I don't like to go to bars anymore!

[Anonymous]

Now that I'm done with college, I feel like I'm SOOOO over the whole bar scene. But every time I meet a new guy , it seems like every weekend there ALWAYS going out and almost expect me to go with them! Personally, I don't want to go out every weekend, I'm in a different mind set now. I have no problem going out once and while, but I feel like there are tons of other things to do on a weekend then go to a bar and get drunk. I've been there, done that! Any advice on what I could say when this happens?

[Evolution86]

I agree with being over the bar scene. I've never really been interested in the bar scene anyway, so I've always found something else to do.

As for how to bring it up to the guy you're seeing, why not just suggest something else? The guy I'm seeing doesn't like going to the bar all the time, so we've come up with other alternatives, and not just dinner and a movie. When the weather is good, we go bike riding, or rollerblading, or even for walks. Otherwise we'll stay in and watch movies.

You can always suggest something more intellectually stimulating, like a museum visit or an art gallery. Or explain that the bar scene is okay every once in a while, but you'd rather do something else on a Friday or Saturday night. And if that doesn't work, I guess you could always say that you're not interested in going to bars all the time, so while he's doing that, you're going to do something else.

Other than that, I'm not entirely sure what else to suggest.

Hope this helps.

[Anonymous]

Figure out what kind of guy he is right away. If he is a partier, well think about the relationship. Because a lot of my friends are partiers, and let me tell you the party will live on forever for them. You will not.

If he just likes to go out, that's different. Recommend something else like seeing a baseball game. Go downtown at some nice resteraunt. See the theater, orchestra or opera (yes his friends will think he's a p**** but oh well).

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