Should I tell my guy friend I like him?

[Anonymous]

My friend is a really amazing guy but he doesn't see it. I've known him for a year and we are really good friends and we trust each other. He's been feeling really down and suicidal lately and it makes me feel really bad to him to the point where I'm crying for him (I've never felt this bad for anybody before). He texted me last night saying "why does nobody love me" and I basically told him "That's not true, there are people who love you and care about you very much". I've told him I love him before but he didn't acknowledge it. If I had the courage, I'd tell him that he's the most amazing person I've ever met and I'd do anything for him and that all I want is for him to be happy. I know some of his girlfriends have cheated on him in the past. But, I'd allways be loyal and faithful to him. And those girls didn't know what a amazing guy they lost and what a great person they hurt. All I'm asking is if I should tell him. I'm fat and ugly (he's overweight too but he's got a handsome face. But I don't care about what he looks like.) and he's allready told me he's not attracted to me. But deep down I feel he might love me too. And I'm wondering if when he asking me why nobody loves him that he wanted me to tell him how I feel. I'm guessing no, but I'm just wondering. This whole thing is eating me up inside.

[Reddr]

It's never a bad idea to tell someone you love them. When you hold back, you don't know if you'll ever get the chance again. Shit happens.
However you have to do so with no expectations of anything in return. You don't say you love someone to hear it back, you say it because you mean it and nothing will ever change that fact. Not even not hearing it back. You know what the likely result of this is going to be: he had already told you that he isn't attracted to you (doesn't mean you're ugly by the way just means he isn't attracted to you.) So you have to ask yourself that knowing it isn't going to result in him saying it back or suddenly wanting a relationship with you (that shit happens in fairy tales only) do you still love him the same? If the answer is yes, you tell him, and you tell him because he is your friend that is in a dark place and needs to know that someone out there loves him. If the answer is no, then you don't really love him but you're in love with the idea of being with him. You then need to show your support of him in a different way (suicidal means the guy needs help) and you need to work on moving on from the idea of being with him when he has said he doesn't want to be with you.

[Asker]

So it basically means I won't find love cause I'm ugly. I've asked 6 guys out before and they've all rejected me. I'll never find someone who loves me. Maybe I should just kill myself. Even if he said no I'd still be his friend but I'd still feel sad.

[Reddr]

That's not at all what that says. Like it is the complete opposite of what I said.

[Anonymous]

Definitely tell him. Especially if he's acting suicidal. Even if it means he doesn't like you back, it's definitely worth it to tell him and it should make him feel better knowing someone cares about him and is there for him in his tough time.

[reptocarl]

Yes tell him how you feel

[Asker]

How should I tell him?

[reptocarl]

In person and from the heart

[Asker]

I don't see him anymore though. I just graduated high school and he lives 30 minutes away from me. And plus, I'm much too shy to tell him in person. I wrote up a text though. I'm debating on if I should send it or not.

[Asker]

Although my dad is getting his license soon and might be able to drive me to his house. But I'm still too scared and shy to tell him in person.

[reptocarl]

Doing nothing is getting you nowhere. Nothing ventured nothing gained

[reptocarl]

Texting is turning everyone into wimps

[Asker]

How so?

[Asker]

And I'm very shy because I've been bullied since 5th grade. And every guy I've asked out has rejected me because I'm ugly (6 times). So texting isn't the problem, bullying is.

[reptocarl]

I hope it goes your way

[Asker]

I might not tell him though

[reptocarl]

Oh you have to the not knowing will kill you

[Asker]

I know it will but I'm too shy :(

[reptocarl]

You can do it.

[Asker]

I really can't. I'll probably just get rejected again because I'm ugly.

[reptocarl]

Based upon your conversation I dont think you will

[reptocarl]

And stop calling yourself ugly

[Asker]

I've told him I've loved him before when he said he was going to kill himself. But he didn't acknowledge it. I've never told him how I really feel though and that I love him for who he is as a person.

[Asker]

But I don't think I'll tell him. Like I said he's told me he's not attracted to me before so I'll probably get rejected.

[reptocarl]

But those are really nice things to say to someone. He'll always remember that and it might pay off for you in the future if it doesn't now

[Asker]

I don't think it matters :(

[reptocarl]

Everyone has something that makes them attractive to someone else. It doesn't have to be looks. It could be a sense of humor, a talent, kindness

[sarahaus]

Please tell him how you feel about him. And don't just say it so he won't kill himself, or so he won't be sad. Say it because you mean it and life is too short to not tell your friends how hard you love them.

[Asker]

But I'm scared. I've been rejected by other guys 6 times allready.

[sarahaus]

So, get rejected again. Or don't get rejected again because he might feel the same way. But it sounds to me from your little description, that he has a lot to deal with right now. Romance probably isn't on his mind. He feels alone and hopeless, and needs friends to support him and love him. So id say to just be there for him as best you can, you can't control what he chooses to say or do. But you can be there for him, as a friend for now.

[Asker]

But being rejected would just tell me even more how ugly I am. I thought it was supposed to be easy for girls to get boyfriends. I guess I'm a failure as a woman. :(

[sarahaus]

I hope you're not serious. Let me tell you something, I'm 20 years old and I haven't had 1 relationship yet. My butt is killer, I'm a virgin so things are tight, and I get compliments on my appearance all the time. What TRULY matters is how you carry yourself. I don't care to go to your profile because it doesn't matter. My opinion on your appearance should be irrelevant to you. A relationship is so much more than just sexual attraction. A relationship is communication. Intelligence, humor, vulnerability, fun, friendship, and sex. Keep yourself clean, brush your teeth regularly wash your face shower. Love your body first, and then someone else will love it TOO. Ya dig?

[Asker]

Ugly people can't find love though. Everything is about looks. :(

[sarahaus]

Well, there lies your problem. You think everything is about looks. Appearance means something, yes. But not everything is about looks. I don't want to date a girls who actually thinks everything is about looks. I want to date a girl who has an unstoppable imagination, teaches me new things, shows me new things, works hard, has a passion. I have two best guy friends. They both would agree strongly with what I just said. Change that mindset. Trust me. Look up stylelikeu on YouTube, and watch a few of their videos.

[Asker]

Then why have I gotten rejected? Look at my profile pic I'm obviously ugly. :(

[Curioussgurl13]

Tell him how you feel before its too late. What you say to him might mean the world to him and can even make a great impact on his life. You shouldn't wait. Text him right now and tell him how you feel :) Don't be afraid to let it all out.

[Asker]

How should I tell him though? I'm very scared about what he might say back :(

[Curioussgurl13]

Hey, I'm only 13. I wouldn't know how to tell him. That's for you to decide. Just let your feelings all out. But what are you more scared of? Him getting hurt and cutting more? Or telling him how you feel which could make him very happy? :) If he is a suicidal person, you should tell him how you feel about it and it hurts you to know that he's cutting himself. You care about him a lot. I can see it through your litttle question speech thingy :)

[Curioussgurl13]

And if you've known him for a year, that just shows how much great of a person you are being for him. If you tell him how you feel, I guaranttee it would make him feel a lot much better ;)

[Asker]

I'm very scared though.

[Curioussgurl13]

I know how you might feel. But sometimes you just got to GO FOR IT. You can't wait for things to happen. You've got to make them happen. You don't have to do it now, but I recommend you do.

[kaminalove]

Tell him straight up hon. Tell him how you feel so that he will actually believe that someone loves him for who he is.

[Asker]

Did you read the whole thing?

[kaminalove]

Oh fuck not the last paragraph
How does he act around you?

[Asker]

He's never been mean to me or anything. He does flirt with me a lot and he's very playful with me.

[kaminalove]

Be more specific. When ypu say flirty, what do you mean? Like I don't physically see him haha.

[Asker]

I don't know. I sit next to him in class and he looks at me a lot in class.

[kaminalove]

What else :) drop tha bomb.

I honestly dont wanna put your hopes up. That's why I am asking for details..

[Just1n123]

Tell him, he'll feel better and maybe you two will go out in the near future!

[Asker]

Probably not. I'm ugly. :(

[Just1n123]

You're not ugly, everyone has beauty.

[Asker]

Well I don't :(

[Just1n123]

Yes you do, I do too, even though others don't think so because of my eye but I do

[Asker]

No I don't have beauty. Inside or out. :(

[mgbeauty21]

Tell him exactly how you feel even if he doesn't feel the same way. It could mean a lot to him and if you truly love him, you'll want him to be happy so yes.

[Anonymous]

Just tell him straight up that you like him.

[Asker]

How though? I'm very scared.

[Inuyasha]

No u shouldn't.

[Asker]

Why not?

[Asker]

@Inuyasha

[Inuyasha]

Huh what what I'm just messing around. Go let him no how you feel. If not? Well at least you tried lol.

[Anonymous]

Don't tell him.

[Asker]

Why not?

[Anonymous]

You should tell him.

[Asker]

I'm really scared though. How should I tell him?