Why does he keep popping in and out of my life?

[Erica34]

So this guy happens to be an old EX crush/fwb. We have a good sex life, but we started to have problems. We are good now an days, we're just currently seeing other people and he still sleeping around as his usual. I decided to cut The Sex off since like 2017. But yet he still comes around. Now just to get to my actually question: I get it he comes back when he wants some and doesn't have anyone else to sleep with. But why is he so pressed on wanting to sleep with me so bad. I would think that he would just go on to the next girl like he didn't when I don't give him any. Now I'm not sure if he has feelings for me still. But he is always on and off with me, and I get it, he talks with other girls and sex them. But I never had something like this won't happen, so why return when he can be with other chick?

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[Sevenpointfive]

it's called having a back up plan. if you're still there to take him back, then he's going to keep fucking around until you're not there. when you say no, don't come back, he'll stop. or more likely get to a comfortable spot with you in a relationship and fuck around again until he's caught again.

[Erica34]

Well each and every time I shut him down and tell him no. He starts feeling some type of way. But lately we haven't talked in like 3 months

[Erica34]

Well the crazy thing is. He hasn't left me, I think he is trying to trap me with sex. And I could be his back up plan, or he may miss me or both. I don't want to be naive. But, his recent message to me was hey how yoU been, after 3 months we didn't talk. He was dealing with some girl or sexting her, b, c I wasn't giving him none. So he went to her. So I don't know what had happen with things between them two. But now he wants to hit me up. And also, I have been MIA off social media. Soooooo

[Sevenpointfive]

i think you should listen to what your gut is telling you. you obviously enjoy the sex, so enjoy it until you don't.

[Erica34]

Read my other post

[Erica34]

Oh you already did. Hehe

[Sevenpointfive]

of course i did

[Love2Jackit]

Cause u might be the one. That has the killer pussy. Meaning whatever u do 2 him. He can't find it in any other woman. U have the orgasm effect. Cause 2 him their isn't any other woman that compares 2 u. I say give it one more chance. If it don't work u know at least u gave it a chance.

[Erica34]

But if he is going to leave me for them ho** because I wouldn't give him sex. Then he can keep them ho**. Sometimes I really do feel like, he is trying to plant his seed in me. Like he acts like he's obsessed or something. Even when I tried to let him down before and tell him no more sex he was acting like it was a bad thing with me telling him no. Our connection sexually is good. The damn how much sex can he really want.

[Erica34]

I really want too sooooo bad. Like TMI. I haven't had sex since like last year of 2018. And my hormones are definitely running hot at times. He most definitely haven't been my last. Hehe. But when we are together sexually.. OMG it's like magic making love. And I am scared to get close to him. Because it's hard trying to let him go and detach my energy and the love that I have for him. It's 2019 and I'm still trying to get over him. I mean, part of me has, then part of Mr hasn't. But why he was on vacation with some other girl for a few months I guess he decided to message me midnight because he was bored or either she's not around. And I am not his backup plan or whatever. But no matter what he always runs back to me rather if it's sex or just my attention. I have been MIA off social media. So

[rgb008]

He's an orbiter.
trying to stay relevant in ur mind, get what he wants, orbit away to another girl, return later.
Kick him out of orbit and send him floating through space unsure of his direction
u don't need him

[Erica34]

I like how you put that girl you're very wise and smart. But we haven't had sex in like 3 years. And no matter if he's with another girl he still returns trying to bone. He is crazy

[Lionessgoddess]

You’re probably easy. He knows he can fall back on you if he doesn’t get lucky with someone else. Don’t subject yourself to that kind of treatment, unless of course you’re ok with it.

[Erica34]

Yeah I'm not sure
where he is trying to go with this. But about 5 years! I would think he would stop wanting it. And there was time's, yes I would give him sex.

[Anonymous]

Either you are too easy or you are very good in bed

[Erica34]

Will we haven't had sex in 3 year's so. I don't know. But there was a time he did call me easy when we got into a fight back in 2016. He said, your just an easy pussy. Wtf hoe dare!!

[Erica34]

How dear, is what I was trying to say. But he also has told me that I got that wet wet pu$$y.

[Opinion Owner]

You are good in bed then

[Jeff1984]

It appears that sex is all he is interested in. I’m willing to bet that every time he ends things with another girl, he keeps coming back to you because he knows that he can easily get it.

[Erica34]

@Jeff1984 he does that. It's been 3 months since I heard from him. And now out the blue he wants to hit me up. Tf! But still we haven't hooked up in like 3 years. I would think that he would be tired of asking and keep it moving

[Jeff1984]

It happens to a lady friend of mine all the time. They disappear then reappear when their last gf/ fuck buddy has nobody else.

[Erica34]

@Jeff1984 that's crazy smh. People threw day's

[Tannhauser]

He sounds like a basic loser with commitment issues that used you because you allowed him to.

[shasher]

because he want to pop in and out of u

[Erica34]

Hahaha.

[shasher]

if u dont mind that keep him cuming

[Erica34]

I enjoyed him in there. Hehe. But it's nasty that he goes around sleeping with these girls, and still trying to bone me. Smh

[shasher]

why dont u too bone others and lets see how he reacts

[Erica34]

And the weird part is. I made it clear to him. That I just want to be friends, and no sex. He says okay he understands. But still wants my sex. 🤔🤔

[shasher]

lol then dont let him in u

[Erica34]

I mean if he is going to leave me for them ho** because I wouldn't give him sex. Then he can keep them ho**. But, I really do feel like, he is trying to plant his seed in me. Like he acts like he's obsessed.

[shasher]

hahaha use a condom lady

[Erica34]

I don't. And I haven't since 2017. Smh! Calling because I'm not acting crazy over him or whatever the case might be. Our connection in chemistry will always be good. But, he's not going to hook me like he did before.

[shasher]

tbh you should move on

[shasher]

by the way can we pm?

[secretuser_]

Umm i think he has commitment issues

[spartan55]

Because he knows you are easy.

[Erica34]

Well he still hasn't gotten any from me. 🤗🤗🤗

[spartan55]

That doesn't mean anything, he has gotten it from you before so he will still try.

[Erica34]

Lol. OMG!! Will he ever give up and stop trying it's been three different years since we gone without sex with each other

[Erica34]

But he also has asked those three different years

[spartan55]

Proving my point.

[Erica34]

Heyyy. But still.. I haven't hooked up with him tho. So that's a good thing right

[spartan55]

Good thing? To who, me? Don't care. It has to be what is important to you moral code..

[Erica34]

Hahaha. Ik. Ik. Ik. He is crazy. Smh.

[John_Doesnt]

He keeps pooping in and out of your life. Poop.

[Preston69]

I would would like to pop in and say hello