Should I tell him I like him if my friend also likes him and we’re all close?

[Anonymous]

Shld I tell him I like him? My frnd lowkey likes him too even tho she got boyfriend. If I tell, whole grp gonna know Me & him never even talked, he's nonchalant af & I'm chalant Can't get him out my head tho he ain't even my type. Also don't wanna mess up my friendship w her. Plus he's close w her boyfriend and all my mutuals ngl I keep thnking Im not his type either cuz I'm curvy & there r other pretty girls. Also i don't want others to know I like him cuz initially I didn't like him because of nonchalant but now I do because of that fcking mysterious brooding personality. Like we have been in same circle multiple time and we haven't interacted his friends say that he is less interesting which I can see he doesn't interact that much also with anyone but ARGHHHHH I want Closure, i thought to tell him and ask him to swear secrery never tell anyone but ik he is that close to my friends boyfriend that he will tell him and my friend, her boyfriend and few more friends we have overlapping friend grp

[SueShe]

You can have closure even if you don't tell him. It is not going to change anything if you do and you risk to lose your friend, to even cause a separation of that couple.

You are only fooling yourself if you think that he will not tell anyone by making him promise not to. Promises are made to be broken and since you don't know him that well, you cannot tell whether he is capable of keeping such a promise.

What you have is infatuation and not love. It takes years of knowing a person before true love develops. And what will happen if he does not respond the way you want? Have you given a thought about that possibility?

[SueShe]

Thanks for the MHO

[QuineJessica]

I would advise you to talk about everything openly. You should always put yourself first

[spartan55]

Girl, you have everything all out of order. You haven't even talked to the guy, so you might think he is a boring slug once you do. That's the first order of business.
Your friend likes him but she has a boyfriend? She has no call to say anything about it then.

[Alex-Snow]

OFC just be honest and see where it goes. How old is he? Do u follow him on socials? Maybe he has a crush on you?

[Asker]

Nah I don't have socials and I don't follow him on any platform, he is a year or two older than me cuz he is my senior

[WhitneySnow]

Tell him. Your friend has no right to object cause she already has a boyfriend.

[HollyK21]

I’ve been in this situation twice and I wouldn’t recommend it.

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah, but be prepared to get cheated on by him and betrayed by your friend if he just wants sex from all the women in the world

[Jamie05rhs]

F your friend. Who cares? She already has a boyfriend. If she wanted THAT man, she should have asked HIM. Her loss. Your gain.

[Anonymous]

Why he ain’t your type? What’s your type?

[Asker]

Cause I'm extremely talkative and I'm super chalant and I have adhd so that feel the whole thing more but anyways he ain't my type cuz I get anxious in any relationship where other person is this nonchalant i feel I'm forcing myself of them. My type is someone chalant and goofy or needy this guy is not even one I don't know why I like him🫠

[Opinion Owner]

I meant looks wise

[dudeinohio]

Tell him. Your friend is already taken.

[Anonymous]

Yes tell him