Why do some guys not care?

[Anonymous]

Because I’m a very nice caring person I never understand how some people can be so self centred.

and I take it upon myself that there must be something flawed in me for them to not care.

but now I wonder whether if a guy is like that all it means is he’s not a nice person not that I’m undesirable. What do you think

[slatyb]

It's them. There are a lot of them. It's your job to stay away until you figure if someone cares.

[Kvass]

It just means you two aren't a good match

[Asker]

But see this is like the third time that I’ve seen this scenario play out.

All were guys who were just guys I liked I’m not sure they even realized I liked them.

And also they were all assholes

And they all liked other girls more than me

[Kvass]

Time to learn how to pick better guys to love

[Asker]

But like I’m also confused I don’t have stories of any guy going out of his way to woo me

Even though these guys were bad fits and not good people why don’t the normal guys seem to like me?

[Anonymous]

He isn't worth it. You can do better.

[Asker]

But why would they not care do they think I’m not the dream girl

[Opinion Owner]

Everyone has different dreams. You are someone’s, just not his

[Asker]

But see this is like the third time that I’ve seen this scenario play out.

All were guys who were just guys I liked I’m not sure they even realized I liked them.

And also they were all assholes

And they all liked other girls more than me

[Opinion Owner]

If they were assholes though, why did you like them?

[Asker]

The first one approached me when I was sitting by myself not the other way around. Then my jealous friend tried to woo him on the same day and he switched sides to (possibly pursue her). I only met both on that one day and I have zero clue if he dated her or not.

The second one I thought he liked me when I wouldn’t pay attention to him he’d act out like crazy. But his later behaviour doesn’t really seem to match a guy who liked me I thought he liked the other girl.

Third time - I actually did like the guy. However again he doesn’t seem to care about my feelings at all and again I think he’s more interested in another girl.

How can it be that all 3 times not only were the guys indifferent they liked other girls it’s so weird

[In_Trance]

For the same reason girls don't care

[Asker]

Which is