Why do we let something as fragile as the body decide how worthy we feel?

[Anonymous]

For men, it becomes size or performance.
For women, shape, curves, proportions.

But is it really about the body or the fear of not being enough when it’s seen? Not just compared,
but judged. Rejected. Replaced.

And beyond all of that, what does real pleasure and satisfaction mean to you?

Something physical or something that still feels real when everything physical fades?


# I don’t think people are chasing the body,
they’re chasing what they hope it will give them:
to be wanted, to be chosen, to feel enough.

But without connection, presence, and something deeper even what looks perfect can still feel empty.

[bobalife]

You are worthy no matter your body size :)


Society has created this beauty standard full of judgement and what is worthy vs. what is not worthy, but truly… /you/ are the person who decides what is your own beauty standard 😊


As we age, we are changing and so is our body. It’s important to nurture and love your body as it is. If someone else doesn’t appreciate it, then they’re simply not right for us and that’s okay. What’s more important is you being okay and gentle with your own body.

[molonski2]

It's not as simple as you describe , it's also about health , discipline , and then mood , often having nothing to do with romantic interludes.

If you are not the correct weight for example you will have a certain attitude , lack of discipline , poor diet , habits , you don't have the ability to self regulate , so you are only going to attract a lazy or insecure individual.

In gyms , team sports etc , the person working on their own shape , looking in the mirror is always their own harsest judge.

It's a part of self love and commitment to ones self.

[exitseven]

I was a fat kid that everyone picked on when I was a kid. I worked really hard to lose weight and get in shape when i was in high school. When I was in 11th grade both the track coach and the football coach approched me and invited me to go out for their team.
When I went to college I got treated very differently by the other kids and actully had a girlfriend. If I was stillm a fst kid I doubt things would have changed for me.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[queenofcardio]

Unfortunately, we often let others opinions dictate how we feel about our bodies. Even if you are confident, those comments can eventually get to you. People will always have something to say, whether it’s good or bad, but we have to choose to prioritize our own feelings.

It is a reality that many people aren't attracted to larger bodies and that those in better shape get more attention. Utimately, it’s up to us to decide how we feel about ourselves

[Nikki1989]

Society reinforces the idea that worth = appearance. However, not everyone thinks in those terms, and those who do are the real keepers.

[Nikki1989]

*those who don't.

[DishLady]

Chemistry and instincts are tied to our physiological response to another person, whether there's a sexual component or not. Whether we like it or not we're physical beings.

[Alex-Snow]

Peer pressure, porn and unrealistic expectations have made things more complicated. We should not overthink it or worry about size and performance.

[ProbablyClueless]

It's social validation. Other people treat us differently because of our physical appearance.