Why are guys so oblivious?

Question

the amount of times i would flirt with a guy, teasing them and what not. and everybody but the person i’m flirting with notices. why is that?

cth96190 · Accepted Answer

Because Feminists and sundry other loons have made any expression of interest in a female so dangerous that many (perhaps most) males will not respond.
How can men tell the difference between a female who is naturally friendly and one who is demonstrating interest?
If you find out, let us know.
Most men have a story about how they got into legal and/or administrative trouble when they mistook a female being friendly for being interested.
#MeToo, Title IX, false rape allegations and more.
Women are just too dangerous to be around.

SnowedIn · Accepted Answer

Agreeing with what @guy13 said and adding that guys also fear rejection. That the flirting is  only  that: flirting. And not wanting to get hopes up and then have them dashed. There is also the much more immature thing of, when in a group of guys, not wanting to admit a girl is flirting.

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

Because they’re too busy living life…

Emotions aren’t everything.

Life doesn’t equate to emotion.

Life equates to actually LIVING/ DOING it, and enjoying THAT.

who has time to pick through the cards what emotions they’re gonna feel in the day, and what they’re gonna let lead them and dictate their day.

Emotions are intangible.

Lead your mind. Love your life. Have fucking fun 😂👌

Guy13 · Answer

It is not that we do not notice... Often, it is insecurity that the "pretty girl" could like me. Young guys, that you should be dating, are not leaders. Don't be in a rush...

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Flip side of that situation: why are girls so indirect? Why don't they just directly say what they are thinking and feeling?

Summeroflove · Answer

Because they’re probably not into you

Kaneki05 · Answer

Welp I would like to think I noticed today.
As for why one maybe oblivious is because others tell them it's not or they are just not interested so see's nothing back or they are socially awkward or very safe so they play it that way unless she actually states anything concert.

Wubs3000 · Answer

It's not that we are oblivious, its that we choose not to pick up on the signs out of fear of being labeled a creep or worse; and losing a friend.
What if the man takes the hint but you decide that you don't want to commit to it, you can just back out of it and label the man a creep. If you want men to respond to you, be direct.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

That happens because of either a lack of confidence, or wayyyy too many experiences with women flirting with you to either get something from you, tease you for fun/entertainment, or pull a prank on you.

Women are not the nice, pleasant people you all think you are.

DarkOsiris · Answer

There's always a chance we don't see it because it's not a common occurrence for the majority of guys. However, we often downplay that "hints" are occurring when we see them because I, like many other guys, have experienced what it's like to misread "hints".

It's unfortunate for girls who still rely on these ultra-subtle "hints". There are women out there who do it purposefully to mess with guys too, so it's better to play dumb and be safe than sorry.

AdithyaR · Answer

It's generally a combination of two things.
Most guys intentionally act oblivious cause they don't wanna come off as presumptuous and make it seem they were being weird.
Sometimes it's cause they're insecure don't believe anyone would find them attractive enough to flirt with.
Or some just are simply socially inept and don't notice.

Big_Dong · Answer

There can be multiple reasons the guy is just not very socially aware when communicating with girls. He is nervous and can't think straight or he maybe isn't a flirty guy. There are probably more but it also helps if you want to be more upfront and direct because one of the last things a man wants to do is read into something that isn't there or he isn't completely sure about and end up embarrassing himself or making it awkward

loveslongnails · Answer

Maybe you're flirting with the wrong guys, or maybe they're too scared to flirt back. Try something bold if they're not responding, like "dude, I'm only gonna flirt with you for 5 more minutes. If ya don't do something with it, I'll figure I'm wasting my time". LOL

Pohjolan · Answer

For starters flirting is not making a move. It has plausible deniability and some people flirt just for fun.

Also they may not consider the situation to be fitting for making a move or they are shy.

Judging by your age we are talking about young men?

Besides what exactly do you do to flirt with them?

Anonymous · Answer

We've all been burned by the chick who flirts just for the attention, but hits you with the "it was only friendly flirting, I don't like you that way" when you ask for a date or her number.

Not all of us have developed a thick enough skin to just brush it off every time.

RealMarek · Answer

There are many possible reasons. He might not find you attractive. He might find you attractive but have a crush on or commitment to someone else. He might be shy. He might be clueless and need a more direct approach.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Why do girls give mixed signals? It's just best to be oblivious unless she's really straight forward with her intentions. A guy who would try to guess if she wants a relationship would make him sound desperate.

boggboss · Answer

Because they for the most part are straightforward why do women feel the need to communicate in puzzles and riddles when they can say it man ways women flirt they wpuld also do to playfully tease

Anonymous · Answer

Oh we notice, but since 2017 and the start of #METOO, we have been told that women want to be left alone, so we are not 'oblivious' we have just learned to keep a distance. If you really - really like the guy quit with the flirting & teasing, and be up front about what you want, but if all you are going to do is flirt & tease, don't bother!!!

Sparkie460 · Answer

They are afraid that they are reading your flirting in the wrong way. It would be easier for both parties if you just come out and say you were interested in them like guys do to women. Some women flirt just to flirt. They are just a tease.

kellytheman · Answer

I think some guys are either scared or worried they might be getting the wrong idea and try to flirt back or do something. They usually worried getting rejected and fell stupid thinking the girl likes him and his self confidence takes a big hit.

ArtemisSilver · Answer

A lot of guys are taught that having any kind of interest in women is bad and it damages their self esteem to the point that they can't even imagine being hit on.

nolabels · Answer

Shyness on the part of the guy would be my most go-to reason.

AngelOfLight258 · Answer

Girl, something I've learned about guys: their minds aren't wired to be very straightforward.

AllGoodNamesRGone · Answer

I have come to the conclusion that we are either living in denial or just completely oblivious to what is really going on 😂🤭

TroyDT2 · Answer

Many or most of us are not accustomed to getting hit on. When it comes to getting hit on some of us, like me, are as dense as a neutron star.

AndrésC64 · Answer

Why do girls play games and not just tell us what they want? We aren't mind readers and you aren't children.

animesenpai · Answer

Someone showing genuine interest in me is so rare they basically need to rent a billboard and put it on there for me to notice

Anonymous · Answer

We were not born with mind reading satellite dishes on top of our heads.

Shy_Steve · Answer

The fact is we don't know and know one has taught us how to read signals and we are so afraid of a Girl thinking we are Creepy or Weird.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Lol it’s probably you aren’t as good at flirting as you think you are…. Or he isn’t that into you.

Cedman · Answer

Men fear rejection so they will assume you being nice instead of flirting. Also if the guy you are with may not be that socially adjusted.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

We are dummies and worried that it’s not flirting. You gotta be blunt with us

Dat-Alpha-Lion · Answer

Maybe cuz guys are pretty starved for attention that any they get is strange.

Yellovv · Answer

Because some of the girls have huge ego over the moon, that's why they don't want to make some of the girls ass up..

Solitario_94 · Answer

He could perceive your flirtatiousness as rudeness or provocation.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe because men dont read minds. Perhaps women should learn to be more direct.

Anonymous · Answer

Because most women think they're obvious, and they're not.

dustybiker · Answer

It’s a game. Men appreciate bluntness more.

anon1903 · Answer

Guys = dumb

exitseven · Answer

Maybe they notice but are not interested.

Andres77 · Answer

Aspbergers was not my friend.

red_knight · Answer

We don't get hints

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Why are chicks so vague?

ItalianKing02 · Answer

What are the sighs maybe I don't know

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Your not doing it right then.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Oblivious… ok

Anonymous · Answer

Lack of experience.

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