Does this mean I will never hear from him again? Please help

[Anonymous]

fell in love with this guy,even though I knew he was going to move away.but I did it anyway.he is the first man I ever got intimate with.now,the last time I saw him,i got very emotional,because he has to leave in two weeks from now.when I started crying he started kissing my eyes,forehead and cheeks and told me what great person I am,but this relationship has to end anyway because he is leaving.but when I asked him if he will ever miss me,he said:please stop talking about this.anyway,the whole night was very emotional.so the next day I called him and told him that I will text him my email,and that I expect him to send me his back,he said:that's a good idea,why haven't we thought about this,and yes I will sure give you mine and I will contact you when I come back to the us.but the thing is,he didn't send me his email back,he didn't add me to his email,nothing,also I told him during that phone call that I will miss him,and he laughed a nervous laugh.

[Silky-Slim]

It sounds to me like he is hurt because he has strong emotion for you and didn't want to take it too far before he had to go. Guys are funny in that we will completely break something off before it gets too hard to move on, he simply didn't want to hurt himself or you more than what has already been done. If you continue to communicate he just going to want to be with that much more and might cause either or both of you sevre depression. I know it sounds f*cked up but breaking off communications might be easier on both of you. I know you don't want to hear that, and trust I do know because I work with the woman I love and she is married and honestly it hurts me to go to work everyday. I do my best to hide my emotions but damn near all my co-workers always are asking me what's wrong or saying I look like I got something on my mind, without me even noticing how much it is effecting me. I have thought about quiting so many times but I just can't do because I wouldn't ever see her again, and that's the point I am trying to get at. If I had just quit sooner I would have been able to get over her but now it has gotten to the point where she has changed my entire life. I have told her how I feel and honestly I think I hurt her by doing that because she has revealed a lot to me since and every time we get to the question of her feelings she starts to tear up and rapidly changes the subject. By me keep contact with her is just making things worse for the both of us and it hurts me to hurt her. I now love is a powerful thing but sometimes it can lead to self destruction, I haven't gotten there yet but I have a feeling its not far away and I want to say I don't want anyone else to go through this pain but honestly I think it is a good thing because it builds character.

I guess I still haven't answered the question, my guess is no you might not ever hear from him again if he is smart but love can make people do funny things so you might hear from him again if he truly feels strongly for you. you have to remember moving to a new place can be very unsettleing especially when you have a lot on your mind. I hope I helped you out at least a little and that you will forgive my rant but I just had to say it and honestly wanted to say so much more.

[Asker]

No,no.u can say more if you want to and it won't annoy me honestly.i mean,i wish I could help you the way you are trying to.but all I can do is hear you.it always helps to talk to someone,so, you can talk to me if you want to,and like I said it won't annoy me

[Silky-Slim]

Well, lets just say my emotions have led me to say somethings I regret and it has gotten to the point where I can't even hide my feelings toward her no matter how hard I try. I sometimes wish I never started working there but than I realize I would have never met her and that changes that view. It just really hurts to know you can't have somone especially when nothing or no one makes you happier than them and the thought of waking up to them every morning...

[guats]

It does sound like he wants to move on with his life in a new place. Unfortunately, it does not look like he wants you to be a part of his new life. Send him an update e-mail in a few weeks and see if he responds. If he does not, then take that as a good sign that he does not want to see you anymore.

[Asker]

Thats the problem,i don't have his email.when I gave him mine(over a text),he said that this is a good idea and that he didn't think of it etc.also he said he will send me his back but he didnt.

i mean if he didn't want to hear from me after that night,why did he answer my call the next day?why did he say he wants to know what ill be doing in a few months?thats why I'm so confused.

[reallife15]

This sort of reminds me of my break up with my boyfriend when I cried and asked if we were going to get back together he said yes but he's been acting differently lately more shady almost avoiding me in a sense so I say from this experience guys will sometimes tell you what you wanna hear in the moment but not mean it just so the girl won't freak out more and saying and doing are two different things if he wants to talk to you he will but if not he'll have to miss out. it seems hard now but maybe after this hurdle you'll find someone who was even better because life rolls on and its too short to wait on one person forever.

[joejoe123123]

He may like you, but the fact that he will be out of the country scares him. If he's not able to give 100% to the relationship, he may not want to have one at all.