Does scarcity make the heart grow fonder?

[Anonymous]

Or at least being less available?

I don't know, with this girl I have in mind, it feels like the less I do, the better. I know girls on here say that if I guy doesn't talk to them or isn't around, they think the guy's not interested and hence they lose interest but in actual practice it seems to be the opposite (unless the guy just falls off the face of the earth).

[Temporary46]

If she responds better to less that is the way SHE is.

Sometimes when guys give too much attention it can be overwhelming or it can feel like it's an invasion of personal space or something.

Kind of depends on the person, how busy they are with work and school and life etc. If they are extroverted or introverted...

I had a guy texting me every morning to say hello. I don't do a lot of texting so I thought it was sort of weird...I'm not use to that much contact...I sort of liked it though but it felt like something a girlfriend does and not what a guy does.

I prefer a few good conversations over constant pointless texting...but that is just me personally. I'm more introverted.

[Asker]

well, here's the thing. Even though the time and amount I interact with her is limited, the flirting and "good feelings" are high for each of those encounters. It's almost like, it's going well the way it is, why overdo it.

[AmberChick]

If she is involved in someone else or has a busy life, scarcity may make her fall for you because she sees that you can keep up with her busy schedule. But, usually if you aren't there and she needs you then it's a bad thing and girls don't like that.

[Anonymous]

definetly not. there's a guy that I know that is trying this trick on me, and I'm done with him. Like, this is one of the many things that a guy can do to piss me off. you like me? Take advantage of it and show me, other wize, I'm not going to waste my time with you.

[Asker]

I'm not talking about "tricking", I'm talking about "playing the game". Obviously, I show interest in her, but not all the time. All the time=smothering=turns girls off.

[Opinion Owner]

well, whatever you call it, (tricking/ playing the game) It just really shows that the guy that likes you is immature and isn't ready to handle a realashonship. So when I see a guy doing this, I move on. And you can leave hints that you like her here and there, but usually if she likes you back, she won't mind being smuthered by your attenchion.