If single men have sex 3x more than married men, why do men marry?

[Vegasrunner]

[Master_Debator]

My theory is, in general, men are the "real" romantic ones as we know the word. A woman's concept of "romance" is a bit different, in general, because their more in love with the power and control they're weilding over a man and basically using it to get services and sacrifices from a man (and sometime men) for her... or at least seeing a man do that.

--->I mean it's basically the plot of every damn romance movie I've sat through as well as the mini romance plots shoved into the other movies.

-->If single men do indeed have sex 3x more sex than married men, those men are just smart enough to let their higher order thinking help them avoid a single woman's lockdown to just her vagina, and then all of her whims, while he struggles to just get vagina from that one woman like a lot of married men do.

I would argue those men obviously do exist, but that the majority of single men are sexless men that just can't get any panties to drop for him when he tries, or he's so sick of and done with women's bullshit, drama, and games that he simply opts out of even trying. The juice just isn't worth the squeeze to him anymore, unless some hawtie changes his mind down the road..

Anyways, yeah... I think it's just our different perceptions of what romance means. The sex drives are always out there, male or female... so a horny single dude isn't going to have much trouble seducing that many women if he knows how... and I think we're all aware of all those women that say they haven't been in a relationship for years have probably been fucking someone 3 to 4x/month at least.

[MrOracle]

That statistic is almost certainly false.

40%. of all adult men are either virgins or have not had sex in at least a year. Roughly the top 10% of men (some of whom are married) are having 70% of the sex, with the remaining 30% spread out in descending volume over the next 50% of men - many if not most of whom are married.

When people (and especially women) think of "single men", they are thinking about top 10% "Chad's". Few think of the 40% of men who are celibate (by choice or not). If we could do a real survey of a million random adult men, I think most would be shocked by the results.

[Vegasrunner]

@MrOracle Actually its 33% of men under the age of 30 are virgins or have not had sex in a year.

[MrOracle]

It's higher in the more recent study. That one is from 2019.

[Vegasrunner]

@MrOracle You're reading it incorrectly. It's not all men its men under 30. The older a man gets the more access to women he has. Common sense.

[Taurus_Woman]

Many men marry for emotional connection, trust, companionship, and building a shared life with someone they deeply care about. Marriage isn’t mainly only about se**al activity; it’s also about stability, partnership, and having someone you can rely on through all stages of life.

Many men do marry for that reason , to build a stable life with one woman in a monogamous relationship.

For them, marriage isn’t about short-term variety or casual experiences, but about commitment, trust, and having a consistent partner to share life with. A monogamous relationship can bring emotional security, routine, and a sense of stability that many people value more than anything else.

It’s about choosing one person to grow with, face challenges with, and build a long-term life together based on loyalty, respect, and mutual support.

[Vegasrunner]

@taurus_woman You're making the mistake of looking at it through a female lens

[Taurus_Woman]

And you’re wrong to generalize all people. Man or woman, it doesn’t really matter. Choosing a path in life has nothing to do with gender , a person who wants a stable life with one person can choose to get married.
But one more thing: to marry just for marriage is absolutely wrong. Love is a must. You should live everything with your beloved person.
And everyone who respects their body and soul wants one person in life to share everything with — not for one-night dates.

[Vegasrunner]

@taurus_woman Actuallyvthe workd runs on generalizations. What you're outlining us whats important to females in a relationship. For men the criteria is completely different.

[Taurus_Woman]

Depends on the man. Not everyone is the same.

[Vegasrunner]

@taurus_woman Nah most people are more similar than apart. The difference is men understand this but women have this idiotic need to feel "special"

[Taurus_Woman]

Men who respect their bodies feel the same. Maybe you are immature enough not to understand it well, despite your age. A man who has values and respect for his body doesn’t prefer one-night dates. He believes in meaningful connections, not casual encounters that lack emotional depth. To him, intimacy is something important and personal, meant to be shared with trust, respect, and real commitment — not treated lightly or without significance.

[Vegasrunner]

@taurus_woman Again unfortunately you're using a female metric as an attempt to shame men. A man is designed to spread his seed to as many women as he can, a women is designed to get the best from one man. A man respects his body by working out staying fit in an attempt to attract as many women as he can.

[Taurus_Woman]

I disagree with that view.
Human behaviour and relationships aren’t that simple or biologically “fixed” into rigid roles. While biology does play a role in reproduction, people are not driven only by instinct in that way. Humans also have emotions, reasoning, attachment, and the ability to choose long-term commitment, loyalty, and meaning over short-term impulses.
It’s not accurate to say a “man is designed” for one thing and a “woman is designed” for another in a strict behavioural sense. Across cultures and history, both men and women form monogamous relationships, build families, and value deep emotional bonds. Others may choose different lifestyles, but that’s about personal values and decisions , not a universal design or rule.
For me, having multiple partners is not okay, and also not okey for men, especially in this world where all viruses spread rapidly. I believe respect for the body means being selective and valuing deeper, more meaningful connections instead of casual relationships.

[Vegasrunner]

@taurus_woman Disagree all you want but disagreeing with a fact only makes you look foolish. If what you are saying is true. Why is Porn, prostitution, and sex work overwhelming consumed by men?

[Taurus_Woman]

Your argument is not a fact. Just because all you mentioned is widely consumed doesn’t prove that men are “designed” for multiple partners. That is a conclusion, not a fact.
Human behaviour is influenced by many things like access, curiosity, loneliness, and modern culture, not just biology. High consumption of something doesn’t automatically make it natural, healthy, or something that represents all men.
There are also many men who value commitment, monogamy, and emotional connection over casual or transactional se* So it’s not accurate to generalize all men based on that. You talk about all men based on your experiences that only makes you look foolish.

[Vegasrunner]

@taurus_woman I think I understand your confusion. My argument is that men if given the option would prefer to have a variety of women. The fact is validated by the fact that the three platforms I mentioned are mostly consumed by men. The fact that you didn't answer the question and attempted to deflect proves that even you understand that this is a fact.

[Taurus_Woman]

I answered, but it is not my problem that you didn't get what I said.
Even if a majority of consumers on certain platforms are men, that doesn’t automatically mean all men would “prefer a variety of women” if given the option. Consumption statistics show behaviour in a specific context (often driven by anonymity, availability, fantasy, stress relief, or habit), not a universal preference or biological “design.”
Also, many men actively choose monogamy and long-term commitment even when other options exist. If your claim were universally true, we wouldn’t see so many stable, loyal relationships built by men who intentionally avoid casual or multiple-partner lifestyles.
So I’m not deflecting , I just don’t think the evidence you’re using supports the generalisation you’re making about all men. You only support your life using other men.

[Vegasrunner]

@taurus_woman Thats a lpw IQ response. "All" is not a pre-requisite for truth All people dont vote yet we have elected officials. You deflected and begin another conversation. This is because you understand that any acceptable answer only validates my point. Few men prefer monogamy when they have options which is why throughout history the most powerful men have always had multiple women.

[Taurus_Woman]

I didn’t start another conversation , I continued the same one. You call it “low IQ,” yet you’re proudly defending impulses that every animal on earth is capable of. It means your IQ level is 0. Polygamy is instinctive behavior for animals. Humans are supposed to be guided by self-control, emotional intelligence, loyalty, and responsibility.
And no, monogamy is not “for a few men.” Monogamy is for men who value their mental health, physical health, emotional stability, peace, loyalty, and genuine connection over endless validation and temporary pleasure. You have no ability to get this point. Sorry for you. And you think, you live. Your soul is dead 😂

[Vegasrunner]

@taurus_woman I think I see your confusion. The low IQ part is the use of the word all. Actually every human on earth is not capable of having sex. Are you aware that 1 in 3 men under 30 are Virgins or haven't had sex in a year?

[Taurus_Woman]

It changes from man to man. Some men think se**al activity with multiple women proves their masculinity, while other men understand that polygamy is not proof of manhood at all.
A normal and healthy life for many people is to have one partner and build a real connection. Intimacy is not only about physical activity — it is also emotional, spiritual, and mental bonding between two people. Therefore, being with multiple partners can make a person emotionally disconnected over time. When intimacy becomes only physical and people are treated as temporary experiences, emotional depth, loyalty, and genuine bonding can slowly disappear. A man can be non-virgin and still choose to have only one partner throughout his life or for many years. Having self-control, loyalty, and emotional responsibility is a choice.
Polygamy is not a necessity, and it is not an excuse for avoiding commitment or discipline.

[Vegasrunner]

@taurus_woman Again like most women you're sharing this through a female lens. If most men could get mul6women they would do it since most can't they hold on to one woman. This makes women believe this is want men actually want. In reality if these men could attract multiple women they would take advantage of it. Since they can't they've naively convinced you that this is what men want.

[Taurus_Woman]

And again you are talking based on your own experiences. Only emotionally disconnected men can be with multiple women at the same time, because for them intimacy becomes only a physical activity, not a soul-level connection. Real intimacy is emotional, spiritual, and deeply personal — not just physical. You have no ability to perceive these things because your lifestyle is chaotic, and you have already lost touch with your feelings. And it is my last comment. I don't have time to spend for people who are living in their dreams and cannot take real-life responsibilities.

[Vegasrunner]

@taurus_woman actually you're talking based of your own experience I've provided biological evidence and tangible proof.

[megan20022]

Are u saying sex is the only reason to get married?

[Vegasrunner]

@megan20022 The opposite, if you want to have a lot of sex as a man you probably shouldn't get married. Reality is there's no real benifit of marriage for men.

[megan20022]

Yeah so ur saying that sex is the only thing that matters lmao

[Mark_Est]

Honestly its the only reason why men hang with women.

[Vegasrunner]

@megan20022 Yea, thats the only reason men tolerate women, but you're not going to get sex if you're married.

[megan20022]

This is probably the reason ur wives don’t wanna fuck u

[Vegasrunner]

@megan20022 Luckily I dont have a wife, so im able to get laid as much as I want.

[Mark_Est]

Dont be butthurt. Its just basic biology. Same reason why you women try to maintain and value your looks so much

[rtj1211]

The question assumes that the definition of a more fulfilling life is having more sex.

A few realities of life: sex is but a part of a life fully lived.

It is most prominent, for most people, between late teens and 50. Its biological purpose is the creation of children and if such children are created, parents have plenty of other important things to do, apart from just having sex.

[Vegasrunner]

@rtj1211 TY for sharing. What does this have to do w/the question?

[BadApple69]

There is more to life than just sex. Sure stay single and get a lot of sex while you are younger. What happens when you get older. You think sex will be easy to get? When you share a life with someone you can share so much… food, vacations, movie nights…. You are always with your best friend.

[Vegasrunner]

@BadApple69 For men yes sex is easier to get as we get older. 1 in 3 men under 30 are virgins or haven't had aex in a year.

[BadApple69]

Till you reach a point… maybe. I got offered sex a lot more in my 30s than I have in my 50s.

[Vegasrunner]

@BadApple69 Thats called anecdotal evidence. Also its inaccurate, the study say men 30 and under. So you would have to weigh 35 to 25.

[BadApple69]

Then what can I say…. Stay single and see how you do.

[Vegasrunner]

@BadApple69 I like it. Thats sound advice.

[Mark_Est]

Cause the men who marry with these laws are stupid in that field. Nothing logical about that decision.

[cranberrycattoystory]

For stability and commitment to just ONE person! And "sex" is a vile, soul-sucking trap, you never want to fall into. It'll never really satisfy you but have you crave more if it. And it's sole purpose is to reproduce young, that's it! But that's all just an opinion, take it or leave it, there are PLENTY of men who're single and happy, so I don't know what you're talking about... But men who get married, do so for either they want a family, or stability, that's all.

[Vegasrunner]

@cranberrycattoystory It always amazes me how people cherry pick the post then make up things. My argument is that single men are much happy that married men.

[cranberrycattoystory]

Yes. Even I'm single and never plan to marry, unless I'm forced into it by my parents and family. I have already told my Mom, I never plan to have kids either, it's my own choice. I'd never do it! But you wanted a REASON for why people marry, I have given you an initial answer and a new one here in this comment. "They are forced into it by their parents/family members, despite their say or will in it!". Don't get me wrong, I am very much AGAINST marriage. You have a LOT less responsibility and accountability to peole being SINGLE you whole life.

[Vegasrunner]

@Opinion owner So even you understand there is no point for a man to get married. My point is you phrase the argument as if I claimed single men where unhappy.

[cranberrycattoystory]

I wouldn't call it "unhappy". I was just giving you some justifications for why men CHOOSE to get married, even though they are perfectly fine with being with multiple women, satisfying lust is the ultimate goal... And yeah, marriage is pointless take a dump on it... You're throwing the rest of your life away for what? A wife and, kids? Don't expect them to be grateful to having birthed them, they clearly didn't choose to be born, and are not even able to provide for even themselves in childhood. But oh, parents know how to guilt trip you very well... I personally don't want kids because I haven't had the best childhood, being raised by ignorant and uncaring people would do that to you... Some people just get married to not have to remain virgins their entire lives, and have to deal with the consequences... XD

[cranberrycattoystory]

And what I have said initially about lust and sex, still hold true. I believe in it. Too much of one feeling, is definitely bad for your mental health, life, and social interactions in general. But coming, to "single" v/s "married", it's a lot more fun in you're single! You get to "do it" with multiple perfect beautiful girls and women. Compared to your average wife!

[Vegasrunner]

@cranberrycattoystory Good points and you're correct staying single is much better for men.

[cranberrycattoystory]

It's the BEST. Did you know, the constitution of marriage was created by and because OF women, being the fairer sex, did not have to work a day the rest of her life, and wanted to live off their husbands? And now that the Feminists succeeded and DID get their chance to work their *ss off the rest of their lives, the burden's gone for us men to take them "under our wings", so GTFO, b*tch... To summarize: Marriage is a Dream, Desire and Life killer. Do NOT get married, unless you like mediocrity and lameness... 🤢 DO NOT listen to the Boomers either, they're the generation that started and fought both the World Wars in history, they're animals, we Gen Zs are NOT...

[Vegasrunner]

@cranberrycattoystory Agreed.

[236color]

I sincerely doubt single men have more sex than married men. I certainly didn't.

[Vegasrunner]

@236color You doubt it because you werent able to get laid?

[Godihateyou]

Impossible. I've been married for more than 20 years. I have had sex 2 times a day for the first 7 years. Every day for the next 10 years. 3 times a week for the next 2 years and every day again since I found one of those horny pills on YouTube

[Vegasrunner]

@godihateyou TY for sharing. What does this have to do with the question?

[Godihateyou]

Has a single person had more sex than that? Are you too stupid to add it up or too stupid to read?

[Vegasrunner]

@godihateyou TY for your question, please dont be embarrassed that you dont know. What you are presenting is called anecdotal evidence and doest have relevance in a general statement. It would be like if I said, I had sex with a different woman 5 times a week every week for the last 20+ years. Does a married person have more sex than that? What the question asks is does the average married person have more sex than the average single person. With many studies showing that the average married man has sex less than 3 times a year, not to mention their having sex w/ the same woman over and over. Single men can have sex with different women every night if the want.

[Godihateyou]

Thank you fori exposing yourself as pedantic kunt.

[Vegasrunner]

@godihateyou Ty for exposing yourself as a cuck only capable of getting one woman.

[Godihateyou]

You don't know what a cuck is f***** cunt. I've had one woman that has had one man. You have never been inside a woman and if you had she would have been with dozens of men. You retarded cuck

[Vegasrunner]

@godihateyou If you've only been w/ one woman for all that time, that means you're stuck banging the same old lady day after day?

[Godihateyou]

Thousands of times. With a pure woman that knows how to pleas a man. All you have is mud shark whores. Lol. Sloppy seconds and thirds. Ha ha ha ha. Sucks to be you

[Vegasrunner]

@godihateyou Thats unfortunate for you, perhaps if you raised your value you could attract younger hotter women?

[Godihateyou]

My wife is super hot. I'd send you a pick but you're ghey anyway

[Vegasrunner]

@godihateyou I dont want a pick of an old lady, besides its still just the same women over and over.

[Godihateyou]

Spoken like a man that's only had sex with girls he paid.

[Vegasrunner]

@godihateyou Interesting. How do you know what a man who pays for prostitutes sounds like?

[Godihateyou]

I was a vice detective for 11 years before I passed the bar and became a prosecutor for the last 11 years.

[Vegasrunner]

@godihateyou So its fair to say you have a bias in favor of believing everyone is a john?

[Godihateyou]

Its fair to say you are a pedantic kunt. The type that makes women's vaginas dry up so much you'd have to pay them 1000 to look at.

[Vegasrunner]

@godihateyou Im sure that's something your life choices have led you to believe but remember im not the one stuck w/ only one woman.

[Anonymous]

Do they. Im married and he has sex with me so often im thinking of bringing a third in just so I can get a break.

[Vegasrunner]

@anonymous Yes in general single guys have more sex. In addition we get to have a variety, sounds like your husband is having sex w/ the same woman over and over?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes my husband is always on me. When I went on birth control my ass and boobs grew for no reason, maybe thats it.

[Vegasrunner]

@Opinion owner Thats unfortunate for him, perhaps if he was of higher value he could attract more women?

[Opinion Owner]

he's plenty high value. Swear he just keeps getting better looking as ge gets older. He seems to really like a big butt though.

[Vegasrunner]

@Opinion Owner How can he be HV if he's stuck w/ one woman? What does he do for a living?

[Opinion Owner]

he's not stuck with one woman. he's an accountant and a farmer.

[Vegasrunner]

@Opinion owner Oh you're sayong he has sex w/ multiple woman?

[Opinion Owner]

No but he could if he wanted to im sure. I've seen the women creaming themselves at the dances trying to get with him despite me being there with him. he's too good a dancer I think, too sexy.

[Vegasrunner]

@Opinion owner I agree w/ you women are attracted to men who can get other women, but if I understand you correctly you're saying he's stuck w/ only you?

[Opinion Owner]

We are married and he's a high value Christian man of honour.

[Vegasrunner]

@Opinion owner Gotcha, in he's church he has value but he's not HV when it comes to other women?

[Opinion Owner]

he's high value to other women, I've seen other women try to take him home with me there. Other women are always after him and he's not even trying.

[Vegasrunner]

@Opinion owner Thats a form of social proof, and validates the fact that women want men who have other women. However the fact that he can't get them says something about his value.

[Opinion Owner]

If he choose he could walk out the door of the club with any of him but he has integrity and honour. Maybe you and I come from different cultures and were raised differently which is why you can't understand

[Vegasrunner]

@Opinion owner I understand perfectly. He has only been able to actually attract one woman.

[Tarifa]

Because not everything is about sex. It's more about the bond between two people.

[andreasderjuengere]

I wonder the same.
Maybe... to have regular meals, a life insurance and a lawn to mow on Saturday morning?

[RavVid]

I thought we had stopped doing that for that exact reason..

[Alex-Snow]

Is this really true? If so I'm going to stay single. But does that figure include masturbation?

[Vegasrunner]

@Alex-Snow Its true. Spend the next 10 years building up wealth and by 30 you can have as many beautiful women you want.

[gangster123]

There is life outside of sex too.. a trusted partner, soulmate to share life not just body always

[5KsMpZ089JPB]

men don’t marry for sex. i would assume not as much anymore at least, as casual sex has become less stigmatized in the last century.

[ChadThunderCack]

Cuz social tell me they got to. But now days have you see how women act? Fuck that! No free rides from me bitches!

[rojodefender]

Weirdly enough... Marriage does not end at sex.

[Spencer10]

Do you have a source for this claim?

[Shiprex]

Societal expectations

[loveyouoak]

Marriage is not just about sex.

[Jackblue]

They want life companions.

[Pterodon]

That isn’t true. Married have sex more often

[Vegasrunner]

@Pterodon Married women maybe but not married men.

[Pterodon]

Nope. Many studies on sex. Married men have more sex more often than singles

[Vegasrunner]

@Pterodon All the ones I have read and conducted say otherwise. Think about it is it more likely to convince one woman that knows you dont have options or convince a bunch of women who know you have options?

[ammar12343]

That’s not true