Do you like a guy that's physically dominating and aggressive?

Question

Because I think that's hot. I want my guy to shove me around, throw me up against the wall, be controlling, rough, and masculine as we're making out, have me in a locked position where he won't let me get away. To hurt me.

I want him to force me to do things I don't want to, and after he's hurt me, to kiss me and suck on me wherever it hurts, then treat me softly, caressing. kissing me and loving me after he's all brutal. After it's over I want him to just hold me and whisper to me.

All physical aggressiveness though. I DON'T want verbal abuse.

Girls, do you want a guy that behaves like this? He isn't like a maniac, but he uses his strength against you when he's kissing you, etc?

Guys...do you like being like this? Are any of you WANTING to be like this and behave the opposite for the girl's sake? Guys, what would you say if your girlfriend asked you to treat her like this?

And of course does anyone think this is weird?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

When I was younger, my head was filled with advice to be "romantic", and to some degree, that was good advice for high school relationships, though it wasn't made as clear that the romantic part is best left for once you're IN a relationship. Anyway, back then, I couldn't have imagined girls liking rough treatment, and the girls I was with then didn't.

But most of the girls I've dated over the last decade have definitely enjoyed being dominated and roughed up a bit. We aren't talking punches and stuff like that that can cause a real injury, but they've all liked being thrown around, held down, being dragged around by their hair, and "forced" to give oral or spread their legs for sex. Some have liked being spanked/paddled, and some, like my current girl, like to be slapped and smacked and verbally abused. But they have pretty universally responded to being overpowered, restrained, and made helpless.

For example, a couple of weeks ago, when I was going over to her place for the weekend, she told me that when I got there, she wanted to be my slave and be told what to do, and that if I wanted something sexually, she wanted me to just do it or make her do it, even if she resisted. She wanted me to do whatever I wanted, when ever I wanted, any way I wanted to her, so that's exactly what I did. And she would "fight back" a bit so that I would have to dominate her and make her take it, and she was pretty much on fire the whole weekend she was so turned on. She's STILL talking about it. LOL.

It's important to understand, though, that you have to do this from a place of trust. She trusts me to push her boundaries (she wants that), but also not to go too far. And she knows I would stop instantly if she really wanted me to. The goal isn't to hurt her, it's to SATISFY her in a way that her previous boyfriends couldn't or wouldn't.

Of course, not every girl likes that stuff, and that's fine. But many girls REALLY respond to it and ask for it, even beg for it, so why wouldn't I want to give her what she needs?

Nomoremrniceguy · Accepted Answer

this is probably not a good audience.. its full of overly nice guys who are dependent on woman approval(and hence will not admit to liking to be rough with a girl unless all women give him permission to hold that belief) and then you got lots of girls who actively SEEK these wussified men, why? because they are easy to control!

i like being rough with a girl, not to the point of hurting her badly or anything, but I like to be an animal and blow her mind

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Hmm, to a point, yeah it's hot. A guy dominating you in all sexual aspects is so very sexy. But not to the point where I'm being hurt. I mean, shoved up against the wall, thrown on the bed, trapping me and kissing me... oh yeah, amazing and such a turn on.

Honestly it would piss me off a little at first and I probably wouldn't admit that I liked it... but it would have to be the right guy and if it is with the right guy then oh yes, yes, yes!

I want a nice a guy for the most part, it's just I want his dark, dominating side to lie in the bedroom, but as I said, I don't want to be hurt. I mean, let's face it, all guys have a kind of dark side and that's the perfect place to have it.

But I'd like to have my turn too. I want to dominate sometimes myself. Just sometimes.

Anyway yes, I'd like that, to an extent. It would be very hot.

Sugar_n_spice · Accepted Answer

yes to an extent, I totally know what you are talking about, I love it when guys are rough and dominating :D I just don't know what you mean when you say you want them to hurt you, like to what extent? I don't wanna bleed or turn blue or anything but I don't mind being bitten and spanked haha.Also agree that it is hot when they cuddle and caresses and whisper sweet things afterwards.

TPAgrl89 · Accepted Answer

I like it when my boyfriend throws me around. Not EVERY TIME that I have sex, but sometimes. I like my hair pulled, to be choked a little, to just feel submissive. I usually only ask for things like that when I've been drinking though, but yes.. I do like it! I think it's kinda sexy when I wake up in the AM with fingerprints bruised on my hips/thighs/etc. Mmm! :)

sweet_18 · Answer

Sometimes...sometimes rough sex is hot. But not to the extreme that you described. I don't want him to actually HURT me. That's sadistic. And I don't think I could even get him to do that even if I asked.

I like it when he tells me that he has been aggressive in the past though, not towards girls because he is very against that, but towards other guys. Like he would tell me that he beat the sh*t out of some guy, and I thought it was hot. It's just hot to me.

DeepBlue · Answer

It's not that weird. You are a masochist/submissive. There are many people who fit this profile, both men and women. Just make sure that you set the boundaries and have ultimate control over the situation. If my girlfriend asked me to do this I would gladly help her to realize her fantasy, even though I am not violent by nature.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not for me, but whatever floats your boat.  Do you happen to have a history of abuse in your childhood?  The part about wanting him to hurt you then heal you is often an indicator.  That being said, what's natural isn't necessary what's best for you -- it can destroy you, despite feeling normal and familiar to you.

WeaponZero · Answer

Most women do, to a degree.  The question is, to what degree?  Some women take to to an unhealthy or even self destructive level.

Izzy2102 · Answer

Most of the things you said sound hot. As long as it is dominating and agressive in a loving way, I wouldn't actually want him to hurt me and there would have to be some kind of safe word

RipperRoo · Answer

i actually got a bit turned on reading this. Girls are so sexy when they are struggling and being dominated. I wouldn't hurt you for real though, but a little somewhat harmless hurting is all good.

6Paul11 · Answer

I like it rough sometimes. I have to be careful though. I'm a pretty strong guy and it would be easy to hurt the girl.

darkknight1x · Answer

Us white guys are the best at doing that. I'm already like what you described.

hakuna_matata · Answer

i like my guy to be a little rough during sex but what you have described is a little too much

Anonymous · Answer

sounds like you want to be abused! :/ I just want to love a woman, whether its a little more aggressively and passionately or even softly and passionately, but never in a manhandling sort of way :/

Lj236 · Answer

If my girlfriend asked me to do that I guess I'd try it :)

LoveLayne · Answer

Omg! I think it can be Yummy. to a point.

topperboy · Answer

Not weird at all. We like what we like.

Anonymous · Answer

I actually would like to have a boyfriend like that.

Anonymous · Answer

You want him to hurt you?

Anonymous · Answer

you need a doctor.

Do you like a guy that's physically dominating and aggressive?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Do you like dominant men?

Do you like a guy that's physically dominating and aggressive?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Do you like dominant men?

We're glad to see you liked this post.