Why do girls like players so much?

[Anonymous]

I just saw 2 questions of girls wanting to be with player guys. What is so attractive about them?

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Girls don't want to be ignored by players because they feel as if the girls being ignored by players aren't attractive.


Agree or disagree?

[Anonymous]

how many times has this been asked.

women usually fall for personality qualities and physical qualities that players typically possess, and not the fact that they are players. some women think they may be good in bed, so if they want to hook up or have sex, they think a certain player in question may be the way to go. also sometimes there's a personal addiction to rejection for some people, relating to their own view of themselves. and sometimes girls like to think they can be "the one" to change him. also some players are master manipulators and some girls can't see even the most obvious signs that they want different things, so the player leads them on to think they are, in fact, special. they continue the act until theyre done with the girls. and sometimes its just lack of communication, and not knowing what you actually want. I've witnessed all of these scenarios and I have friends going through them as well.

idk what your definition of a player is, but I'm in love with a guy who gets a lot of ass. he slept with my friend and they have drama now though. he's attractive, sexy, he's ambitious, he has his sh*t together in terms of career and education, he's really a nice guy, he's funny, etc. why wouldn't I like him? I wouldn't try anything with him right now though because I know my friend likes him too and probably more than I do. maybe in the future but probably not - ill have moved on and he knows I'm a "good girl" anyway. he flirts with me but he wouldn't try anything. I can tell he's attracted to me, but he knows he won't get anything sexual out of me and that's all he's looking for in life right now, for whatever reason. my best friend on the other hand has been throwing it at him for a while now and she was upset after they had sex and tried to make him out to be the bad guy, when that's not the case. he never lead her on. they were at a party drinking and getting high when they slept together. he tried to sleep with her because he knew she would do it. I think she expected something to change after, or she tried to convince herself that he was avoiding her. they never had good, constant communication to begin with. I see this, but she doesn't.

@ your update: to an extent yes. I think its so much more complicated than that. you have to have a certain psychology to respond that way. its often a case of feeling constantly rejected in some way, that will make you feel unattractive or less than and really affect your perception of yourself when a "player" ignores you. I don't give a f***, personally. however, my best friend has a serious issue with feeling that no guy that is worth having (by her standards) will love her or that she's unattractive. she subconsciously seeks out men and situations that will validate her feeling that she she isn't worth it, that she will always be tossed aside. she wants the unattainable as well, because she knows she will get the end she is looking for - the validation that he doesn't really want her.

[Asker]

"I'm in love with a guy who gets a lot of ass"

With how many women? more than about 4 and he gets the player title. for some it may even be less than that

[Opinion Owner]

oh well he's a player then. I think of player as someone who actively leads people on and plays the field, so to speak. by the way most of the guys I hang with have slept with more than 4 people lol I don't know if that standard stands for all

[whatlove2212]

I think of players as really outgoing men. Some girls want to be the one to "tame" him, to be seen as better than all the other girls before.

I've always thought outgoing people who aren't shy (and have a lot of sex) want to go out with people who are like them, and the more shy people would prefer to go out with more shy people. But this isn't always the case, women like to go out with the "alpha male".

I have the "nice guy", which is highly underrated.

[CuddlyCarla]

First, I don't like player guys. Second, what women are attracted to in them is the confidence they display. Women are biologically inclined to be attracted to confident and assertive men. That said, you can be confident and assertive and NOT be a player.

[TurbulentDan12]

I really don't think girls want to be with players

Instead they don't want to be ignored by them because they feel as if the girls being ignored by players aren't attractive.

[dudeman]

the same reason they like jersey shore and opera, they like to fit in and like what everybody else likes

[dudeman]

its actually a biological mating trait many animals show

[RARETRAMP]

Here we go again!! How many times this question pops up on this site. This statement " Girls like players" is a bunch of baloney it's flawed and untrue!!! This is just a stereotype!!! This question potrays that you jealous of them feel inferior and you want to become like them. Those questions display negativity!!! Questions like that are the problem. Instead of being so jealous you reallly one needs to work on themselves learn to be natural, positive, affectionate, caring, gain social skills those are attractive traits. Overconfidence and cockiness aren't attractive those traits look attractive however traits like that don't stay attractive!!!

[RARETRAMP]

Sorry forgot to add small extra note but quite crucial. Players display cockiness and overconfidence and those aren't attractive traits

[saelym]

The only thing that makes me target a player is my desire to beat him at his own game.

[Anonymous]

they have confidence, they are assertive and the successful players are good with words and sweet talking people with their charisma. besides that, they're also attractive generally

[Akam93]

Their looks if anything. Personality can't much good.

[RelentlesslyMyself]

Exactly! Tired of hearing about personality and confidence, a man who you think is ugly and a man who you think is sexy (looks) can say the exact same thing but you’ll want the guy that looks good.

[Anonymous]

We think we can change them and they’re usually hot

[Anonymous]

Girls are incredibly attracted to losers and player is just another word for jerk!

[whatlove2212]

Nothing, they're not attractive. in my opinion! :D

[BellaBella12]

Nothing. Only respectable men can be attractive.

[Jazzy54]

I actually can’t stand players.

[Xx_DRE_xX]

Because, their confident.

[jennifer8]

and stupid