How to deal with my situation?

[Rose00]

This guy made me believe he loved me but I stayed around even when it got bad. I should of left when I could we are no longer together. Now the woman he with he treats really well and I heard from a friend that he going to propose to her. We dating for a long time, but I still see him because we live in a small town. I see them out and it just really hurts. How do I cope? I am talking to someone else but I always think back to what could of been. Because I was really did love him and I thought he felt the same. I hate how I still care about him.

[HollyK21]

Sometimes we don’t get to reap the benefit of that “better person” our ex’s can be to someone else. That’s why a big lesson from that breakup would be not to stick around with a guy (even a girl, for men going through this) when he’s not being good to you. Maybe in your mind you still care and feel envious because for whatever reason, you still want all the work, time, emotions, etc that you invested to pay off, meaning you two would have another chance. Or it could be a closure thing, where you want to know why she gets to experience him being a better dude after he was so bad to you. I get all of that. But the moral of the story here is that it’s time to accept what things are, and close that chapter in your life for good. Heal from the hurt he caused, forgive him for it, and forgive yourself for staying in a bad situation. That’s called doing trauma work, there’s even workbooks online, therapy, etc to help you on your journey. I hope you consider doing this, so that you can be the best version of yourself to your new boyfriend, and start feeling more at peace in general.

[QuasiaRobinson44]

ok yeah that is a pretty bad situation seek help from a proffesional but a GOOD counseling center

[Wise4myage]

You’ve got to put the past behind you and focus on the future. The hurt you feel will fade.

[TallAnon]

Pretty common, just live your own life and it'll be fine with time

[driven159]

Need to move on he is history don't waste your heart hurt because he was a dipshit be glad you didn't waste more of your life on him move on