Why does my hot neighbor still stalk me online when he has a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I moved to a new house and there’s a cute guy Nextdoor, we liked each other and would stalk each other non stop since our rooms are across each other. We barely had any interactions but we had a huge crush on each other.

I found his instagram and noticed that he had a girlfriend who looks a lot like me, same hair color, body type, skin color and even freckles… I got mad and stopped liking him and putting attention to him.

Even so he still stalks me, my instagram and everything I do and is all sad and butt hurt that I don’t pay attention to him.

Why is he like this? Like he has a girlfriend, I don’t understand him

[AviatorTom]

You and he flirt with each other, he has no reason to end that flirting. Just because a guy has a girlfriend doesn't mean he doesn't find other women attractive.

And now, let me give you guy logic. He has a girlfriend, not a wife. If they break up, which often happens with girlfriend/boyfriend relationships, he would be able to date you.

Plus, he doesn't knw why you stopped flirting with him, so he's just gonna continue.

[RedAlertAdvisor]

I think you're trying to explain his behavior without actually having much information about his intentions.

What do we know?

• He has a girlfriend.
• You had a mutual crush.
• You stopped giving him attention.
• He still looks at your social media.

That doesn't automatically mean he wants a relationship with you.

It could be attraction.
It could be curiosity.
It could be ego.
It could simply be a habit.

Reality Check:

The most important part of this story isn't that he watches your profile.

It's that he has a girlfriend and has never actually chosen to pursue anything with you.

Pay more attention to what people do than what you imagine they might feel.

[HollyK21]

Just because he has a girlfriend does not mean he’s a good partner, and he seems to fit that bill, since he will shamelessly and openly flirt with another woman. Being in a relationship also doesn’t mean he’s completely content or happy in it either. Sometimes people stay together out of convenience, familiarity, they may even stay together because they don’t enjoy life as a single people.

[Finchie40]

Because if he had the opportunity to do so, he would have sex with you as well , he definitely finds you attractive and has a crush on you , why he is still stalking your profile , if him and his girlfriend break up , he might try hitting up you next

[spartan55]

How would you know he's all 'sad and butthurt?' Why would he be? Because you ignore him? He probably didn't even notice.
If it's a problem that he looks at your public Instagram profile then block him?

[darkcloud1945]

If he loses his girlfriend for whatever reason, he thinks he can pick up with you without missing a beat because you look like his ex-girlfriend, and he feels emboldened. Keep an eye on your back because he will sneak up on you

[Anonymous]

Weird. If I had a girlfriend, I'd stop creeping on my crush.

[jimbob70]

Playing both side of fence trying to
find out if each other really feeling for each other

[Cw992]

It sounds like you two have a lot in common. Big fans of stalking apparently. You're perfect for each other.

[rojodefender]

Is this an advertisement for a book? Hell kind of situation is this?

[OlderAndWiser]

How old are you really? How old is he?

[Just_Ken]

Same reason guys look at porn.

[jazzy34]

Block him. Problem solved.

[RavVid]

If one is good, two is better right?

[WhitneySnow]

He wants both of you!

[ella617281]

Because he is a man.

[Danny_dan92]

He wants all the pussy in the world

[Wodens_Apprentice]

You want me to stalk you instead foid? 😈

[Anonymous]

What will you do with him date him

[leviopperman]

maybe you're hotter

[Djkelly]

He's a dumbass