Boyfriend could be struggling with mental health what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Look i’ll be completely honest, im currently just starting year 10, I've been dating my boyfriend for just under the past year, and for some reason i think he’s losing interest, i know from his ‘girl’ friend that apparently he wasn’t doing too well mentally however i don’t know any further details as she doesn’t want to say anymore and says too wait till he says it, we talked more and now he takes a while to reply, something seems off and im genuinely worried for him, both of us are within the top classes so it shouldn’t be school that’s a worry and as much as i’d want to talk to him i don’t want to scare him incase there isn’t any sort of issue and also we don’t have any deep conversation as much as i’d hope that we could as he seems distant, in the past we wouldn’t either as i was thinking he’d warm up and talk more ans have never tried forcing him to talk. I want to know how i could possibly help him or how i could possible stay together with him if the reason he’s acting distant (with everyone not just me) could be that maybe he’s not liking me anymore and that i’m overreacting about him being off with everyone? thanks

[Sonoreti]

Based on my limited experience (so as not to sound like i‘m some expert relationship guru ;)) your boyfriend is probably struggling with problem he thinks is too big for him to handle ( family, school,..) it‘s most likely has nothing to do with your relationship. Typically if a guy wants out, he would have already said it and moved on ( oh bastards i know 🙃) but it seems to me that something else is bothering him. If so, then forgive me for saying this, but you are probably little to no help for him in solving it. He most likely thinks it‘s his problem to solve and i bet he wouldn‘t appreciate it if you try to insert yourself too much ( men and their ego 😪)


Let him know that you are there for him and give him time to sort it out himself. If he truly loves you and wants to continue being with you, he would get his head out of his arse soon enough and beg you to forgive him.
Otherwise you just spare yourself future trouble for being with someone who is more concerned with himself than with hurting you :)


Again i‘m no professional, just try to provide you with another perspective.

[AndrésC64]

Try broaching the subject by talking about yourself first. Mention your insecurities and struggles. Maybe you could ask his advice.