Do guys ever praise other girls on purpose just to neg you?

[Anonymous]

Especially if he knows you hate that girl

[HollyK21]

Yeah, there’s definitely guys out there who do that, and I feel like they’re a very specific category of guys you’re better off avoiding. The biggest thing at play, in my opinion, is immaturity. He’s not mature enough to ask for attention, or even validation and who knows, maybe you’re in a setting where he doesn’t feel as though he can direct progress things, like at work. In general though, he’s relying on mind games to prompt the reaction out of you he’s trying to get a read on, and I’m just not a fan of that. I look at it as a number of things, like insecure, or egotistical. But at the end of the day, no matter how you slice it that would be emotional manipulation.


Of course, this is assuming you have the correct read on what’s going on. Because based of the context provided it looks as though you’re doing more outside observing than you are actually asking questions and getting answers.

[Asker]

Can I dm you a bit later? If that’s okay. I’m confused if that’s what was happening.

Would be great to have another persons perspective

[HollyK21]

Of course! Would you mind sharing your name so I can add you? I have over 1k friend requests lol I can delete your comment right after☺️

[bear34]

This is a completely personal issue. Instead of pulling ridiculous stunts like this, they should have the courage to speak up about the problem. If they don't have the guts to say what the problem is, then they can just get lost.

[Anonymous]

Yes, guys absolutely do this. It is a classic manipulation tactic used to intentionally undermine your confidence, make you feel insecure, and cause you to seek their validation.

[RavVid]

I am sure it happens. He might think you are unfair to girl X

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

Wow! Very observant of you.