Men, do you help your girlfriend/ wife with chores?

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Why or why not?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

For the most part, no. Nor does she help me do mine. We don't live together, but we still talked about this, and she is MUCH happier to do inside chores and have me do the outside ones and the construction-related ones.

The last two weekends, we worked on her bedroom, because she wanted to redecorate. We packed out everything but her bed and big dresser, and then I removed everything on the walls, including all the electrical covers, the old curtain rod and holders for the old blinds, patched up all the holes, and painted the room. This weekend, I installed a reinforced electrical box in the ceiling (there was no overhead lighting) and wired it in, and then I installed a "fandelier".

Men, do you help your girlfriend/ wife with chores?

She'd been shopping, and had bought a number of floating shelves and a big mirror and a few other things, and I got all of those installed, and then we moved her furniture and clothes back in. Her bedroom has been transformed into a clean, modern, much more functional space that she never dreamed she'd have, and couldn't/wouldn't have ever done herself.

I also take care of her car and many things on her house and yard - stuff that she either couldn't do or would have to hire someone to do before.

In return, yes, she'll do a load of laundry or dishes sometimes, or dust and vacuum at my place. She actually appreciates what I do for her, and she thinks it's the least she can do for me (and, to be fair, each of those chores only takes a few minutes, given that machines are doing most of the harder work). She would never ask me to do those chores (though I sometimes do it anyway), just as I'm not going to ask her to change her own oil, or dig out a fence post and replace it, or do electrical or carpentry work.

I can't speak to how others divide their labor, but I can tell you that a lot of women seem to think that the only chores that should be "split" or "helped" are those that she's normally expected to do, while the cars, yard, household repairs and upgrades, and other similar jobs are "man's work" that the guy is supposed to do on his own. I've never had a girlfriend who was anxious to trade any of my chores for any of hers.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

I now work at home and she works at the job, so I do most chores. I don't think of them as chores though, but as opportunities... haha:)!!

I actually like such activities... ya know why... I can see my progress. It's immediate, I know I'm getting something done and contributing. My wife is appreciative and that helps. When I'm down, I have cold now, she will do the duties in kitchen and such. There is no friction, we don't like stress or drama... there's no joy in that. Some stress is good to challenge and grow... like how to make better pasta sauce. But that's challenge and it's good and we learn and grow.

So get out there, get to doing those "chores"... I mean opportunities for achievement.

Now that said, I spend a lot of my time now thinking, learning, and looking for ways to contribute to make others lives better. We've "outsourced" some of those chores like cleaning to helpers, we pay them, they seem to like doing it or at least it suites them well and it saves us time. Sometimes it makes sense to offload work to others if you have enough money... which helps others... and frees up time to do something more productive in your life. So don't be cheap and value your time and life. But if you enjoy cleaning, then keep doing that... you want to enjoy your life as well.

the one thing I don't do is fold clothes. I don't enjoy it.

A_Bell · Accepted Answer

I don't work, so I primarily keep house. Frankly, it's the much easier job and having done office work I wouldn't trade it for the world.

My husband helps from time to time, more as a way of being together and teaming up, but I only ask that he cleans his personal messes and keeps general messes to a minimum.

But also, he takes care of the normal guy stuff as you'd expect.

Sirenboobzilla · Accepted Answer

He does help a bit. I can't trust him to clean the bathroom properly, but he tries 😏

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Diving into the whirlpool of love and cohabitation, one might find themselves twirling in a dance of domestic chores. And why not? Helping your partner with chores is like the secret salsa move in the dance of love! It's not just about keeping your living space tidy; it's about showing your partner you care, value their comfort, and are willing to share the load, literally and metaphorically. Plus, tackling chores together can actually be a bonding experience. Imagine you and your partner, music on, laughing and cleaning. Sounds like a scene from a rom-com, doesn't it? So, fellas, grab that mop, turn up the tunes, and let's make chores a duo performance! 😉 And hey, I’m curious to hear from both sides! How do chores play out in your love story?

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Flatmanlewis · Answer

Of course. In my life experience there is a bit of a double standard. What I mean is there seems to be a pretty widespread opinion from women that they should I expect their men to help with their chores. These are the more stereotypical “female” chores: dishes, cooking, laundry, housework. I think that’s fair and reasonable on every level.

Yet, I know almost no women who will lay tile, unclog toilets, collect dog poo, shuttle trashcans, change the oil, change HVAC filters, and so on.

My wife and I have a system of understanding whereas we recognize we each have things under our exclusive jurisdiction. I haven’t done laundry since we met. She’s never picked up dog poo. She never drives. I never dust. I’m the cook, yet she does the dishes. If you love someone right you find a way to make it work out agreeably for both of you.

Lliam · Answer

Of course. I knew how to cook and clean when I was single. Why wouldn't I help out when I'm living with someone? I don't believe there is such a thing as "women's work".

My wife does a LOT. So I have made it a point to take on certain chores exclusively. There are certain things that she does exclusively. Plus, we do a lot of things together around the house and in the garden.

When we both contribute, the work is easier and gets done quicker so that we can enjoy life together. We want each other to be happy. We're a team.

I would feel worthless if I sat on my ass watching her work. And I'm sure that would make her feel resentful.

We both earn income and we both take care of the house. It's not like I'm the sole bread winner and expect her to do everything else.

Anonymous · Answer

If I was married I would. Unless she’s a housewife then it should be 50/50. Unfortunately I see so many men married to houswives/stay at home moms who don’t show any love or appreciation for them working 70 plus hours a week or even deployed.

Just to come home to a nagging wife and have weirdos on here defend those shitty women. That are victims because they learn being a house wife kr stay at home mom is actually WORK!

These bums that have no ambition and do nothing but suck off a credit card. Going shopping and making her hard working man remodel the house instead of even being able to relax.

Then bitching if she even has to get a glass of water for herself. They obviously don’t love or respect their husband.

Not all stay at home moms/housewives are like this. But too many are. Most end in disaster.

Anonymous · Answer

Which chores are you referring to? If you mean furtilizing and cutting the grass, prunning the trees and shrubs, maintaining the compost bin, changing the furnace filters, touching up the paint on the door and window trim, washing and maintaining the cars, maintaining our finances and paying the bills, then yes, I do. In fact, I do all those things myself. I even help with the cooking, especially on the weekends, even though she doesn't help me at all with any of my chores. But I don't complain.

Do you?

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I unfortunately am usually the one to do all the cooking since it seems most women lack basic life skills now a days. I also straighten more because I hate a junky look to my areas. Loading the dishwasher is about split. I do more laundry. In hindsight this is probably part of why we didn't work out.

Billlewis · Answer

No, I don't 'help' the woman I'm dating/serving with her household chores -- I do all of them in their entirety, as well as her laundry, yard work, vehicle maintenance (washing, waxing, detailing, vacuuming, etc), and whenever she's having a relationship with another guy, I try to arrange to do most of those tasks for him, as well.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

In my relationship it was more like we divided them up. Usually she handled things like dusting and vacuuming, I handled the yard work and maintenence stuff like fixing pipes or wires around the house. We just did our own laundry, and since we both loved to cook we sometimes fought over who got to reign over the kitchen for the night.

he-takes-a-part · Answer

Used to help an aunt. She cooked. And I spanked and massaged her from back. Made her touch my crotch. Gave her a wedgie too. The other person was friends girl. Made video of her cooking. Stood behind saw her big ass piece. She noticed. Didn't think of any problem. I continued. Spanked her ass. She wore sheer shorts. That saved time for her to sleep in the night when asked for sex at night she was already done during chores.

Yannae · Answer

The picture that GAG chose for your question sums it up. She hates doing the dishes. She loves to cook, I love her cooking, it's worth it. Heavy garbage bags, cleaning we work together to get it done as fast as possible.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I do as much as she does around the house, only I don't see it as me helping her with chores. Things need doing and whoever thinks of it at the time. does it. It's just the way it's always been with us, there's never any arguing about it!

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Of course. I help and she helps. Wouldn’t be fair to expect only one to put energy into chores right?

midnightmoon05 · Answer

My hubby does everything at home. Me so lucky.

BCRanger10 · Answer

I do because I like having a clean house and she's either busy with work or the kids.

JacobJordan · Answer

Of course. I help her she helps me we help each other. Sets a good example for our kids

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Yeah, I helped my ex clean her room, do her chores and clean her cat's litter box..

goaded · Answer

No, I do chores. They're not hers for me to do for her.

SolitarySolace · Answer

If men and women both do the woman’s job what do women bring to the table?

Wiredone · Answer

Yes I do most of the chores because she can't

Rapport · Answer

Yeah, because why not, shit gets done faster when done together.

admles · Answer

No, I do not "help" them, I do my share of the housework for the house I live in.

msmissydc · Answer

He does. I do most of it but he works more.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

My girlfriend helps me with chores.

laly520 · Answer

not a man but I get helped

Akam93 · Answer

I wish my husband helped more 😞

Sameone · Answer

Yes i was helping her in everything on her place

DagonbroughtMehere · Answer

When She was around.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. I'm single.

dudeinohio · Answer

I do most chores

Anonymous · Answer

Nope.

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