I've been dating this guy for only a month and things are moving pretty quickly especially on his end. We spend a lot of time together... Unfortunately I'm struggling with my mental health (anxiety and Depression) which has made it harder to be there for him 24/7. He expects phone calls everyday (one in the morning and one at night), whereas I'm more of a texter. He expects me to have these phone calls with him everyday. Last week my phone died for 2 hours and during that time frame, my boyfriend tried calling me, to which he received no response. This made him upset. After that, he asked me to promise him to never let my phone died again so that he could reach me anytime in case of emergency or anything. I agreed and was staying on top of it, until this morning. I forgot to plug my phone after turning off my alarm to sleep a little longer. My phone had died and he tried to call me because he assumed I was up (since I sent him a good morning text before it died). It was early so I went back to sleep while it charged. Anyway, after waking up, he got really upset to the point he was yelling at me and calling me a cold bitch for not taking his feelings into consideration on this matter. Am I in the wrong or is this a red flag?
It's a definite indicator of some other troubling behavior. You can assume that's not the last time you called that though. But needing multiple phone calls a day is excessive and arbitrary and seems more like he's just about keeping tabs on you rather than needing it for 'emergencies' which I bet like none of these phone calls are. If you're anxious and maybe depressed, this needy type of child who's clingy is the absolute last type of guy you want to have to deal with. You need to do what's best for you and he's not helping anything.
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In my opinion, yes, this is a red flag.
Even after breakups, I've only had one boyfriend call me a bitch, not saying the others were all prince charmings or didn't end up having different eyebrow raising behaviors.
I say all that to say, the name calling was just the start to a lot of other hurtful and at times humiliating treatment.
Whatever you decide to do, I hope things work out for the best for you. 🙂
HUGE RED FLAG!!! End this immediately. My advice is to just block his calls and never contact him again. Maybe one final text -- "It's over." Then, no matter what, do not ever contact him again.
Yes, it is a red flag. That is abusive behavior. Has he even tried to apologize?
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Yelling at you and calling you names is not the way to handle things. This is a BIG RED FLAG. He should have been more concerned about your well being inside of arguing with you.
Definitely a red flag. A man who truly cares for you would be concerned, not upset.
Women always pick the man who will abuse them because that's what they love.
No girl ditches her guy for being called bitch. Otherwise there would be no couple anymore
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