ACTUALLY, the answer's sort of interesting. I spoke to a bunch of guys and here's what they said:
(1) I think she's out of my league, so why bother?
(2) SHE thinks she's out of my league, so why bother?
(3) Girls who look a certain way are sort of b*tchy, and I just don't need that.
(4) He's actually busy with stuff.
Actually, I came to know (3) after talking to one of the guys who was dancing with me at an event. Once we got to know each other a little and we were both laughing about something he stopped and just sort of looked at me. I asked him what was bothering me and he admitted that he wouldn't have danced with me unless prompted by our mutual friend. "Why?" "Because most girls who look like you are...well...really b*tchy." I had no idea what he was talking about, since I don't pay attention to my looks -- like EVER -- and I'm a pretty approachable, low-key sort. I asked him what he meant and he just said that girls who look physically fit and "put together" the way I did that day usually come with a befuddling attitude. (I have to thank our mutual friend for the outfit...but also for leading me to this source of insight.)
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Fearful men have created a false set of beliefs about pretty women/the women they find attractive due to low self esteem and the social existence of 'a league'. Common beliefs include thoughts like, 'she's too good for me' or 'she must already have a boyfriend'. Others include an individuals disinclination for adding themselves to an imaginary long list of men who are already vying for her attention (in other words they aren't willing to deal with the competition). These men do forget that all their beliefs even though they have the potential to be true, are all simply assumptions until proven otherwise. Their not even setting themselves up for a chance with the girl due to fear of rejection. Since many, if not the majority of men think this way it leaves a lot of pretty girls, well...pretty lonely.
No they dont. I'm a people watcher and the pretty girls actually get the most attention. if you're being ignored by guys in general then your probably not that pretty to guys. granted there are individual guys who are intimidated by very attractive girls, but for every 1 guy like that there are 5 guys who prefer the prettier girls. so if you get no attention at all you must not be a pretty girl
I think there are 3 possibilities
1. They think you are too good for them (i.e. out of their league)
2. They really like you, and do want to possibly bet with you, but are too shy to smile back/make a move and give mixed signals. You're prettiness could be intimidating to them. lol
3. They could actually dislike you for some reason.
4. They just aren't attracted to you that way.
Because the first time you get rejected, you think : okay, that was just her, let's try with another one.
The second time, you're thinking it sucks, you're an OK guy afterall.
The third time, it starts to get heavy to bear.
The fourth time, you're hating yourself for being stupid,
And the last time, you think : why bothering ? and you go away.
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Yeah, it's sketchy, 'cause in a guys mind, we see someone we think is crazy beautiful, and we think: there's no way she'd go for me, so why bother? I'm content as I am right now. lol
If you're on our level, not all decked out and getting into things we understand, then we love being able to show off coming to your rescue of explaining things. But we won't go out of our way to approach someone we aren't able to talk to easily.because there is 99% chance you'll get either rejected or used by her for a free drink lol -
Because we don't think we measure up to the girl's standards and we don't want to be humiliated with rejection. I know that's why I don't do it. If I see a pretty girl I immediately think there's no way she would be interested in me, so I just save myself the embarrassment.
I don't... Personally I don't agree with many girls on their definition of pretty, a lot of girls have told me what girls they think are nice or that I'd like and couldn't be further off from my type. So it's often misconception and personal opinion.
this isn't all the time and probably becuase of intimidation
its weird how girls seem to think that guys aren't afraid of rejection or can't get their feelings hurt...
i ignore them because I don't want a relationship right now
really? I think its the opposite...they all go after the pretty girls :S
1) You don't look approachable
2) They are intimidated by you.Lmfao! We're average looking. Why would we approach pretty girls? Hahahahaha Sorry. This is too funny of a question. Ahahahahahahaha (I'm a normal, averagr looking dude. That's why this makes no sense to me.)
They're pansies.
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