Why do I keep unexpectedly running into him everywhere?

[Anonymous]

There was a guy a was close to for almost 2 years … going to the cinema and so on together, but it never evolved …. And he has a lot of need to seduce.

So I decided to move on and close the door at least on this plan (We Know each other from dance classes and I still see him in a friendly way there).

The thing is that I keep bumping into him outside in the most unexpected ways … in a restaurant, at night in small streets or places very hidden.

this is insane. And he s always happy to see me..

‘tonight I bumped again into him (!) and he proposed me to join to the group for a bowling. It was a nice evening but I left alone and quickly.

im confused …. why do I keep seeing him over and over?

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I can see why you're confused. After knowing someone for almost two years, suddenly running into them everywhere can feel almost too strange to be coincidence.

But it could simply be that you both spend time in similar places and have overlapping routines or social circles. Once someone is on your mind, you also tend to notice those encounters much more.

As for him inviting you bowling, I wouldn't automatically take that as a sign that he suddenly wants something serious. I'd look at what he actually does consistently. If you already decided to move on because nothing was developing for two years, I wouldn't let a few unexpected encounters pull you back into the same situation unless he clearly shows you that something has changed.

[Asker]

No I insisted on that because we don’t meet at random public places …. but in hidden places even at late night hours when/where no one should be here ‘ ! Last Time it was on an empty and dark place when I was repeating for a video and tonight same..!

[Anonymous]

If you both like the same stuff, it shouldn't be unexpected

[Asker]

I gave details to avoid this : I don’t meet him in public or usual places but most unexpected ways ! Often late night or so. Look at my comment above

[Anonymous]

I had something similar with a girl in college. At first I thought we just had overlapping schedules, but eventually her timing seemed too percise. I definitely stuck to my schedule expecting to see her. However, there has been numerous times in which we see each other by pure chance at some random location. I might have only noticed her before of how extraordinarily attractive she was.

[Nikki1989]

Is he stalking you?

[Asker]

I don’t think so 🤣 it was total « coïncidence »

[scott04sa22]

Talk to him, I guess 🤷🏻‍♂️