Do women appreciate a man who will do chores around the house?

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Petra150 · Accepted Answer

Must admit in our relationship , I'm the one doing garden and the phycical hard jobs the Messi stuf the dirty job , digging garden take away big trees and such things, while inside in the first to lie on the sofa demanding him to bring me a drink or make me coffe, he take the small car and take the girls to school and bring them home , and come and wake me up with a hot cup of coffee and a kiss, rub my legs and toes , feed the dogs and wash clothes and get my training clothes ready , pack the girls schoolbag make sure they have school food ready , and together we arrange the supper, or he make it and I pick the wine after we talked about it a while we are very into wine tasting bouth of us, but usally I have the final word and I'm the one who usually insist on us buying expensive wine to keep and drink in the right way. As ofcauce I'm the one who cares about our main car a BMW X5 , and me who drier it all the time, when we go out together I always drive, well he drive home as I usally tell him to so I can have a glass or ten. But I don't mind men doings homework , but just to be with me, he love my present , and love me on the sofa watching him, and usally I don't need to shout for s kiss , he cone often to have a hug, band give me s glass of wine more, sometimes I help taking of the tabel , but usally our girls help him, so I can have a run in the Forrest after supper

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Absolutely! I'll happily let any guy come over and clean my house for me now in exchange for a free dinner!

... okay pizza. I'll buy him pizza; that counts right? Haha.

I think I speak for most intelligent women when I say everyone appreciates a guy that puts genuine effort in and helps around the house: be it cooking, cleaning, washing, making groceries. It's called making an effort.

If he does things around the house, I'll chip in as well- that's how a balanced relationship works.

Do women appreciate a man who will do chores around the house?

SomeGuyCalledTom · Accepted Answer

I heard of a study that found women viewed housework-doing boyfriends as less sexually attractive. But then again, you can "prove" anything if you design an outlier study in just the right way, so I'd need more compelling evidence to really believe it. I think women tend to find self-reliance in a man to be attractive. So if he can keep his own home in working order, without needing a woman there to make things halfway presentable, then it can only say good things about his character. I can, however, imagine a guy doing household chores in the hopes of "earning" sex, which is a weak frame to come from, so the woman could lose attraction-- NOT because he's doing housework, but because he's the kind of weak-minded man who equates "keeping his woman happy" with "being rewarded like a good lapdog".

I also imagine there's a balance to strike, in dividing up chores without making them the main focus of conversation. Even after the "honeymoon phase" is over, couples should ALWAYS be "lovers" first, and "cohabitants" second. If the humdrum of daily routine is dampening their passions, then they should break the routine of constantly bickering over "who washes the dishes this time", and reconnect as lovers, even if it means temporarily living apart and "dating" like they just met for a period of time.

CaptainOverthink · Accepted Answer

Ofc they do. That shows charachter.

Well maybe not if they're having OCD-levels of control-issues where everything must be in it's right place.
Or if they LIKE doing it. Yes, it's possible. Could be meditative or calming to some.

But generally I think if a person wants to show they're committed to being a team then lightening the load is a good first step.

Besides, if let say you come home from work before your SO and you have some time before they arrive. Do some chores.
When they come home there's more time for everyone to get chill and comfy. Maybe you even can get it on if time is right.

Lastly, if you start. Don't stop. Never stop trying to impress your partner.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

I'm sure as much as men appreciate women who do chores around the house...
Seriously tho, who does the chores for a single man 🤔 why if someone is no longer single do they think that means they no longer should have any household responsibilities...

AmandaYVR · Answer

Of course. He's a keeper. But just to be clear, not because he's "helping" us, but because he's an adult human and he understands it's a necessary part of life. Everyone's life.

Apple1996 · Answer

No I have terrible OCD so if anyone else cleans in my house I get really bad anxiety until I can clean it my way. My husband has tried to a few times and I bit his head off about it so now he knows better

DellBell · Answer

Yes I love when my boyfriend helps around the house I actually find it a turn on for me. I like a man that doesn't just sit back on his backside and expect his lady to do all of the house work because let's face it he is a grown man and I'm not gonna be kinda a mother to him rather than a girlfriend because that would just be weird and a turn off as a man should be able to be responsible and say sweetie I'll do the hovering and dusting etc

When a man does things like that you just know that he is gonna get some that night just saying

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

Yessss. It's sexy as hell and shows he's not one of these men who think just because your a women in the relationship you have to be there personal slave and clean up after them. People who don't clean up after themselves drive me crazy so i really appreciate when my boyfriend does and actually wants to help around to make my life easier and it shows me he's independent and has been raised properly to look after himself.

My boyfriend loves to cook and it's a real turn on for me for some reason when he takes control of the house chores just wish he'd do it in his boxers more often 😂

AlienParasite · Answer

I guess? I don't like men who don't do any chores because that's avoiding part of their responsibility as inhabitant of a house, and forcing other people to take those responsibilities. So I like men who do their chores, but I wouldn't feel comfortable with a man doing everything and taking what should be my responsibility as his.

Therefore I like a man who's self-responsible enaugh to do chores, but self-respectful and smart enaugh not too take more responsibilities than he should. To put it another words, a man who would be more prone to say "We should clean the house" than "You should clean the house" or "I should clean the house".

VanillaSalt · Answer

Maybe they do but I rarely do anything in a relationship. But I work more OT than many work on their 9-5 so ya... after 90 hours in a week I’m not coming home and doing dishes lmao

My last relationship I did heavy lifting, handyman stuff, kill the scorpion, and handled the “situations” like someone breaking our window out or handling the River that ran through our apartment once.

el_Te_de_la_Rosa · Answer

Yes. I would love him more if he cares to do chores with me. I would normally cook. I wish him to wash at least his own dishes, and take care of other things around the house, just to keep it tidy and organized. Because I'll be annoyed if my man is lazy and expects me to clean up everything for him.

Plus, if he invites his friend to have a party at home, and treats me like a servant, it's over.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

For sure... I generally hate house chores. I love it because he actually enjoys it or got used to it... I always help especially when I stay with him for a long period of time (a week to 2 months - on vacation)... because its more fun doing it together. Make time to go out to play or do other things. We both appreciate how well we work together in taking care of all these. I would prefer having a maid after we move in together because my job is stressful and I would not care to keep up the house or cook after my work day (I become that man who comes home and want to do nothing... actually I bring work home) At that point, I won't be doing much housework, so I would want a maid to help out.
Although I haven't met a guy who doesn't do chores so wouldn't know what that's like nor do I want to find out since I am happy with mine and I am keeping him all to myself :P

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

You mean normal obvious surviving skills that everyone should have.

Anonymous · Answer

That's the only kind of guy I would ever marry, a requirement for me.

Not into being someones maid for 50 years, esp. if kids come into the picture. Hard Pass. But I also have pretty strong feminist values, on top of wanting someone who is an actual partner and not just a paycheck, guest, occupant of my future home. I love to cook and chores are essential, but the right match for me shares in those tasks. I had one guy make a comment that I would never bring my husband a bagel if he asked for it. Totally false, he was just butt hurt about an argument we had. We should serve and take care of each other in a partnership, not one waiting hand and foot on the other. It turns acts of care and love into resentment for me, wouldn't be a fun time for either of us.

Paolaa988 · Answer

Id highly appreciate my partner helping out around the house. I dont think this should be a gender thing anymore. We're in 2020 after all. I don't mind cleaning or cooking but it shouldn't be all on the woman 24/7 like I'll feel very appreciative and thank him if i have a long day of work or something and i come home and he has dinner made and all i need to do is the dishes or sweep:) A relationship is teamwork after all not a gender ground thing.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Yes! Especially if he's willing to trade off every now and again for chore variation, lol!

It's a good sign since I live alone and men I'm interested in also live alone - if they don't do home chores, then their house would be unlivable.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Oh yes. I don't want to be a mom to the one I'm with. We're both adults.

GrimmGothBabe · Answer

Absolutely! Tho it also depends on the person too some people obviously won't but I think most people regardless of gender really enjoy when their significant other help with household tasks and chores. It feels nice to have that kind of help and support without having to ask or nag.

Jjpayne · Answer

I'm going to assume it's a yes. I talked with a woman. I said well if the man goes to work then he should be able to relax when he gets home of she is a homemaker. And she went, heck no! His a## better be helping with the kids when he gets home! It's his turn

hahahmm · Answer

Funny. Why make the world feminine centric? She going to change your car's spark plugs? Rotate the tires? Go outside at 3AM to check on strange noises? men are expected to do a lot of things. Interesting how the number of things women feel is their role has shrunk while the list they claim men should do increases. No thanks.

Skankhunt · Answer

Yes, they do. In fact, that's one of the 5 love languages (acts of serivce) according to Gary Chapman Ph. D.

Anonymous · Answer

Women will think of it as a good thing at first. But over time, they will start judging you for it, like you're not a real man. Truth is that the patriarchy is ingrained in women from a young age, but for men everything is a choice. It's like two worlds: they live in a patriarchal world where the message of cooking for your big strong man, pleasing him, spending his ample money, and being dominated by him in bed are all desires that they have subconsciously accepted, but men live in a world where they have the freedom to believe anything, with no presumption or expectation. My advice to any guy who likes to help out around the house is that you should either do it rarely, or regularly do a particular chore that she doesn't like. Don't go 50/50, you'll get dumped.

cherryblossomXD · Answer

Definitely lol. We should be sharing the housework.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

I don't think I'm actually capable of NOT cleaning. I grew up with my dad and he always kept the house really clean and organized. It stresses me out if things get dirty, and I feel embarrassed if I'm not pulling my own weight to keep it looking nice. I'll admit I slack on dishes or emptying the garbage, but I'm usually the one to vacuum, dust, clean the bathroom, wash the floors, etc. I enjoy it

mobiusforniner · Answer

Hmm, let's see... I work full time out of the home. Do all the cooking and dishes. Sweep and mop floors. Fix the cars. Fix broken stuff in the house. Play with the kids. When your wife doesn't have much to do or stress about, all she can think of is sex and I get lots of it.

Heyitay · Answer

Yes. All relationships should be a "we" are going to succeed even if I do all this to help her & the reverse is true: yet wo/men may have been taught to expect the male to provide & women submit from places as church, school, family, internet, and/or friends.

All relationships start at: I want you and accept your family/friends have influence upon you... so help out.

itsmeamy · Answer

The guy helping out would be awesome but I'd feel uncomfortable if he did everything

DizzyDesii · Answer

Ill wash dishes, vaacum, dry clothes, clean the bathroom. But i need him to dry the dishes, mop/sweep, wash clothes and cook lol

Massageman · Answer

Sure, but let's hope the typical situation is NOT like that depicted in the pic, with her farts ruining the fruit!

JackieJaii · Answer

Hell yea! If I come home and he's made the bed, washed the dishes or even swept the floor and I'm happy

tootie979 · Answer

Yessssssss feels good getting a little help sometimes and means the world to us... I work full time and still have to come home and be a full time mom which never ends , I’m not complaining 💙

Prettygurl12 · Answer

Yes. Nothing better than to come home to a clean house and dinner ready. I work 12 hour shifts and my husband is attending law school, and since covid, his schooling has been online so the bulk of the housework has been on him this year.

SpeshalK19977 · Answer

The weird thing is by myself living alone, I hate doing chores n can’t be fucked to do em, only clean up when it’s absolutely needed,

But if a girl I loved lived with me, I’d clean up all the time and do any chores for her she needs doing done..

Avicenna · Answer

Most genuinely do. Some will still claim they do everything or won’t appreciate it.

likelyOK · Answer

I would NEVER get involved with a man who does not share the responsibility. Those days belonged to our grandmothers not for us

dandiecandie · Answer

I know some do but for me personally it turns me off. At times I get pissed off too. Id rather they conserve their energy for the bedroom.
That's where I want my man to show his polishing abilities. I can wash my own plates thank you very much.

Anonymous · Answer

Sure, but before rushing to sweep up her place in the hopes that maybe it'll lead to something, it should be noted that generally you want to focus on being sexually attractive to a woman FIRST and establish that BEFORE you worry about displaying your "good boyfriend" qualities.

alice55 · Answer

There's nothing to appreciate considering this is a totally basic and normal thing to do, if they don't do any then their house is gone be all covered in trash...

Stellaluna84 · Answer

I wouldn't be in a serious relationship with a guy who doesn't know how to cook, clean and do laundry. But, I don't mind doing it myself most of the time.

MAC1983 · Answer

You can bet your very life on it... ... If you you do all those chores with only an apron on... Including all of hers... ... Just try it. See what happens! (✿ ♡‿♡)

JessicaVon · Answer

I can't stand my place being messy at all. So there really isn't ever anything to be done. I am going to say yes, if for some reason I can't/didn't do it I would really appreciate him to do it for me.

Saturnxox · Answer

Yess absolutely!  I think it is something you can do together. It's not like I enjoy cleaning myself, it would be nice if my partner can clean once in a while as well.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

From my experience, no. At least I've never felt appreciation and I've done more housekeeping than anyone else I've lived with, and I'm hardly a neat freak.

Celtero · Answer

Nah dude, they hate it.  "Those are MY chores, how dare you take them away from me!"

nerdybutlazy · Answer

100% I love cooking but I hate washing the dishes it makes me happy watching my boyfriend do the dishes to show he cares

katiesmuff · Answer

What a silly question! LOL We love and totally appreciate a man who is willing and does do many of the household chores.

bobalife · Answer

Yes, it’s very sweet and thoughtful. I’d feel taken care of hehe. But it’s more fun if we do it together 😊

Kaneki05 · Answer

Hopefully. Women shouldn't been living like sheeps from 1900s doing all chores and shit.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I appreciate every effort and I thank him everyday.

Cherokeehp · Answer

Yes. I would never date a man that expected me to do all the housework.

FatherJack · Answer

I my own experience , no !! My ex wife did the square root of F all around the house , so was no different after binning her & becoming a single dad , in fact easier , as she was just a burden.

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

Appreciation doesn’t mean the same thing you think it does to women. Of course they’d like a slave around the house in return for nothing. Don’t think you’re going to get laid just because you simp for free.

Hazelstar99 · Answer

Yes. My love language is act of service. I would be so happy if he helped me with chores.

Tinkytiny3 · Answer

Yes I find that so attractive in a man and believe its kinda outdated to assume or want only women shud do chores

SphynxUK · Answer

Yes of course! Just to do something without being asked is super!

lilyanony1 · Answer

100% that's what I'm looking for a guy that pulls his weight, and doesn't mooch off of me.

Anonymous · Answer

Duh, it's called being a self sufficient human being. Problem is what type of person are you dealing with? Is she uptight and dishes have ro be done right after dinner or can they sit in the sink a couple hrs.

Am_and_Pm · Answer

Maybe at first. Tho, maybe both should take turns. U know, to preserve the specialness.

Abby_Winters · Answer

Its okay if he does them form time to time but I like to take of that kinda thing myself

Dayman343 · Answer

Household chores should be a shared thing. Nothing worse than having to carry the can all of the time

navyrobin · Answer

Yes, I love it! I can do the dishes and laundry, but my partner will need to do the cooking and cleaning. 💕

karangill · Answer

yes, they appreciate that they aren't being asked to do that but they sacrifice te sexual desire (I don't know many girls who would give their man fellatio after he got done moping the floor)

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Nope. Do a little, and they expect more; do a lot and they expect you to do everything. Women are mentally and emotionally children, if you give them an inch they'll want a mile.

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