Men, have you stopped chasing?

[Anonymous]

This isn't on any incel shit, I love women but I have noticed their path can be somewhat unpredictable, makes the efforts of chasing not worth it or a major waste of time, women are emotional creatures and sometimes they make decisions off those emotions, even if those emotions are temporary, which can create this unpredictable path, they can be interested in you at one point when they think they found someone better, they leave and then they return trying to fix what was there, when turns out the other person wasn't what they thought, the chasing was never a working method so now I don't chase unless I know someone Is worth that chase, which based on my observations a lot of them aren't. 🤔

[Laws-Of-Existence]

In a parallel way. I do not agree with this whole way it is viewed by most people. It's not a problem of being too "emotional". Nothing wrong with being emotional but how it is handled. Emotuons cannot be handled or suppressed, it always slips out but we were evolved/designed the way we are for a purpose and if it hinders us then that usually means we are not using it correctly, instead of it being intrinsically bad. I believe emotional severity can given correct circumstances, be bringing only good things and none of the bad things.

Now, i can say, the reason i am not chasing is not because emotions are bad but because i do not have the means to make the emotions be the enjoyable way they are designed to be. ㅤ

[Asker]

I never said emotions are bad, completely pulled what I said and twisted it to your own understanding, they are still the core of why people make decisions, even the bad ones and also never said they are too emotional, i said they are emotional creatures, I don't know where you got the too from

[Laws-Of-Existence]

We are saying the same thing in different ways.

[Asker]

I guess

[RavVid]

In these days of fluid marriages and even more fluid non-married relationships, I am thinking chasing is a bad idea.

If everything goes to plan you have won a girl who finds a man pursuing her exciting. Pursuit or chasing in an established relationship is not plausible. It is not 50 first dates in real life.

Very likely the girl you won by chasing will find some other guy chasing her exciting and sooner or later some other guy will win. It is like leading with your wallet in dating. You get a woman who likes the high life on your dime.

Once upon a time, a slap up first date would have been taken as a token of sincere esteem than held the woman in. Similarly pursuit and chasing.

Those gentle times have gone with the till death do us part concept.

If a woman responds to pursuit you should dump her because she is untrustworthy.

[queenofcardio]

I think it depends on your approach and what kind of relationship you're looking for. If a woman is barely showing any interest in you, then don't bother. Communication is so important, so if you're not getting it, then don't give it.

[valentina4eva]

what kind of girl are u looking for Chico, that does sound frustratinggg!!😲😵‍💫
men here haven’t stopped chasing, but it may be very diff here compared to where u are!!😮

[Asker]

Well at the moment I'm not looking for any woman, but I guess it works somewhat different here lol

[Vevv123]

I think if you get to the point where you feel like you’re chasing someone it’s because they haven’t shown the same amount of interest. I think that no one should chase. The right person will value the time and effort you put into getting to know them, and even if they’re not interested they should still do the right thing and let the person putting in the effort know they are not looking for a relationship.

[Asker]

Yes that's a good point, it should all just happen naturally

[Vevv123]

Yes naturally, maybe you can still put effort in, maybe in the beginning if you want someone to notice you like them, but no one should make you feel like you have to chase them. Some people are just not good at saying they’re not interested or just like attention, and the best way to notice that is if they don’t reciprocate.

[Chazmatazz269]

Yup. About a decade ago. The rapidly increasing risks of pursuing women simply far outweigh the rapidly diminishing rewards, and there’s absolutely no indication that is going to change anytime soon. It’s worse now than when i quit dating.

[Asker]

Yea its pretty wild ngl

[midnightmoon05]

Chico, is this real life or online?

[Asker]

Both, in person it's actually worse, can't really trust anyone out here, there's a lot of shallow people here

[Anonymous]

I do still chase