Why would a guy be attracted to a housekeeper at his mom’s nursing home?

Question

Be honest—why would a guy seem interested in or drawn to a housekeeper who works at the nursing home where his mom is staying? Whenever he sees me from across the building, he’ll turn around just to wave at me. He’s complimented my shoes before, and we’ve had a short conversation about them. He seems a little older, maybe late 30s or early 40s, while I’m in my late 20s.

His dad, on the other hand, can be a pain in the ass. He’s very difficult to please and has gotten on the nerves of several staff members, including me. One time, he thought I had sprayed something on his wife’s banana and asked me if I did it. I was confused and said, “Why would I spray her banana?” because I wasn’t even near it.

I’m trying to learn to have more empathy for people who display difficult behavior, though. I didn’t really think about how hard it must be for him to see his wife living in a nursing home. Maybe some of his behavior comes from feeling helpless and needing to have some sense of control over what’s happening around her.

I feel like he (the son) could be a mamas boy or have low self esteem idk… maybe he’s a red flag or a loser

Anonymous · Answer

Stop this BS "empathy for people with difficult behavior".

Instead have empathy for yourself. Feel violated when his dad does fucked up trash like that. It is bot normal and unless you psychologically crucify yourself over it, then your subconscious will gravitate toward glazing it with fake "empathy" and you will either become like his shit dad or become an enabler of such trash actions.

About the boy's motives, just look at a user posting both age gap and fighting parents questions on here, old bro has a thing for teenagers because he lives with his pensioner parents. Because he lacks control over his own life, his nervous system has a hardon and fetishizes for controlling very young people. Yes there is a chance that the boy sees you as an influence opportunity. Most people have a certain degree of mommy and daddy issues, and his daddy is guaranteed to have transfered them to him.

So, even if he is thoroughly convinced that you are just "his type" then our "types" are precisely the thing shaped by mommy and daddy issues.

But you wrote that not only he complimented your shoes but you had a short conversation about them... it looks like you were more invested in it than him or else the conversation wouldn't register in your mind as a conversation. Of course you are, you wouldn't be asking this whole thing if you didn't care. ㅤ

This also be a start of some sort of love story. Whatever, i just wanted to be a smart ass about empathy.

Anonymous · Answer

You're call him a loser to mask that you feel something for him?

You seem to still have interest in him despite you're saying he us a low quality.

And it sounds like he is just being nice. Not flirting. But thanks for saying this. I know i am having respect for myself not giving compliments to women or approaching them. This helps confirm my beliefs about women. You have to act nonchalant and like you don't give a shit about them to make their pussy wet. So the next a woman says why don't men approach or compliment i will try to remember what you said.

But even so what you're saying doesn't match with your tone. You sound like you are kinda interested in him for some reason.

Maybe he is attractive to you? I don't know what it is, but it sounds there is something you're leaving out Maybe you're masking something or being guarded. But then again you're anonymous, so maybe you aren't hiding anything.

Anonymous · Answer

So why ask how a man could be attracted to a housekeeper at his mom’s nursing home if you’re going to call him a loser? If he is a loser then maybe you should think what makes him attracted to you. Like attracts like?

236color · Answer

Why would he be attracted to any woman? He a heterosexual man, those are the people heterosexual men are attracted to.

Anonymous · Answer

He probably thinks you’re pretty. And he could be a very normal well adjusted financially stable guy.

bowenw · Answer

Why wouldn't he be. You sound like a nice person.

whosnumber_1 · Answer

There's a lot going on in that question. Lol. Do you think the guy is hitting on you?

Nikki1989 · Answer

Why indeed? And why do you care?

MasterKS · Answer

she must be hot.

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