My boyfriend has PTSD. How can I help him?

[Anonymous]

Last night he got a little drunk and he told me his life story (which he apparently tells no one!). I already knew he has PTSD, but now I know why (child abuse, army experiences, etc). I feel like I helped at least a little just by listening, but I feel so bad for him because of everything he went through. I don't know much about PTSD, so if any of you have (or know someone who has) it, can you explain to me what he's going through and possibly how can I help him?

[partnerspast]

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[Asker]

Haha thanks but this was posted over 2 years ago :) We ended up breaking up because he's an arse.

[Luopio27]

Be there for him, the chemistry that works as a cure for these kinds of problems is strong moral support. When you know the problem, think of the solutions with confidence, determination and dignity. Think with your heart, not with your mind, and then sooner or later when the air is still, and lights have fallen, the answers, and solutions will find you.

[TsubasaCorrupted]

Be patient with him and understand that his triggers ate always link to the traumatic experience. Sights sounds or smells May trigger it. I would recommend having him go to therapy and get medication and help. There is no shame in doing so because it can help increase his quality of life and make him happier.

[ethanallen]

The drinking, fights, drug use and feigned sleep problems are just part of his scam to defraud the government with fake symptoms of PTSD. Just ignore his stupid bullshit.

[Anonymous]

You can't but he can get help. There are good treatment programs for PTSD.