My boyfriend yells at me constantly?

[Anonymous]

So I've been with this guy for over a year. I've known him for much longer tho roughly 6 years... We were great together at first and still are most of the time but he seems to have days were just everything Ido is wrong to him... Like tonight for example I lost my bank card and we were about to go out for supper ( its my turn to pay we take turns) and it took me forever to find it because my roommate cleaned the house and moved my wallet that I left on the table it only took me like 10 minutes to find but then I got in the car and said sorry for taking so long and explained what happened and he flipped at me saying I was stupid and a idiot and I said sorry again and he just continued to ramble on about how horrible I am and even called me a bitch when I got frustrated and asked him to stop... But other times he's the polar opposite but it takes one little thing and his entire personality changes its like I'm dating Dr jeckle and mister hyde so what could make him like this? I know he loves me he had tried to getwith me for 6 years before I even gave him a chance and is the sweetest boyfriend ever other times? Could he be bipolar? And if so how do I help him with that without Pissing him off ? Thoughts? Please help?

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Also I should point out that he was never like this before ever I seen him mad before but he was never vocally abusive like he is now? I am pregnant with his kid but I don't think its stress from becoming a father because he started this before we found out and he's thrilled about being a dad now... His anger is starting to scare me to the point that I'm scared he will start hitting me or worse his anger will be directed at our daughter someday which I really don't want

[toulouse]

You love him to death, literally. being with someone who does not respect you, is deathening to your soul.

just from the title d say break up with him. you don't want to, you love hi, & you don't want to tell him he has to stop, are you will leave,m because ull come across as a bitch.

seriously. he's being a complete ass face, for no reason & you're worried ull seem not nice, if you tell him to stop disrespecting u.

imo, you BOTH ned therapy. he's yelling at u, because you let him. by staying with him even tho he yells at u. end of story.

make him stop, or leave him. otherwise, youre. letting. him. yell. at. you. all. the. time.

he never did it before has no bering on him doing it now. if I never raped anyone before, it doesn't mean what I did was any less hurrendous, than if I had. certainly not to that person. or my soul.

deal with the present. not with how he used to be, not what you think hell think of you,. deal with what is going on, now.

[Asker]

Excuse me... I did not ask this question to be put down by strangers too... Your making a hard situation into a black and white one... And when I say I don't want to come off as a bitch when I try to help him I mean come off as a bitch to him you know make matters worse and make his anger worse towards me then it already is when I'm trying to help him.I don't believe in solving anger with anger or giving up on someone I love because they are having a hard time or have something wrong with them..

[Asker]

And I also Don't "LET" him yell at me.. I just don't egg it on.. I'm pregnant stress and working myself up is bad for my baby... So instead of feeding the flame I walk away from it... there is a big difference I don't sit there and take it..

[misskristie]

leave now! its verbal abuse and its not going to get better.ive been there. now I'm in a relationship for over 4 years and my man has never called me a name. don't make exscuses for him. verbal abuse can lead to physical abuse.u are young. don't put up with it.

[Asker]

I don't believe that.. people don't just go bad over night without reason and everyone is capable of change.. Mind you I would never put up with it forever cause you are right he doesn't deserve excuses and I shouldn't have to put up with it but to throw away someone you love because they have issues seems so f***ed up to me.. For example my uncle was kinda the same way but worse he would get physical and very angry with people and everyone turned their backs on him then come to find out he has

[Asker]

a mental problem. no one tried to help him everyone turned their backs on him.. now that he is being treated for his condition he is a very calm and nice person that would never hurt a fly and has even on occasion cried and become historical because he was aware of the way he was before but was unable to control himself. I don't want to do that to my boyfriend even if his situation isn't as bad as my uncles was If he was always like this

[misskristie]

it doesn't sound like it was overnight. if you want to give him another chance say the next time you call me a name or are abusive I'm gone. see if he can control himself.

[Asker]

I would completely agree and leave now but it isn't normal to go from so happy and sweet to so angry and mean... and it was not always the way he was. Even his parents are seeing the change and are worried

[Asker]

Yea your right.. I'm just really scared its more then that and he can't "control" it... could just being paranoid because of seeing my uncles situation or even like you said making excuses and was blind to it before... I don't know but I do agree it has to change or I have to go.. My baby isn't growing up around that ha ha

[misskristie]

good luck. its just hard for me to watch people go through it because I've been there and now I'm in such a good relationship I couldn't imagine going back. if he is open to getting help maybe he can. I just don't have much hope. just never feel like its your fault.

[Asker]

Thank you! I guess I see so much good in my boyfriend even still that I'm either smart and he is still good or really stupid and there isn't.. time will tell I guess... Thank you for your answer and I'm happy that all worked out for you and you found a guy that is good to you I hope I am lucky and get the same whether it be with my current boyfriend or someone new

[Anonymous]

Just from the title, regardless of how sweet he is other times, a person who verbally abuses you is not good news.

He needs to take care of that issue. Therapy, anger management, whatever it takes.

[Asker]

I guess he was in anger management before but I never knew how bad it was until now.. I just really don't wanna go up to him and be like you need therapy and him think I'm being a bitch and not see my true intentions I love him to death and want to help him instead of give up on him... After all he's the father of my kid but at the same time I don't want his anger around my kid if it continues know what I mean ?