprincess]

Luckily nothing too bad has happened so far- on the worst occasion I just punched a guy in his balls at that was that. But I never go to parties or bars alone, and I carry pepper spray just in case.

[witchprincess]

It's better that you walk away as soon as possible rather than hang around and let him think you're enjoying his time or "leading him on".

[Asker]

Wow, u punched him in the balls? Lol you are a G!! Lol!!

[lumos]

All I do is try to walk away.

[Asker]

aren't u afraid that he might turn aggressive?

[lumos]

I don't deal with drunk guys a lot, so idk. The few times I've walked away or ignored them, they haven't become aggressive. But maybe I'm just lucky. If you're afraid of drunk guys, try to stick with your friends.

[Asker]

If a drunk guy on the street tried to hit on me I would walk away with no hesitation, this situation I described was different since he cornered me and we were a lone.

[Tokana]

You don't... you just give in. #alphatendencies