He insulted me the whole date?

[Anonymous]

I went on my second date with this guy and he basically put me down at every point in the conversation. I felt like it might be a defense mechanism because he's intimidated, but he seriously made me feel like an idiot. But the way he stared at me let me know that he is really attracted to me.

I felt like he didn't like me, but after the date he kept texting me and now he's asking me to come to his place.

Is this purely a sexual thing? How should I take him asking me over when I barely know him?

[Bleep]

Without knowing the guy I can only come to four conclusions:

1. He's a total d***, DUMP HIM ASAP, it will only get worse.

2. He was super nervous and talked without thinking, it can happen.

3. He took some advice from his buddies or it was something he read about girls liking guys who treat them badly, and I guess he was trying a bit too hard to live up to that advice.

4. He only wants to get in your pants.

Overall I'm going to be honest with you, this doesn't look good. Take a few steps back and see how he reacts, if he continues even slightly with putting you down or insulting you in anyway YOU NEED TO END IT THEN AND THERE. Watch out for him suddenly becoming very emotional and apologizing a lot, it's just a cover up. Guys who treat girls badly won't, can't, and don't want to change so unless you want a piece of trash for a boyfriend, stay away.

[KERMlT]

Hmm, so going over there would basically be the third date. And he might expect you to put out on the third one. Conveniently it would be at his place too.

I'd probably let this one go. It doesn't have a good vibe to it. You might find some room at his place with chains on the wall and such.

So if you don't like something, why put up with it? Don't you feel you deserve better? There are plenty of guys out there who will treat you right.

[ambershere]

he used verbal ABUSE and that is never exceptable at any time...NEVER EVER LET ANYONE DO THAT TO You ..THERE IS NO REASON OR EXCUSE TO ABUSE ANYONE AT ANY TIME.. he is mean spirited not intmidated...look else where he is not what you seek or need

[saphirasilverwings]

Personally if a guy spent an entire date putting me down that would probably be the last time I saw him.

[gotc147]

Dump his ass, if he made yoy feel that way you owe it to yourself not to let him think he can get away with it.

This is how it begins, they break down your self esteem until you're at the point that you don't have the confidence to leave him.

Get away from him.

[SlugLord]

The guy is a "child". You don't need a guy your always going to be trying to change.

[Anonymous]

He's into you but he was probably trying not to agree with everything you said and took it way too far. I've done it before and I never try to do it on purpose. I just go overboard sometimes.

[saphirasilverwings]

It's debatable. It's nice to give people the benefit of the doubt, but seriously, you can't expect to spend an entire date insulting someone and get away with it. That's waaaay out of line.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I said he went overboard.

[Anonymous]

https://www.YouTube.com/watch?v=vn1WvHfjGNA

[Anonymous]

he might have tried to make your confidence low and make you lose your self esteem to get you in bed :S