Why guys don’t contact after sex and how to deal with this situation?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy through online and we started dating for two months but we talked about it and decided we should just be friends. Then we continued to meet up as friends for about another 5 months. It was pretty wholesome and we got to know each other better. We kinda text almost everyday and would go to workout together once a week and follow with lunch and hangout (we didn’t do anything cross the line of friendship) However, one night we were just chilling at his place, we were abit tipsy and then that led to the first hookup. The morning after, we still went to workout together. When we said goodbye I sensed that he became abit distant. It’s already been 1.5 days and haven’t heard from him and I left my stuff at his place … not sure how to react it and what to do with this situation.

[Zatsuma]

* We started dating for two months but we talked about it and decided we should just be friends.
* We kinda text almost everyday and would go to workout together once a week and follow with lunch and hangout
* We didn’t do anything to cross the line of friendship
Don't you love it when booze takes over? 🤦🏼‍♀️

First of all you both agreed to remain friends. Nothing has changed, there is no relationship status, there is no commitment!. And what does "kinda almost" mean? every day, every other day, or maybe every few days?

If it's only been 1.5 days, stop over thinking it.

Yes you probably feel slightly violated right now as it didn't go the way your brain and heart hoped it would? However you have to remember that you both made a deal and one inebriated moment combined with lack of self control is not going to change any of that.

Put your mind back where it was as friends. Pretend that you can't remember most of that moment, make yourself believe it didn't happen and he will soon be wanting to talk to you about it, if that's what your goal is.
As of the stuff you left. Do you need it right now? Tell him if you do and don't make that conversation about what happened, just your items you need to get. If you don't need them wait until the next gym hangout and arrange to get them without bringing the booze with you 😉. Hopefully then you will have a clearer mind frame to be able to talk or even laugh about what happened without taking it personally.

Then start off again and make it a lesson learned that the two of you shouldn't drink together unless there is some sort of commitment discussed beforehand.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

You had sex with him AFTER agreeing to be just friends, so then the sex was just that, just sex… If you want your stuff back then call him and arrange to get it back.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Sounds like he hasn't heard from you either. Have you reached out or you just expect him to? You don't know that he's not thinking the same thing.

[jahaims]

If a guy doesn't contact you after sex that means he used you.

[Anonymous]

He just wanted sex. Call him and get your stuff back