What if I never see or hear from him again?

[FunnyLady]

My boyfriend and I had a fight the other day. After he said we need time apart and he needs time to think about things, and that he feels it will be good for us. I sent him a reply back with how I feel. He said he really appreciates it. We have exchanged a few texts since our fight. I also asked him how long he felt was okay for time apart. He said just a few days. He said something about sex and how sexual I am. That I have sex on my mind 24/7. I told I don’t, of course. Then I replied something else about sex. He responded saying sex is a big deal to him. To which I responded, “I’m glad you told me that.”

Of course, I’m worried I’ll never see or hear from him again, and if I do, that it’ll be bad. We live in a small town, so I could run into him at some point. How long is a “few days”? I know I’m 42 years old and should be beyond this kind of thinking, but he’s a very special man to me and I haven’t had someone like him in a very long time. I think at any age it would really bother someone. Hurting doesn’t just affect one age group and relationship issues come up regardless. It’s easy to feel anxious. Yes, I know. Keep myself busy, go out and do things. It’s easier said than done and I just don’t feel like it.

Will he come back? Am I worrying for no reason? Will I ever see or hear from him again?

[caring__1]

Unfortunately, many people feel fighting is a normal part of all relationships. They focus on defending themselves or insisting on being heard without considering the potential consequences. Rather than fight in the future, show the other person you care enough to want to understand that person's perspective. We have two ears and one mouth, so we can listen twice as much as we talk.

To raise the likelihood of him returning, share what you've learned from this experience and what you plan on doing differently in the future. Address what you heard his issue to be rather than focus on your issues. Let him know you'd like to explore ways his concerns can be addressed and resolved.

[SecretsofKB]

A few days sounds like no more then a week to me.