Do girls beat around the bush, instead of just saying it?

[Phil4Real]

For example, if a guys asks a girl out and she says, "I really want to but..." is it safe to say that she's just using an excuse instead of just saying no. And if she just says that she can't make it without suggesting another time to hang out, is it safe to say that she's not interested, or should one ask again. Or even perhaps a third time? Anything, after that is pointless I know.

[amanda32]

My advice is to not stop trying...

There's several girls who are too busy to go on dates and what not. I'm one of them. There's several guys who've asked me out so many times and I keep blowing them off. Finally I said yes and I was glad they didn't stop trying. The date was so much fun and I was glad I eventually got to go out with the guy. I used the same lines as that girl is using. I guess it's just a girl thing...

Definitely not safe to say that she isn't interested if she doesn't suggest another time to hang out! Girls usually want the guy to suggest another time to hang out. Just give her time and don't rush her. If you really like her, give her space and keep being understanding.

Only give up if...

She ignores your texts or calls

She says "You're really nice and all but..."

or if She sees you somewhere and ignores you or pretends like she didn't see you

90% of all other circumstances, I'd say don't stop trying.

[atfcub]

To anyone else with this problem:

I disagree with her^

I have a lot of experience with women. 'Amanda' has no experience with women.

don't put women on a pedestal. Amanda' wants to be put on a pedestal. What I mean by this is:

If she says I really want to but this and that, dont reply
If she says she's too busy without suggesting another time, dont reply
If she says she's busy and suggests another time and flakes the second time stop talking to her
If a girl is 'blowing you off' snap out of it and stop talking to her
You are not 'giving up', you have done your share of the work.
'you're really nice but' - don't think about that too much, just ignore it
if she see you somewhere and ignores you/pretends, ignore her.
The reasons for doing these things above are so VAST I cannot even fit it into this little box. Just do it like religion.
A man never stops trying. he just finishes his share of the work.

[Phil4Real]

@atfcub Just read this. Excellent answer. I agree wholeheartedly.

[CarrieDawn]

Not necessarily...sometimes it is just so it's not too blunt and mean. But I think you can tell if a girl is really sincere about it or just saying that, you know?

Ask a second time if needed...after that, if it's still the same, I'd say leave it at that. Or, give her your number so if she actually wants to pursue it, she will on her own time. Cause I know myself and a lot of girls are ACTUALLY really busy, we aren't just saying that!

[Anonymous]

Sometimes ... it really depends on the girl. Don't ask any MORE than three times, though. That should be enough. Some girls really are extremely busy, though. It depends on the girl ... if you know she's got a lot going on in her life, it may be legit. If you know she's just hanging with her friends or watching TV during all of her spare time, she's not interested.

[ImALuvrNotAFighter]

You'll seldom get a candid answer; you're far more likely to get an excuse. That excuse will usually not contain the word "no," nor will it contain the real reason you're being turned down (low interest). That tends to be true of both genders; being too honest and candid can lead to confrontations, so most people just give socially acceptable excuses instead.

[moviedude714]

even if girls are truly busy, I wish they can just say "not yet but how about this day?"

[Anonymous]

That's a character thing, and therefore it's not about all girls. But enerally speaking, girls aren't as straight forward as guys are.

Ask her out once more and if she keeps on beating around the bush, then drop her from your mind.

[Anonymous]

Ask once more and see what she says. Tell her that you want to go out with her and that she should pick a day, if she wants to go out with you she sure as hell will find some time that she can. If not she's bluffing.

[Anonymous]

I love the bush!