Do girls like to feel safe/protected??

[Anonymous]

Before I broke up with my ex I would like the satisfaction of making her feel safe and she liked it too. Do most girls like to feel safe/protected? Do girls feel safer with a bigger guy or just any guy for that matter. Not looking for these independent girls saying "I can take care of myself and I don't need a man to protect me!"

[cun7n1nja]

Lol so you want to know if girls like feeling protected by their man, but if their answer is no, you don't want them to answer? =P

Anyway, I CAN take care of myself, but I also like having a guy who feels protective over me, that makes me feel safe, and could protect me IF it came down to that. That doesn't mean I like him acting like a d.ick to every guy around or picking fights. I much prefer a guy who CAN take care of business but also knows when to walk away [which is most of the time], and who won't feel like 'less of a man' for avoiding a fight with some other as.shole who comes looking for one. It has more to do with trust and caring than 'brawn' or aggressive attitude on a guy's part.

[Asker]

I like how you capitalized I CAN. well of course you can but I like when the girl somewhat relies on me like not going to the liquor store at night by herself or something.

[cun7n1nja]

Lol, that's kind of cute. I have no problem going to the liquor store by myself at night [or similar outings, I know you don't mean that one thing particularly] because I am fairly independent, but if he wanted to do it for me or join me for that because it makes HIM feel better, I'd absolutely oblige him in that. =] I see no harm in letting him play protector if he wants to, and I think it's cute that he'd worry so much about me that he'd insist on going with, haha.

[Asker]

Yeah but I want it to make her feel better too. There's a lot of creeps at night and if she's by herself the chances are higher that someone is going to try something than if there's a guy with her. At least that's the way I see it.

[cun7n1nja]

No, you're right, it does feel better. I do feel better, I just don't really think about it until my guy [or a guy who is protective over me] is with me, because I'm so used to doing things on my own for myself, lol. Does that make sense? I do like it, I'm just not fully aware of the contrast until it comes up.

[Asker]

gotcha.

[aly-marie]

Of course I love feeling safe :) I think of it more as an emotional/trusting kind of security though, any big guy can physically protect you but it takes a lot for a guy to make me feel emotionally secure. Like when I know without a doubt that he'll support me in anything I want to do. My boyfriend is my biggest support system.

[roxygirlskier]

Yes! But that safety comes from trust and being able to trust the person, if that makes sense. I mean, physically safe is important too... but I think trust is a more important form of safety. I like bigger guys, but just kind of because haha, I don't know why!

[Asker]

sounds good and I like tiny girls lol I don't know why either I just do.

[roxygirlskier]

haha sweet! must be biological haha

[Anonymous]

Yes they like feeling safe. But the size of the guy has nothing to do with it. It's about how he makes her feel.

If he was a 6'6" brick sh*thouse, but prone to violent outbursts and an aggressive temper, she probably wouldn't feel safe. Know what I mean?

[Anonymous]

Of course! However, like the other girl, roxygirlskier said feeling protected and safe stems from how much you trust the guy. If I could not trust the guy, then I would never feel protected or safe around him.

However, I enjoy feeling safe and protected when I'm with a guy. It shows me that he cares about me and that I'm worth his time and care and that he is deserving of my compassion and care in return.

[Anonymous]

i like it when I'm sleeping in my boyfriends arms and I know I'm safe, its a very comforting feeling to know he's there to protect me.

[Rita593]

I love the feeling actually.